How to Rewire Your Brain to Be More Kind Toward Others Kindness is the state of caring about other people’s well-being and taking action to help make other people’s lives better and happier. It is a social glue that allows us to connect with others and build meaningful relationships with them When someone does something kind for us, we like them more and we want to cooperate with them more. When we do something kind for someone, we earn their trust and respect, and we feel better about ourselves for being a good person. Kindness is a reciprocal relationship. It becomes a cycle that strengthens our bond with friends, family, lovers, coworkers, and acquaintances. The more we practice kindness, the easier it is. Every thought and action we do fires neurons in our brain. Here are scientifically supported ways we can increase our kindness toward others. Get your intentions right Having good intentions is the first step toward being kinder toward others and building positive relationships with them. See from the other person’s perspective
7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About Honesty is the best policy, right? But we’re all guilty of telling “little white lies” sometimes. Regardless, there are certain things in life it’s important to be honest about. Here are 7 of them. Your guilty pleasures. Everyone has a guilty pleasure or two. Your struggles. The sooner you honestly assess the things you’re struggling with, the sooner you can find ways to make your life better. Your free time. How do you spend your free time? Your health. If you think eating junk food all day and not exercising is going to lead to a fulfilling life, guess again. Your work. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day monotony of working life. Your family. You can’t pick your family, which means you’re stuck with the one you have. Your habits. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is they focus too much on the expected outcome rather than changing the underlying behavior. When did being productive get so complicated?
If You Want A Certain Culture, Then Act That Way If you want a certain culture, then act that way. Here’s a nice little nugget of wisdom from one of our favourite organisational thought leaders at the moment, Henry Cloud. The message is simple. If you want a certain culture, then do more of that deed. A culture is powerful. Hat tip to Sonja Blingaut for finding this. Self-compassion - A Healthier Way of Relating to Yourself To Clear Negative Thoughts, Physically Throw Them Away: Study Bothered by negative thoughts? Clearing your mind of them could be as simple as writing them down and physically throwing them away, according to a new study, published in the journal Psychological Science. "At some level, it can sound silly. But we found that it really works -- by physically throwing away or protecting your thoughts, you influence how you end up using those thoughts," study researcher Richard Petty, of Ohio State University, said in a statement. Petty conducted the study along with Spanish researchers from the Universidad Autónoma de Madrid. After writing down these thoughts, all of them were asked to read them back over and think about them. Researchers found that for the students who were not asked to throw away their written thoughts on their self-body image, what they had written down seemed to have an effect on how they rated their body image afterward. Also on HuffPost:
60 Small Ways To Improve Your Life In The Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.
The Elegant Secret To Self-Discipline Despite my lofty ethical and financial aspirations, I developed a tragic ice cream habit during the summer. There are all kinds of long- and short-term problems with this: it’s bad for my health, morally dubious to say the least, and totally anti-frugal — a big no-no for my new career as a tightfisted writer. My justification was always pretty lame. I would explain to myself that I’m about to stop doing this, therefore it doesn’t matter if I do it right now. If I had given the angel on the other shoulder a chance to rebut, she would have explained the foolish tradeoff I was making. Only a fool would choose the first option, but when faced with certain frozen desserts, or other present-moment incentives I often become a fool, and maybe you do too. Self-discipline is time travel I have a beautiful banana sitting beside my laptop right now. It’s sitting about six inches from the edge of my desk and a foot from the front. There is often much more at stake than bananas and marshmallows.
Fake It Till You Make It: 10 Ways To Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t) “Original Fake” Photo Credit: courtesy of MashKulture Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle? Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right. And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right. Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Same with confidence. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of self belonging. Start with any of the 10 items on this list, and start feeling better inside out today! Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING. Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are? Don’t Forget To Follow PickTheBrain On Twitter! Related Articles:
How To Change Your Life: A User's Guide ‘You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.’ ~Mike Murdock By Leo Babauta Start with a simple statement: what do you want to be? Are you hoping to someday be a writer, a musician, a designer, a programmer, a polyglot, a carpenter, a manga artist, an entrepreneur, an expert at something? How do you get there? Do you set yourself a big goal to complete by the end of the year, or in three months? I’m going to lay down the law here, based on many many experiments I’ve done in the last 7 years: nothing will change unless you make a daily change. I’ve tried weekly action steps, things that I do every other day, big bold monthly goals, lots of other permutations. If you’re not willing to make it a daily change, you don’t really want to change your life in this way. So make a daily change. How to Turn an Aspiration Into a Daily Change Let’s name a few aspirations: How do you turn those lofty ideas into daily changes? You get the idea. How to Implement Daily Changes
!Complete Self-Help Directory SelfGrowth.com is the most complete guide to Self Improvement Information on the Internet. We cover over 250 topics and have over 100,000 ways and methods to improve your life. This page contains a complete listing all of the topics covered in alphabetical order. For each topic, we provide articles, websites, experts and products for you to review. Browse below to find the right topic and information to improve your life. 12 Step Programs The 12-step program is a set of principles for recovery from addictive, compulsive, or behavioral problems, originally used in Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) in the 1930s. A Course in Miracles Considered by many of its students to be their "spiritual path," the book A Course in Miracles has sold over 1.6 million copies since its appearance in 1975. Abundance No matter how much or how little you have in your life, you can feel complete by manifesting the quality of abundance. Body Image Body Image is an individual's concept of his or her own body.