16 Tips to Survive Brutal Criticism (and Ask for More) “You suck.” Everyone encounters criticism, whether it is a boss pointing out falling performance, a bad review for your book, or even self-criticism after an embarrassing slip-up. Your ability to digest that criticism and make use of it says a lot about your character. Even better is to be the kind of person who can take a sharp, verbal critique, stand up and ask for more. People are Too Nice Most people won’t tell you what they think of you. I believe it is because most of us have shied away from getting honesty our whole lives. Honesty is a Good Thing, Here’s How to Survive It Here are some tips for surviving the floods of good intentions that might crash upon your ego: Balance Yourself - The salience effect is a cognitive bias where we tend to focus on the most recent or memorable piece of information, ignoring the collective. Now that you have some pain-killers for the attack, here’s how to ask for more:
Stages of Learning to Say "No" Your rating: None Average: 4 (1 vote) One of the most important skills we can learn that will help us manage and fulfill our priorities is to say "No." Once we get there, it becomes easier and easier, but initially it can be extremely awkward and unpopular with others. Knowing the stages we’ll go through can help us realize that what’s happening is natural and that its not just that we can’t seem to do it. Stage 1: Identifying Opportunities In this initial stage we have identified our need to learn to say "No" and have made it a goal. Stage 2: Backing Up This next stage of learning and practicing saying "No" is the most difficult. Stage 3: Doing the Right Thing at the Right Time Within this stage, we have arrived at a place where we are able to say no at the right time: immediately. Author's Bio: Donna Birk is a writer, trainer, coach, and Licensed Social Worker.
Power to Change – 10 Tips to Effective & Active Listening Skills Do you ever need someone to listen to you? Our mentors are available. Listening makes our loved ones feel worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Ordinary conversations emerge on a deeper level, as do our relationships. In our love relationships, greater communication brings greater intimacy. Listening skills fuel our social, emotional and professional success, and studies prove that listening is a skill we can learn. The Technique. While the ideas are largely intuitive, it might take some practice to develop (or re-develop) the skills. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Have you tried and tried but your best is still not good enough? 8. 9. 10. As you work on developing your listening skills, you may feel a bit panicky when there is a natural pause in the conversation. Ironically, as your listening skills improve, so will your aptitude for conversation. Keep your relationship growing: 4 Keys to better communicationHelp!
The Power of Saying, "No" Your rating: None Average: 4.7 (6 votes) ======================= "No" is such a simple word.... ======================= only two letters. Yet saying "No" out loud is harder for most people than saying, "I'll be glad to..." (eleven letters)or "When do you need me to..." Most of us said, "No!" Many of us grow up to be people pleasers. ======================= The unassertive "No" ======================= is accompanied by weak excuses and rationalizations. You might even make up an excuse to support your "No." ======================= The aggressive "No" ======================= is done with contempt. Sometimes the aggressive "No" includes an attack on the person making the request. ======================= The assertive "No" ======================= is simple and direct. ======================= Strategies to make the assertive "No" easier ======================= 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Make it a project to say, "No," to something every day.
Is Your Business Stuck? Use Your Two Most Important Resources Wisely | 42function If you have been at your startup for a few months, or even longer, and you’ve seen a halt in growth, do you know why? Were things going well, only to stop abruptly and make you feel stuck? Just about every business owner goes through it as a result of not adjusting accordingly. Sometimes a way of doing business works great for awhile, but just as business grows, so must our habits and ways of doing business evolve as well. If you are in a phase of your business where things were going great, but you feel stuck, then you probably need to re-adjust. Do you realize what the problem likely is? You don’t use your two most important resources efficiently: time and money. The two main resources of any business is time and money. How much to you spend on advertising costs or other ways of investing in your business? How much time do you spend actually doing work? Re-evaluate what you have to invest in time and money, and where each should go. Example #1: The Freelance Feast or Famine Cyle
The 8 Key Elements of Highly Effective Speech I’d like you to take a moment to the following sentence, taken from a recent article exploring the nature of human consciousness: “Neuroplastic mechanisms relevant to the growing number of empirical studies of the capacity of directed attention and mental effort systematically alter brain function.” Exciting? Hardly! In fact, most of the words you read barely register in your brain, and most of the words you speak barely register in the listener’s brain. In fact, research shows that words are the least important part of communication when you have face-to-face conversations with others. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Effective communication is based on trust, and if we don’t trust the speaker, we’re not going to listen to their words. The tone of your voice is equally important when it comes to understanding what a person is really trying to say. You can easily train your voice to convey more trust to others, and all you have to do is slow down and drop your pitch.
Leadership DynamiX – Executive Coaching, Workshops and Forum What Are MindSkills Techniques? These short carefully crafted techniques are about ‘HOW’ to run your business brain to get better results, learn skills faster and make lasting life changes. Based on accelerated learning, applied behavioural modelling research (NLP) and advances in management psychology. These next (3G) generation techniques stretch from ‘remedial’ (past) to ‘mindful’ (now) to ‘generative’ (future). Clusters - Families of techniques (‘protocols’) - eg. decision-making, delegation, visioning, power, creativity, assertiveness, time management, networking, strategic visioning, gravitas, deep calm, trust, collaboration, and so on). Models - Chaining of ‘clusters’ and ‘protocols’ - eg. How to Join There are four levels of membership for MindSkills Techniques. 1. Boost Results with Some Basics Practice Unless you are very familiar with the approach this basic skill-builder section will help you squeeze more juice out of each pattern. Protocols are the new exercises.
How To Make Your Message SEXI | | CommunicationABCCommunicationABC Simply stating your opinion mostly doesn’t get you where you want to be. It is not about what you say, it is about how you say it. The way to say it, is SEXI. The acronym SEXI stands for State, Explain, Illustrate. Let’s elaborate on that a little more in three steps. A. Your sales pitch, plea or political statement has to start with stating you’re opinion. B. Now you have to explain this opinion by giving sound arguments. C. Your statement becomes more tangible by giving examples, showing statistics or (recent) examples. The SEXI-sequence does not work if your answer is a conditional “yes” or “no”.
NLP Learning Strategy In the previous section we looked at the presuppositions of NLP and introduced the learning strategy around which this entire website is built, a simple metaphor which we labelled the building blocks of NLP. As you're now familiar with the concept of building block upon block, base skill upon base skill we are ready to move on and begin looking at other tools that will assist in learning these skills quickly and easily. A good way to ensure success when rising to meet a challenge such as learning a new skill is to follow these five principles for success:- Know your outcome Take positive action Have enough sensory awareness to know if you're being effective Have behavioural flexibility Operate from a physiology and a psychology of excellence These five principles for success will be explained in more detail on the next page. ^Top | •Home | Next >>
Debate: How can I become good at debating Destroy Limiting Decisions Did you make a limiting decision as you were growing up? Maybe one that said you couldn’t do something that basically everyone else could do, but you decided you were too short, too tall, too rich, too poor, too fat, too skinny, too cute, too ugly, etc. Well, you’ve grown up and you’ve definitely changed since then, but you still seem to *think* that way. Maybe you are still too tall or whatever, and aren’t able to change that fact, but you *can* change the way you think about it. Here’s what you do. Now, visualize yourself backing out of the event, just slowly backing out, and then turning around and looking forward toward the future. Now, come back to the present and go about your life. Author's Bio: ~~~~~~~~~ Copyright 2002, Jan Tincher, All Rights Reserved Worldwide --------------------------------------------------------------- Having problems?
Self-Mastery [ Meta-Web ] [ NLP Self-Help ] [ Best NLP Online ] [Secrets of Success ] [Heroic Efforts ] [NLP Glossary ] [Best of NLP Online ] [NLP Self-Help ] [NLP FAQ ] Self Mastery Scripts Introduction This set contains 3 word-for-word self-hypnosis induction scripts to utilize a technique that Stever Robbins proposed. Script I asks the subconscious to sort through a set of events, pick out the ten best instances and install the best techniques from those instances into your future actions. This script is idiosyncratic because it incorporates the sequence I have been using since I was a teenager to go into trance. During the relaxation suggestions (fractional relaxation) you can tense then relax the part of the body to be relaxed to enhance the contrast and further anchor 1000 3 as a relaxation mantra. Script II - Next Step Modeling Others This message contains a variation on the word-for-word self-hypnosis induction script that encourages the subconscious to model others who show self-mastery. 1.