HOW TO CHEAT AT EVERYTHING Over lunch with Simon Lovell, a fascinating former card shark, Allison Schrager learns all sorts of things about how swindlers operate ... Special to MORE INTELLIGENT LIFE "I can spot someone's weakness a mile away. "Take that woman over there." "Or that man over there, over-dressed, too neat, over-confident, thinks he is too smart to be taken." "But ultimately, anyone can be conned, if you have the balls to do it." Simon Lovell should know. Presently, instead of subjecting people to cons, Mr Lovell stars in a one-man off-Broadway show, "Strange and Unusual Hobbies". "I could sell shit at an anti-scat party," he says, "you have to figure out someone's wants and needs and convince them what you have will fill their emotional void." It requires avid study of psychology and body language. Mr Lovell draws people in by mirroring their body language. Con men tend to be excellent conversationalists. Just then we are interrupted by our waiter. A favourite con of Mr Lovell's is called the Cross.
13 Things to Avoid When Changing Habits | Zen Habits “Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.” - Mark Twain Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter. I’ve learned a lot about changing habits in the last 2 1/2 years, from quitting smoking to taking up running and GTD and vegetarianism and waking early and all that. I’ve not only learned a lot about what you should do when changing habits, but through my failures, I’ve learned about what not to do. And trust me, I’ve had lots of failures. I’ve found failures to be just as important as successes when trying to learn how to improve, especially when it comes to changing habits. I’ve done that, with one failure after another, and would like to share a few things I’ve learned to avoid when trying to change a habit. “Motivation is what gets you started. Taking on two or more habits at once. “We are what we repeatedly do. —If you liked this article, please share it on del.icio.us, StumbleUpon or Digg.
18 Secrets To Being Undeniably Attractive 1. Attractiveness has almost nothing to do with how you look physically, though your natural physical disposition does play a small role. It’s mostly, if not entirely, about how you put yourself together and how you behave. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. The 21 Day Challenge Everyone Should Take I'm on day 14 of a 21-day challenge that I semi-invented and so far I have to admit the results have been nothing short of amazing. Now, when I say that I semi-invented it, that is purely because I took the idea from the excellent book 'Psycho Cybernetics' and put it in a format that everyone can follow, myself included. I'm not exaggerating when I say this challenge can literally help with any aspect of your life that you would like to improve. Understanding the Self Image In the mid 20th Century, Maxwell Maltz who was a plastic surgeon, wrote a book called Psycho Cybernetics that has now sold millions of copies and been updated for modern times. Maltz found that when certain people had surgery to improve their appearance – for example someone having their nose made smaller – they would literally change instantly and suddenly become confident and enthusiastic about life. Our self image is crucial and determines how we act in life and often what we feel we deserve. The 21 Day Challenge
Fake It Till You Make It: 10 Ways To Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t) “Original Fake” Photo Credit: courtesy of MashKulture Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle? Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right. And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right. Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Same with confidence. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of self belonging. Start with any of the 10 items on this list, and start feeling better inside out today! Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING. Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are? Don’t Forget To Follow PickTheBrain On Twitter! Related Articles:
The Practice of Ying / Yang Productivity Could it be possible that there’s a fault in the “gotta push harder” attitude and that a more conscious approach to productivity could bring us the desired results faster?What’s a Ying/Yang approach? I bet you’ve seen a Ying/Yang symbol, which symbolizes perfect harmony between two opposites – material and spiritual, feminine and masculine, Earth and Heaven. What does this ancient Taoist symbol has to do with productivity in our hectic everyday lives? It must remind us that the secret to productivity is a proper balance of work and rest, tension and relaxation. What is a proper rest? The problem lies in our understanding of proper rest. Feel drained after doing mental work? What is the reason why combining mental and physical activities is such an effective strategy? What usually happens is that once you’re doing something entirely different, for example, playing soccer, you suddenly get struck with an idea how to increase your website traffic dramatically. How? Boy, was I wrong.
37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old Zen in The Art of Productivity Zen aims to simplify the mind. To exclude any concepts. Beginner’s mind has too many options. Master’s mind just knows In Japan, archery is not only a sport where hitting the targets is the main purpose. Archery is just one of the popular and traditional activities, where Zen can be practiced. But Zen can be practiced also in any modern-day activity. Nowadays, when one of four people report feeling overwhelmed or burned out, learning how to find simplicity in the daily chaos of our lives is the key factor of productivity. So what can be done to find peace of mind in our workplaces and therefore become more effective? It is all about awareness. Technology helps us in many ways, but it also leads a fight for our time and attention. We are practically raised to be multitasking. Here’s a clue. Let’s give a few tips on how such “Zen Attitude” can be implemented in real life examples: Your most important task should be complete by 11:00 am. Don’t get distracted by unimportant things.
7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About Honesty is the best policy, right? But we’re all guilty of telling “little white lies” sometimes. Regardless, there are certain things in life it’s important to be honest about. Here are 7 of them. Your guilty pleasures. Everyone has a guilty pleasure or two. Your struggles. The sooner you honestly assess the things you’re struggling with, the sooner you can find ways to make your life better. Your free time. How do you spend your free time? Your health. If you think eating junk food all day and not exercising is going to lead to a fulfilling life, guess again. Your work. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day monotony of working life. Your family. You can’t pick your family, which means you’re stuck with the one you have. Your habits. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is they focus too much on the expected outcome rather than changing the underlying behavior. When did being productive get so complicated?
The ABC of an Epic Friendship: 26 Simple Ways To Be the Best Friend Ever I grew up in a broken home. It was 1999 when my father left and it’s been more than a decade since the last time I saw him. When I was in grade school, I was teased and bullied for being “fat”. Then came high school when we struggled financially because my mother had difficulty finding a stable job. Here are 26 simple ways and lessons I’ve learned from our friendship through the years. Appreciate all things. Say “Thank you” when your friend did something for you regardless of whether it’s a big thing or a small one. Be yourself. Just be real and be who you are. Communicate honestly. Your friend would appreciate a brutal honesty than a lie. Date your friend. Once in a while, ask your friend out. Encourage them. Be sensitive of their situation. Forgive. Your friend is human too, like you are and would sure make mistakes and hurt your feelings at one point. Give freely. Whether it’s your time and/or resources, always find a way to extend a hand without expecting anything in return. Hug.