Nine Things You Should Figure Out Before Moving in Together So, that’s it. You’ve decided to move in together. You’re excited, in love, and ready to go for it. People are warning you that it’s a big deal, but you are different and so is your relationship. The first few months of living together are a pivotal time in every couple’s relationship. Get On the Same Page You no longer need to pack an overnight bag and you’re going to be paying less in rent, which is awesome. Let the Dust Settle The first few weeks are blissful. Set House Rules He’s your boyfriend, not just your roommate, so you guys don’t need to talk about the dishes, right? Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff If little things are bothering you—socks on the floor instead of the hamper, his leaving the water running while brushing his teeth—say something or learn to let it go. Establish Your Own Personal Space Just because you share an address doesn’t mean you always have to share couch space. Expect Valleys Just like a relationship, living together is going to have peaks and valleys.
The Top 10 Psychology Studies of 2010 The end of 2010 fast approaches, and I'm thrilled to have been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to write about the Top 10 psychology studies of the year. I've focused on studies that I personally feel stand out, not only as examples of great science, but even more importantly, as examples of how the science of psychology can improve our lives. Each study has a clear "take home" message, offering the reader an insight or a simple strategy they can use to reach their goals , strengthen their relationships, make better decisions, or become happier. If you extract the wisdom from these ten studies and apply them in your own life, 2011 just might be a very good year. 1) How to Break Bad Habits If you are trying to stop smoking , swearing, or chewing your nails, you have probably tried the strategy of distracting yourself - taking your mind off whatever it is you are trying not to do - to break the habit. J. 2) How to Make Everything Seem Easier J. 3) How To Manage Your Time Better M. J.
Advice from Somewhere ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. THREE. This came around anonamously, identified as from a "Chinese Tantra Totem" - One definition of a tantra being a statement of principle or religious practice and collections of such principles and practices. Stop Snooping! Who hasn’t logged on to their partner’s Facebook, e-mail, or voicemail? Picked up their cell phone and read through their texts after they’ve left the room? After a relationship breakup or divorce it can be the most tempting time to snoop through the ex’s business. But, if you are ever going to bounce back you need to stop snooping! Not only will you come to regret this decision, especially if they find out, but by snooping you are only gaining information you don’t need to know … and delaying the healing process at the same time. Who cares if there is a juicy e-mail from that co-worker you were always suspicious of when you were together? Another amazing thing will happen when you stop searching for the reason you were broken up with, or for validation that you made the right choice to break up: you will gain some serious closure. When you snoop, you are telling your ex and even more importantly, yourself that someone who has hurt you still deserves your time.
100 Ways to Serve Others I’ve continued to be inspired by people’s 100 lists and you’ve probably seen many that I’ve highlighted in recent resource lists. Dragos wrote one that triggered me to write another with his excellent post on 100 tips to write huge lists. This list is on my favorite subject and while the length of these lists makes them quite a challenge to make, this particular subject is one I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about and writing goals in so its a great topic for me to tackle in a list. The items were actually fairly easy to come up for me without any research or added web surfing, but the real effort was then in putting a short description or example for each. Anyway, I’m thrilled to have this list completed and can’t wait to experience and see the results of personally doing every single one on the list. 1. This is a great habit to develop to start each and every day and to practice whenever you have the chance. 2. 3. I mean when it comes to transportation or as a physical destination.
How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. Surely this was some kind of joke. "Absolutely," said the professor. I've never forgotten that lesson. 2. One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. A special note was attached. Sincerely, Mrs. 3. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" The little boy again counted his coins. 4. In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. 5.
8 Harsh Truths that Will Improve Your Life They say life is what we make of it. By the end of this post, I hope to have helped you decide whether that statement is true or not. There is no doubt that life has its ups and downs. However, how we deal with them can sometimes make all the difference. Today I want to share eight harsh truths that I’ve come to learn from life. There’s also a message in each that I think we can all learn from, and when applied, will improve our lives infinitely. Some of these lessons may be old-hat for you. Friends will always come and go in your life; even though I’m back in the UK now, all my friends are in university around the country and not exactly in meeting distance. Important Lesson:There are an abundance of amazing people out there for you to meet and build relationships with. You Won’t Always Get What You Want I remember one Christmas when the only thing I had asked for was some second hand turntables for DJ’ing. Important Lesson: Not everyone is always going to like you, and that’s fine.
14 Tools to Legally Spy On Your Competition Have you ever wished you were Bond? James Bond? Here are 007+007 = fourteen ways to spy on your competitors’ web sites, without breaking any FISA laws. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. Your mission, should you decide to accept it: Try some (or all) of the above techniques and report back on your intriguing espionage! Shhhhh… care to share your spying secrets? How to Work with Different Breeds of Clients Marketing August 30, 2010 A filmmaker makes his movies with audience’s interest in mind, an author writes to engage his readers. An understanding of your users’ tastes, moods and personalities is therefore important because any kind of enterprise doesn’t work in isolation. You have to be aware of who you are catering your services to. In business it’s your clients you need to consider, the quality of your service is vital of course but it takes a bit more to appease your clients. We have compiled a list of 10 Breeds Of Clients And How to Work with Them, pros and cons of dealing with them for your benefit. 1. How Can You Identify Him: Such a client is very easy to spot because he will make his presence felt instantly. 2. How Can You Identify Him: This breed of client is paranoid. 3.The Appreciative Client How Can You Identify Him: This kind of client will not stop singing your praises and will give you a pat on the back for every small thing you have done. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Loading ...