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10 Ways to Complain Less and Be Happier

10 Ways to Complain Less and Be Happier
“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb We all complain. Even if you argue that you are the happiest person in the world, you still complain sometimes. Sometimes we complain without even realizing it, but rarely is it ever helpful. Sure, a common complaint can bond two people who may have nothing in common, but too much complaining would just break down the relationship. For example, I once had a friend who constantly griped about her health, her family, her relationships, school, and the list goes on. No matter what I said or did, it never seemed to cheer her up. So what happens if you are the one stuck in the negative attitude? It’s easier to complain instead of fixing a problem, like quitting a job or having a talk with someone. Here are some tips to stop complaining and ditch the negative thoughts to focus on finding solutions: 1. This is definitely easier said than done. This requires a new practice of being mindful.

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