10 Strategies to Deal with Challenging and Attention Seeking Behavior Today's question for Dr. B (our resident early development specialist) is about challenging and attention seeking behavior in children. It was submitted by Kelly (from Dances with Chaos), who would like to perform an exorcism on her tantrum prone four-year-old (pictured left) before the little devil drives her out of her mind. Editor's Note: If the picture weren't cropped, I'm almost positive you would see the word "HANDFUL" hanging directly over his head. The strategies were written specifically for Kelly's question, but Dr. Dear Dr. On some days I have a sweet, adorable four-year-old little boy. Is he just testing me in “normal” ways? And what can I do in the meantime to keep from going insane?? Please help.— Kelly Dear Kelly, Challenging behavior is often triggered when a child is denied something they want or when a demand is placed on them that they can’t or don’t want to do. 5 Effective Strategies to Prevent and Respond to Bad Behavior Used to Obtain Desirable Items or Attention: 1. 2.
* She Makes a Home * 7 Ways to Teach Self-Control Dr. Scott Turansky offers moms practical, real-life advice for many of parenting’s greatest challenges. read bio One of the primary tasks of early childhood is to develop self discipline. Parents often find themselves correcting their children for interrupting, being wild, not following instructions or for not controlling their hands or mouths. These all require self discipline or self-control. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Some parents try to give their children an easier life than they had or they try to make their children feel good at the expense of good character. Self discipline is a primary quality that will help children be successful in life. Related Articles on Self-Control: End your day: Talking with your child... In what area do you have the toughest time with self-control? Used with permission from Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller. © 2007 iMom.
Teacher Lesson Plans, Printables & Worksheets by Grade or Subject - TeacherVision.com Attitude Makeover: Irresponsible Antidote: Responsibility, Trustworthiness, Reliability"How was I supposed to know it was due today?" Dear Dr. Borba, I'm ashamed to admit this, but our eleven year old is so irresponsible. She never takes care of her things and needs constant reminders to do her homework. Most of the time, my husband or I end up finishing it – it's almost easier then listening to her excuses. We want her to get good grades, but now I think we're going about it all wrong. – Courtney L., a mom of three from Tucson, Arizona Any of these sound familiar? Kids with an irresponsible attitude rarely stop to consider how their actions affect others, and so their attitude is selfish. Emergency Attitude Stop immediately doing anything that compensates for your child's irresponsibility. Bad Attitude Alert Before reforming your kid's irresponsible ways, you need to analyze the beginnings of her bad attitude. Diagnosis What exactly does your kid do or say that is irresponsible? Why. What. Who. When. Where. How.
San Diego Professional Organizer | Home Organizing | Virtual Organizing Consulting | Helena Alkhas Interrupting Your Child's Interruption Habit Most parents have experienced this very familiar scene. You are on the telephone filing an insurance claim or setting up a doctor appointment. Meanwhile there is a constant tugging on your sleeve or tapping on your shoulder. Your tyke might be so bold as to actually get in your face and start talking over you. Someone wants your attention, he or she wants it now, and it is absolutely imperative that you are informed about Spongebob and Patrick catching jellyfish in Bikini Bottom. Look at It from their Point of View We must realize that if we look at life through our child’s perspective, Spongebob is just as important as your insurance agent is. Try These for Starters There are many suggestions on the road to good manners for children. Let your child know when you are about to make an important call before you actually start dialing. Practice good manners yourself because children often will do as they see. Reasoning Will Work With Persistence
The Complete Guide to Imperfect Homemaking Irresponsible Children: Why Nagging and Lecturing Dont Work If you’re like most parents, you probably spend enormous amounts of time and energy teaching about the importance of being responsible. You encourage it, you explain why it’s important, and you remind your child again and again why he should do the things he’s supposed to do. You complain, nag and lecture, but to no avail. It probably seems like you’re talking to a brick wall, because your kid still won’t clean his room, empty the dishwasher, complete his homework or apologize to his little brother unless you threaten and punish. Instead of learning responsibility, your child is learning how to function in reaction to you. Why is this such a hard lesson to teach—and why does learning to be responsible seem so hard for kids? You’re probably saying, “That’s absurd. So what does this have to do with you not accepting responsibility for your own behavior? Related: How to parent effectively and calmly. Here’s an example. Related: Let consequences work for you. 1. 2. 3. 4.
Mom Blog Money Blog Build family bonds and raise confident children Playful Parenting is an insightful look at the benefits of play and how to use play versus power trips to get desired actions. He offers tips and techniques for parents to let go and play more, all while underscoring the value of play in family bonding. Why kids need play Cohen explains, "For adults, play means leisure. But for children, play is more like their job." How children discover the world and develop confidence as they try on adult roles and skills.How we serve our needs for attachment, affection and closeness. Play versus power trips Playful Parenting offers so many great examples of how parents can use play to get desired behaviors or outcomes, instead of resorting to punishment and power trips. Cooling off before reacting, making a connection between the behavior and their needs, choosing a meeting on the couch versus a time out.Instead of digging your heels in with a "Because I said so" mentality, find ways to use play to break tension and get what you want.
All-In-One Moving Guide: Printables, Checklists to Organize Your Move Moving frequently accompanies some of the biggest moments in life: Setting up your first apartment. Buying your first home. Upsizing. That’s where this Moving Guide comes in. Download (PDF, 2.08MB) Here’s a break down of the Moving Guide: > Change of Address Checklist A handy checklist of all the people, government agencies and businesses you’ll want to inform of your move. > Week-by-Week Moving Timeline A step-by-step master timeline to keep everything and everyone on track. > Moving Company Contact Sheet A dedicated place to jot down notes on potential moving companies, including their estimates and any special services. > Home Inventory Checklist A room-by-room checklist to help you take stock of all the stuff you’re moving. > Printable Moving Labels Home-printable labels to help keep boxes organized and moving helpers on task. > First-Night Tips Tips on settling in your first night, with advice on turning your new place into a home. The act of moving doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Related posts:
Spoiled rotten: Why you shouldn't coddle your kids Don't give your child everything As parents, it's natural to want to give your children everything you can. After all, we want them to be happy. "Don't get caught up in the falsehood that giving your children everything equates to love," says former criminal prosecutor Loni Coombs. "When you hand your child everything, they grow up with the misconception that they can and should be given things for the rest of their lives — perfect scores, the most expensive car, a management position as their first job. Are you raising a spoiled brat? Instill a strong work ethic A strong work ethic is important for adults and for children. "Instill in them the belief and the ability to get what they want by setting goals, being creative and working hard," says Coombs. "Tell me what you want, and I'll tell you how to do without it." "Support your child with encouragement and recognition of their focus and persistence. Be consistent with expectations and consequences Give and get respect
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