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Jedi Mind Tricks: 17 Lesser Known Ways to Persuade People

Jedi Mind Tricks: 17 Lesser Known Ways to Persuade People
Want to know how to persuade people online and get what you want? The power of influence is usually all that separates the successful from everyone else. These are some tactics, discovered through psychological research, that you have probably not yet heard about, but have the potential to increase your persuasive abilities. I’m not going to cover reciprocity, scarcity or social proof and all those widely known persuasion principles. You already know all about those (in case you don’t, stop everything and read this book by Cialdini). Related: How Nike’s Making Persuasive Product Pages 1. The best way to persuade audiences that are not inclined to agree with you, is to talk fast. Want to boost persuasive power? Don Moore from Carnegie Mellon’s Center for Behavioral Decision Research has published research showing that confidence even trumps past accuracy in earning the trust of others. People naturally associate confidence with expertise. 2. Light swearing, that is. Image credit 3. 4. 5. 6. Related:  Communication (Persuasion and Impression)

Confidence tricks Techniques > Confidence tricks Articles | Examples | So what There is, according to legend, a sucker born every day, and of course there are many confidence tricksters around who are all too ready to relieve them of their wealth. Two main levers of confidence tricksters are gullibility and greed. They will exploit the incautious and naive and offer something for nothing as an appeal to our natural desires. Articles Gullibility: Are there easy targets? Examples There are more con tricks than days in the year. The Antique Toy: Cheating the cheater. So what So for goodness sake be careful where you place your trust. Also be very cautious of things that are more ordinary. And of course don't stoop to harming others in such ways as these. See also Confidence tricks links

35 Life Hacks! Free Perks, Snarky Tricks and More « Wonderment Blog 9GAG's infographic teaches us all sorts of conveniences and short cuts to daily life, urawaza style. Some aren't complete revelations (the first hanger trick below), but others are pretty cool (if they work!). A few I wouldn't mind trying: free wifi at the airportice cold drink in 3 minutes flatgo straight to your floor in an elevator HOW TO CHEAT AT EVERYTHING Over lunch with Simon Lovell, a fascinating former card shark, Allison Schrager learns all sorts of things about how swindlers operate ... Special to MORE INTELLIGENT LIFE "I can spot someone's weakness a mile away. In any room I can pick out the best target," says Simon Lovell, reformed con artist and famed magician, when asked over lunch about the root of his talents. "Take that woman over there." "Or that man over there, over-dressed, too neat, over-confident, thinks he is too smart to be taken." "But ultimately, anyone can be conned, if you have the balls to do it." Simon Lovell should know. Presently, instead of subjecting people to cons, Mr Lovell stars in a one-man off-Broadway show, "Strange and Unusual Hobbies". "I could sell shit at an anti-scat party," he says, "you have to figure out someone's wants and needs and convince them what you have will fill their emotional void." It requires avid study of psychology and body language. Con men tend to be excellent conversationalists.

Perfect Persuasive Messages Craft messages that change minds using these 20 principles of persuasion, all based on established psychological research. Perfection is hard to achieve in any walk of life and persuasion is no different. It relies on many things going just right at the crucial moment; the perfect synchronisation of source, message and audience. But even if perfection is unlikely, we all need to know what to aim for. To bring you the current series on the psychology of persuasion I’ve been reading lots of research, much more than is covered in recent posts. Here are the most important points for crafting the perfect persuasive message, all of which have scientific evidence to back them up. Multiple, strong arguments: the more arguments, the more persuasive, but overall persuasive messages should be balanced, as two-sided arguments fare better than their one-sided equivalents (as long as counter-arguments are shot down).Relevance: persuasive messages should be personally relevant to the audience.

13 Habits of Exceptionally Likable People Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ). In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 adjectives based on their perceived significance to likeability. These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. Related: 9 Things Successful People Won't Do We did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that emotionally intelligent people engage in that make them so likable. 1. The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

10 Daily Habits Of Successful, Intelligent People | YourTango By Brenda Della Casa There are some who believe that successful people spend their weekends working overtime, but you'd be mistaken to equate success with a workaholic mindset. The truth is that most of those who are successful use their weekends as a way to productively unwind and connect with themselves, their loved ones, and their goals. According to Laura Vanderkam, author of What the Most Successful People Do on the Weekend, successful people value the importance of productive relaxation, which allows them to recharge and reconnect with themselves and their goals. 1. While they may not get out of bed at their normal 5:30 a.m., they're also not crawling out from under-the-covers at noon. 2. Whether it's reading a book in the sunshine at the park, visiting a local farmer's market, scheduling brunch with a friend, or indulging in a passion project, commit to your leisure and make a plan; the opportunities for a weekly staycation are endless. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Also on HuffPost:

Here's the science behind first impressions — and how to make up for a bad one. This is Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, and she's going to help us understand why first impressions are so important. GIFs from Big Think. Dr. Grant Halvorson is a social psychologist and associate director of the Motivation Science Center at Columbia Business School. Confirmation bias is the brain's tendency to seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs. This magical button delivers Upworthy stories to you on Facebook: Confirmation bias is something that affects us all. But it's the primacy effect that explains why our brains really emphasize the first information we receive about a person or topic. The primacy effect is kind of like the overzealous sibling of confirmation bias. You know how people stress the importance of first impressions? Here's why they're right, according to science: Thanks to the primacy effect and confirmation bias, first impressions get a whole lot of weight when it comes to how we perceive (and are perceived by) other people. Dr. Why?

Make a Great Impression Curb Conversational Narcissism He's talking about his new Subaru, which reminds you of the battle you waged—and won—with that smarmy Hertz-rental-car dealer in Miami last month. This "faux segue" is a big no-no, says psychologist and business consultant Valerie White. "We are tempted to share impressive things about ourselves, but the one idea you should keep in mind is 'How am I making the other person feel?' " Actively encourage others to talk about themselves, and respond genuinely—without bringing it back to you. Don't Betray Your Anxiety "If you're not quick-witted or well-versed in certain subjects, you can still make a great impression," White says. Fake a Sunny Mood "Be yourself" is solid first-impression advice from cognitive scientists and self-help gurus alike. The Eyes Have It If you want to get to know a stranger, break with body language conventions by catching her eye for more than a second. Get in Sync Minerva Studio/Shutterstock Use Flattery, Sparingly The Do-Over

A shy person’s guide to making (and surviving) small talk A few weeks into kindergarten, my teacher contacted my mother to express her concern over my behavior. “Mrs. Vendetti,” she began, “I don’t want to cause alarm but I think there’s something wrong with your daughter. She doesn’t talk to anyone. 1) Plan conversation topics ahead of time. I’m not suggesting you should memorize a list of responses like some telemarketer trying to predict their customer’s response. 2) Ask a lot of questions. Nothing causes more distress than the dreaded “awkward silence.” 3) Actually listen to their responses. When it comes to talking with strangers, half of the battle is attentively listening and constructing follow up questions. 4) Fake it ’til you make it. Consider every conversation you have with a stranger as preparation for that future acting career you secretly dream of pursuing. 5) Smile. Smiling is a godsend.