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How to find true friends (and love) in 45 minutes

How to find true friends (and love) in 45 minutes
David Rowan Editor of Wired magazine This article was featured in Times Magazine, 5 November. There's a shorter version in the Ideas Bank section on the current Wired magazine. Can you make someone become intimately close to you -- even fall in love with you -- in less than an hour? Dr Aron -- known to friends as Art -- runs the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University on the north shore of Long Island, east of New York City, and he has love on his mind. Back in 1997, Aron and colleagues published a paper in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin on "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness". They arranged volunteers in pairs, and gave them a list of 36 questions that, one by one, they were both asked to answer openly over an hour "in a kind of sharing game". But would the "fast friends" experiment also work with more worldly senior executives and entrepreneurs? Related:  Self improvment

10 Very Cheap Holidays: Paradise for Pennies Cheap doesn’t have to mean nasty, and in these challenging times budget options are more sought-after than ever. Holidays are no exception, and we are here to show you that you can have an amazing holiday on a shoestring budget! Some options are more obvious, while others will take you beyond the usual holiday ideas and perhaps beyond your comfort zone! Taking a very cheap holiday can require some stretching of the mind as well as the budget, but the reward is a unique and exciting break that you will never forget. Here are ten ways to have a big holiday on a little budget… Workaway Workaway is an organisation which allows travellers to find property owners abroad who are willing to provide food and lodging in exchange for a few hours help. WWOOFing WWOOF is a network of organisations which aim to provide ‘World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms’ for travellers wishing to find cheap board and lodging while experiencing various types of organic farming. Housesitting Couch Surfing House Swap

The Secret To A Lasting Relationship When a relationship becomes a one-way way street, it ends up at a dead end sooner or later. Learn to keep the traffic flowing both ways with conversation, forgiveness and mindful awareness to keep your relationship growing well into the future. It all starts with that inner conversation you have with yourself. Be aware of it, and find how easy it is to nurture your relationship in the direction you want it to go. At one time or another, we all transfer the frustrations from our day onto our partners. That doesn't mean you have to stop venting. Just acknowledging that you've had a bad day can help you change your tone from exasperation to understanding. It doesn't have to be a bigger deal than that. If you feel defensive, ask yourself what you're afraid of. Un-Filter Your World The world you know is filtered through your hopes, dreams, fears and worries. Forgive the Imperfections of Life Forgive yourself for not getting everything done in your day. Sow the Seeds of Love

The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon You may have heard about Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon before. In fact, you probably learned about it for the first time very recently. If not, then you just might hear about it again very soon. Baader-Meinhof is the phenomenon where one happens upon some obscure piece of information—often an unfamiliar word or name—and soon afterwards encounters the same subject again, often repeatedly. Anytime the phrase “That’s so weird, I just heard about that the other day” would be appropriate, the utterer is hip-deep in Baader-Meinhof. Most people seem to have experienced the phenomenon at least a few times in their lives, and many people encounter it with such regularity that they anticipate it upon the introduction of new information. The phenomenon bears some similarity to synchronicity, which is the experience of having a highly meaningful coincidence, such as having someone telephone you while you are thinking about them. The reason for this is our brains’ prejudice towards patterns.

Hymn to the Immortal Wind Stripes and polka dots and florals, oh my! I’m crazy about this vibrant, pattern-filled editorial via Harper’s Bazaar, shot by Tommy Ton. And those incredibly chic green floral pants by J.Crew?! Definitely at the very […] 60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

Pirate game From Howard Pyle's Book of Pirates The pirate game is a simple mathematical game. It illustrates how, if assumptions conforming to a homo economicus model of human behaviour hold, outcomes may be surprising. It is a multi-player version of the ultimatum game. The game[edit] There are 5 rational pirates, A, B, C, D and E. The pirates have a strict order of seniority: A is superior to B, who is superior to C, who is superior to D, who is superior to E. The pirate world's rules of distribution are thus: that the most senior pirate should propose a distribution of coins. Pirates base their decisions on three factors. The result[edit] It might be expected intuitively that Pirate A will have to allocate little if any to himself for fear of being voted off so that there are fewer pirates to share between. This is apparent if we work backwards: if all except D and E have been thrown overboard, D proposes 100 for himself and 0 for E. A: 98 coinsB: 0 coinsC: 1 coinD: 0 coinsE: 1 coin[2] See also[edit]

Ceremonial Bliss Gray Malin Giveaway Oh, how we love Gray Malin‘s ability to transport us to far away destinations like Sydney, Lisbon, Rio and even Marfa. After swooning over his À la Plage, À la Piscine collection a few months ago, […] Pinky Swear Current obsession? Pinky rings. 30 Habits that Will Change your Life Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve. The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life. You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month. Health habits Exercise 30 minutes every day. Productivity habits Use an inbox system. Personal Development habits Read 1 book per week. Career habits Start a blog. What do you think? Update: A reader put together a downloadable copy of all these habits.

The Two-Envelope Paradox | techiferous The Paradox You just finished some yard work for your eccentric neighbor, Mr. Grimes. He prepares some lemonade for you while you rest at his kitchen table. “Thank you for your help today,” he says as he places two envelopes on the table in front of you. You pick one of the envelopes and open it. Should you switch envelopes? Since one envelope contains twice as much as the other, this means that the other envelope has either $10 or $40. What’s going on? Spoiler Alert If you want to chew on this puzzle for a while, then don’t read any further. This is a famous paradox and it’s one of my favorites. Useless Information When you first opened the envelope and saw the $20, you still had no idea what was in the other envelope. However, as far as your decision to switch is concerned, the only useful information is information that helps you determine whether the other envelope has more or less than your current envelope. Rolling an Eight Perhaps that explanation didn’t satisfy your intuition enough.

Seven Speaking Tips That Beat “Pretend Your Audience Is Naked" Aggh. Everyone showed up clothed! Once upon a time, I suffered from glossophobia. This affliction touches billions. It's the fear of public speaking , even to a tiny group. I conquered it by discovering what makes people smile, nod, and listen carefully, because nothing calms you down faster than an interested audience. This is what I've learned. Children plea for them at night, and adults crave them, too. They want to be respected. This principle also underlies another rule of effective speaking: Dress like your audience, but just a little bit better." {*style:<i>Don't try to impress them. </i>*} If you truly want to help your listeners--by informing or motivating them, or improving their lives--they will care and listen. This recalls a favorite tip: We mistrust people who won't look us in the eyes--even if our eyes are among over 200 sets in a room. If you look each person in the eye for a few seconds, you make each person feel important--a feeling that every person craves. . .

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