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How To Give A Good Compliment

How To Give A Good Compliment
If you see a lot of posts about communication at Life Coaches Blog, it’s not because I’m good at it, but because I was a real social nerd (some of my friends will say I’m still one :P). More than a few people who’ve seen me speak have been surprised, but I’m an introvert by nature and an extrovert by training. I’ve had to pick up these skills to overcome my awkward social skills and that’s why I like to share what I’ve found to work, and what I want to learn more about. Here’s something I’ve found to help me open up conversations, give people a lift, and raise my self-esteem at the same time. How To Give A Good Compliment There’s nothing like a warm, sincere compliment to make your day. 1) Make your compliment specific. “That necklace looks really good on you” makes a bigger impact compared to “you look really good today”. 2) Back up your compliment. Don’t just stop at “that necklace looks really good on you”. 3) Ask a question with your compliment. Featured Related:  Life tips

How to Rewire Your Brain to Be More Kind Toward Others Kindness is the state of caring about other people’s well-being and taking action to help make other people’s lives better and happier. It is a social glue that allows us to connect with others and build meaningful relationships with them When someone does something kind for us, we like them more and we want to cooperate with them more. When we do something kind for someone, we earn their trust and respect, and we feel better about ourselves for being a good person. Kindness is a reciprocal relationship. It becomes a cycle that strengthens our bond with friends, family, lovers, coworkers, and acquaintances. The more we practice kindness, the easier it is. Every thought and action we do fires neurons in our brain. Here are scientifically supported ways we can increase our kindness toward others. Get your intentions right Having good intentions is the first step toward being kinder toward others and building positive relationships with them. See from the other person’s perspective

HOW TO CHEAT AT EVERYTHING Over lunch with Simon Lovell, a fascinating former card shark, Allison Schrager learns all sorts of things about how swindlers operate ... Special to MORE INTELLIGENT LIFE "I can spot someone's weakness a mile away. "Take that woman over there." "Or that man over there, over-dressed, too neat, over-confident, thinks he is too smart to be taken." "But ultimately, anyone can be conned, if you have the balls to do it." Simon Lovell should know. Presently, instead of subjecting people to cons, Mr Lovell stars in a one-man off-Broadway show, "Strange and Unusual Hobbies". "I could sell shit at an anti-scat party," he says, "you have to figure out someone's wants and needs and convince them what you have will fill their emotional void." It requires avid study of psychology and body language. Mr Lovell draws people in by mirroring their body language. Con men tend to be excellent conversationalists. Just then we are interrupted by our waiter. A favourite con of Mr Lovell's is called the Cross.

healthy vs toxic love 7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About Honesty is the best policy, right? But we’re all guilty of telling “little white lies” sometimes. Regardless, there are certain things in life it’s important to be honest about. Here are 7 of them. Your guilty pleasures. Everyone has a guilty pleasure or two. Your struggles. The sooner you honestly assess the things you’re struggling with, the sooner you can find ways to make your life better. Your free time. How do you spend your free time? Your health. If you think eating junk food all day and not exercising is going to lead to a fulfilling life, guess again. Your work. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day monotony of working life. Your family. You can’t pick your family, which means you’re stuck with the one you have. Your habits. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is they focus too much on the expected outcome rather than changing the underlying behavior. When did being productive get so complicated?

18 Secrets To Being Undeniably Attractive 1. Attractiveness has almost nothing to do with how you look physically, though your natural physical disposition does play a small role. It’s mostly, if not entirely, about how you put yourself together and how you behave. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him." I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. What's wrong with Nice Guys? Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. Nice Guys go overboard. They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions.

If You Want A Certain Culture, Then Act That Way If you want a certain culture, then act that way. Here’s a nice little nugget of wisdom from one of our favourite organisational thought leaders at the moment, Henry Cloud. The message is simple. If you want a certain culture, then do more of that deed. A culture is powerful. Hat tip to Sonja Blingaut for finding this. Fake It Till You Make It: 10 Ways To Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t) “Original Fake” Photo Credit: courtesy of MashKulture Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle? Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right. And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right. Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Same with confidence. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of self belonging. Start with any of the 10 items on this list, and start feeling better inside out today! Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING. Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are? Don’t Forget To Follow PickTheBrain On Twitter! Related Articles:

Alluring, difficult woman seeks stable and assertive man I am in search of a patient, assertive, and attractive man to aid me in my quest for self-improvement. These qualities are non-negotiable and the explanation is as follows. After two intense failed relationships, {both which, in retrospect, were almost completely my fault but I was able to successfully manipulate things so as to make each man believe they were in the wrong} I have spent a lot of time thinking about who I am and I have isolated several personality traits that make it somewhat difficult for a normal person to have a relationship with me. I am looking for a man who is secure enough in himself to tolerate our exciting lifestyle {a background or degree in psychology is a plus.} I am determined to find a healthier way of approaching things, as I never want to ruin anyone's life ever again. Some things you should know: *I have a major 'Daddy' complex. *I will never trust you. *I have no communication skills. *I have an addictive personality. *I am a cold and unemotional bitch.

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