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Parenting styles observe in Singapore

Parenting styles observe in Singapore
SINGAPORE: It really didn’t seem that long ago when the Stop at Two campaign was in full swing, warning parents in Singapore that “the more you have, the less they (each) get”. Yet, the challenge today isn’t to discourage families from having many children, but to coax or even cajole young Singaporeans to get married earlier and have them. Compared to a few decades before, family sizes are shrinking as new parents tend to have less children. Couples satisfy themselves with one or two kids being the norm, and three the exception. These days, the sex of the child is also of lesser importance. While Singaporeans traditionally prefer a boy to continue the family’s lineage, it seems more couples are waking up to the trend that daughters make more caring, homely and reliable caregivers in their old age. Family dynamics are also shifting, as families get smaller. Those who shower love and affection excessively, unknowingly nurture an unhealthy symbiotic relationship between parent and child.

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