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How to find true friends (and love) in 45 minutes

How to find true friends (and love) in 45 minutes
David Rowan Editor of Wired magazine This article was featured in Times Magazine, 5 November. There's a shorter version in the Ideas Bank section on the current Wired magazine. Can you make someone become intimately close to you -- even fall in love with you -- in less than an hour? Dr Aron -- known to friends as Art -- runs the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University on the north shore of Long Island, east of New York City, and he has love on his mind. Back in 1997, Aron and colleagues published a paper in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin on "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness". They arranged volunteers in pairs, and gave them a list of 36 questions that, one by one, they were both asked to answer openly over an hour "in a kind of sharing game". But would the "fast friends" experiment also work with more worldly senior executives and entrepreneurs? Related:  new sorting pearlSelf improvment

Oblique Strategies Origin and history[edit] The entire story of Oblique Strategies, with the content of all the cards, exhaustive history and commentary, is documented in a website widely acknowledged as the authoritative source, put together by musician and educator Gregory Alan Taylor.[4] The text of Schmidt's "The Thoughts Behind the Thoughts" was published by Mindmade Books in 2012. Design and use[edit] Each card contains a phrase or cryptic remark which can be used to break a deadlock or dilemma situation. Some are specific to music composition; others are more general. Use an old idea.State the problem in words as clearly as possible.Only one element of each kind.What would your closest friend do? From the introduction to the 2001 edition: These cards evolved from separate observations of the principles underlying what we were doing. Cultural impact[edit] Editions and variations[edit] See also[edit] References[edit] External links[edit]

10 Very Cheap Holidays: Paradise for Pennies Cheap doesn’t have to mean nasty, and in these challenging times budget options are more sought-after than ever. Holidays are no exception, and we are here to show you that you can have an amazing holiday on a shoestring budget! Some options are more obvious, while others will take you beyond the usual holiday ideas and perhaps beyond your comfort zone! Taking a very cheap holiday can require some stretching of the mind as well as the budget, but the reward is a unique and exciting break that you will never forget. Here are ten ways to have a big holiday on a little budget… Workaway Workaway is an organisation which allows travellers to find property owners abroad who are willing to provide food and lodging in exchange for a few hours help. WWOOFing WWOOF is a network of organisations which aim to provide ‘World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms’ for travellers wishing to find cheap board and lodging while experiencing various types of organic farming. Housesitting Couch Surfing House Swap

DIY Drippy Nails We were immediately inspired the moment we saw bare nails with blood-like, drippy polish accompany Prabal Gurung‘s spring collection at New York Fashion Week. Halloween is one of our favorite holidays and thus, the timing couldn’t have been better to recreate this deliciously daring DIY for our phalanges. Though a more vampy, burgundy color went down the runway, I went for more vibrant red . . . but the best part about this tutorial is that you can make it your own with just about any color, for any season! You’ll need: Dip the toothpick into the nail polish bottle so that the tip collects a round bead of polish. Place the bead of polish on a bare nail and drag it upwards, creating a tapered line. Create two to three more tapered lines, re-dipping the toothpick into the polish each time. Reload the toothpick with polish and drag a line across the tip of the nail. Repeat the steps on the other nine fingers and voila, you’re done!! (all images by HonestlyWTF)

The Secret To A Lasting Relationship When a relationship becomes a one-way way street, it ends up at a dead end sooner or later. Learn to keep the traffic flowing both ways with conversation, forgiveness and mindful awareness to keep your relationship growing well into the future. It all starts with that inner conversation you have with yourself. Be aware of it, and find how easy it is to nurture your relationship in the direction you want it to go. At one time or another, we all transfer the frustrations from our day onto our partners. That doesn't mean you have to stop venting. Just acknowledging that you've had a bad day can help you change your tone from exasperation to understanding. It doesn't have to be a bigger deal than that. If you feel defensive, ask yourself what you're afraid of. Un-Filter Your World The world you know is filtered through your hopes, dreams, fears and worries. Forgive the Imperfections of Life Forgive yourself for not getting everything done in your day. Sow the Seeds of Love

Guitar Songs to Impress Girls Looking for some songs you can sing to impress girls? Then scroll down as the article provides a great compilation of some such guitar songs. Any problem you can't solve with a good guitar, is either unsolvable or isn't a problem. ~ Anonymous. So true, isn't it? When it comes to impressing girls and improving your love life, a guitar can be your best friend. Since most girls love men with talent, playing a guitar is one such talent that can make them fall for you. Following is a collection of time-tested and trusted songs to impress girls and you can choose any one of them to do so.

The Art of Chance-Opportunism in Creativity and Scientific Discovery: A 1957 Guide by Maria Popova “To be perfectly original one should think much and read little, and this is impossible, for one must have read before one has learnt to think.” What a magical Rube Goldberg machine of discovery literature is — the original “inter-net,” if you will, with the allusions, citations, and references in one work opening doors to countless others. One recurring emphasis by Beveridge is the eclecticism of influence necessary for true originality and the idea that creativity is combining and connecting things: Successful scientists have often been people with wide interests. Beveridge also repeatedly insists on method, on process over product, illustrating his point by citing a number of famous scientists. Good methods can teach us to develop and use to better purpose the faculties with which nature has endowed us, while poor methods may prevent us from turning them to good account. Bernard offers validation for the idea that ignorance fuels science by observing: Donating = Loving

Hymn to the Immortal Wind Stripes and polka dots and florals, oh my! I’m crazy about this vibrant, pattern-filled editorial via Harper’s Bazaar, shot by Tommy Ton. And those incredibly chic green floral pants by J.Crew?! Definitely at the very […] Zombie Manor House Experience - book online with free delivery | Wish.co.uk Buying multiple tickets? Save £24 on each pair you buy. Discounts are applied automatically in your basket. From the people who brought you the Zombie Shopping Mall comes the Zombie Manor House. You’ve heard of Downton Abbey? Manor houses tend to be the domain of divorced weekend dads desperate to win over the love of their ambiguous offspring in a craven attempt to get one over on the woman they used to love. Something has gone very wrong in deepest, darkest Cheshire. It’s up to you and the rest of ‘Grey Squadron’ to take instruction and investigate. You’ll be trained in all aspects of zombie hurting by a large man who is adept at shouting. Upstairs and downstairs you’ll trawl the fearsome, abandoned halls, not knowing what lurks behind those ornamental balustrades and praying it isn’t one of those shuffling, unpatriotic goons of Satan. Where is the Zombie Manor House and how do I get there? How many people can take part? Do you take group bookings? When does it run?

60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

50 Smoothies 1. Banana Blend 2 bananas, 1/2 cup each vanilla yogurt and milk, 2 teaspoons honey, a pinch of cinnamon and 1 cup ice. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

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