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Affirmations for Introverts

Affirmations for Introverts
I'm all about self-affirmations this week. I covered affirmations for pessimists on another blog, now I'm thinking about affirmations for introverts . Self-affirmations, when spoken aloud, can sound kind of silly. OK, sometimes they sound a little silly even when you say them silently to yourself. But if we can permit ourselves a Stuart Smalley moment now and then, affirmations can come in handy to remind us of things we might already know but forget in moments of insecurity. They can help us hold our ground when others are trying to force their values on us, and they can give us that last little push we need to open our mouths and assert ourselves. I particularly like and often use the old standby "Different strokes for different folks." A few others, for various circumstances: Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean I have nothing to say. What works for you? Thanks for visiting!

Revenge of the Introvert After ten years as a psychologist practicing psychodynamic psychotherapy , I reclined on the couch of my own analyst feeling burdened by my chosen work. After a day of seeing patients, I was drained. I had been trained to listen at many levels—words, emotions, unconscious disclosures—and I took all of that in and sorted it out in my mind. Then I heard myself say: "I don't like being a therapist." Suddenly I felt free, loosed from expectations that never fit. As a card-carrying introvert , I am one of the many people whose personality confers on them a preference for the inner world of their own mind rather than the outer world of sociability. Over the past two decades, scientists have whittled down to five those clusters of cognitions, emotions, motivations, and behaviors that we mean by "personality" factors. Although there is no precise dividing line, there are plenty of introverts around. Introversion in Action On the surface, introversion looks a lot like shyness.

Six Tips for Introverted Travelers Lists: You don't have to be an extrovert to enjoy travel. Sophia Dembling explains. Photo by Sophia Dembling My essay Confessions of an Introverted Traveler drew a lot of feedback from fellow introverts tired of reading stories about others’ great experiences meeting people. Many who wrote told me they were worried that, because they were introverts, they simply weren’t cut out to travel. 1. I don’t often initiate conversations but I will talk to almost anyone who talks to me first. 2. A lot of times, random conversations lead to invitations to parties, to travel companionship, to meet others. 3. There’s an interesting debate going in response to an article about travel books on World Hum—a couple of people contend that reading while you travel is a waste of experience, that you can read at home and you should be out Living and Meeting Interesting People when you’re traveling. 4. In her book, Helgoe talks about the French term “flâneur” (feminine, “flâneuse”). 5. 6.

About Mental and Physical Health for Introverts It is my personal impression that introverts take a terrible beating where stress is concerned because everywhere we go, everything we do, we are coping with a world set up by and for others. We are very prone to chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia and agoraphobia, conditions which, though horrible, give us the excuse we need to have time for ourselves. It is part of my mission and consciousness raising outreach as an infp healer to suggest that if we give ourselves the time we need by ourselves, we can skip the part about chronic fatigue syndrome, etc. In the "j" and "s" type introverts it is more likely to be a skiing or other sports accident that allows us to remain in a room alone with ourselves for an extended period of time. Let's learn to ask for the time alone that we need and skip the abuse to our bodies. HOW I HEALED MYSELF - my letter to diane Hi Diane, I got a divorce, ending a negative situation that was draining and nonproductive on all levels.

A Very High Percentage of INFPs are Gifted « intuitive * introverted * creative I’m compelled to write – Many people are expressing an isolation that was explained to some degree by the MBTI. Please be aware that a very high percentage of gifted people are INFPs. Giftedness – a condition beyond simple intelligence – adds another layer of uniqueness that may be responsible for one’s feeling separate or disconnected. Gifted people view the world very differently. For example, they tend to have a finely tuned sense of right and wrong that results in a frequent state of moral indignation. Most often, this indignation is deemed by others to be an extreme response. A wonderful resource for gifted people – both children and adults – is Like this: Like Loading... Screening Out the Introverts - Advice By William Pannapacker Some years ago I joined my students in taking the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, a test to determine personality type. It was an assignment in a course I was teaching on vocational exploration. Assuming there would be an average distribution of results among the 20 students, I planned a series of small-group assignments in which they would discuss their own results for each of the test's personality dichotomies (e.g., thinking versus feeling). But a problem turned up immediately: Not one student had received an "I" for introversion. Extroverts—if you accept such categories—are oriented outward, toward other people and toward action over reflection. I knew my students well enough to suspect that I was not the only one with that tendency. Given that introversion is frowned upon almost everywhere in U.S. culture, the test might as well have asked, "Would you prefer to be cool, popular, and successful or weird, isolated, and a failure?"

Introverts unite! (Quietly.) I am an introvert . And, like my fellow introverts, I am sorely misunderstood. Common wisdom says that America is a nation of extroverts and here, introversion is stigmatized. Parents worry about children who would rather play alone in their rooms than join the gang in the playground. Phooey. I'm not shy , socially awkward or in any way (that I know of) socially inept. But the difference between extroverts and introverts is not that the former are good at socializing and the latter aren't. That describes me perfectly. I have been shamed many times for my loathing for the telephone (not uncommon for introverts), for my reliance on online interaction (ditto), and for my desire to leave parties shortly after arriving. We introverts often try to push against our nature , having bought into the myth that extroversion is better and that it's the American way. Quietly. Thanks for visiting! My book, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World , is available for pre-order on Amazon .

Seen but not heard: the introverts in our classrooms | Teacher Network Blog | Guardian Professional Author Susan Cain has made a loud splash with her new book Quiet – The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. Introverts the world over have breathed a collective sigh of relief at Cain's reassurance that it is okay to choose a night at home with a good book over a dinner party invite, and that letting your phone go to voicemail doesn't necessarily make you a friendless misanthrope. Quiet celebrates the positive features of the introvert personality, while examining the way in which our society is geared up to celebrate and encourage extrovert personality traits. As a result of this, introverts are placed in opposition to the extrovert ideal and risk being undervalued and overlooked. Cain argues that our celebration of the extrovert type begins in the classroom, where, from the start, young pupils are grouped facing each other in pods, and are praised by teachers for giving quick (rather than thoughtful or original) answers. Could you be one of our bloggers?

Introversion: The often forgotten factor impacting the gifted Burruss, J. & Kaenzig, L. Virginia Association for the Gifted Vol. 21, No. 1 Fall 1999 In this article, Jill Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig define introversion and lists many of the characteristics of introverts. Suggestions are made on ways teachers can help introverts in the classroom and how families can help introverts at home. These are just some examples of introverted individuals. What is introversion? Jung (1923) was one of the early leaders in the exploration of personality and is credited with developing the constructs of extraversion and introversion. Henjum (1982) sees introverts as belonging to two distinct groups: Group A: Self-sufficient, confident, hardworking, with firm goals, self-actualizing, reserved, preferring activities that involve inner experience and introspection; and Group B: Shy, timid, withdrawn with low self-concept, lacking in communication skills, demonstrating fear of people, dread of doing things in front of others, who prefer being left alone. References: