Becoming Who You Are How to Cultivate Self-Trust: Advice from Rising Strong by Brené Brown - Becoming Who You Are A couple of weeks ago, Brené Brown published her latest book, Rising Strong. If you’ve been anywhere near the internet at some point over the last couple of years, you’ve probably seen her now-infamous TED talk on vulnerability. Rising Strong is the final book in a trilogy on how to live a whole-hearted life, following on from The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly. I won’t go into a synopsis of the book here (I shared more details in my Amazon review) but I highly recommend clearing your diary for this weekend to read all three titles. One of the topics Brené covers in Rising Strong, and the topic I want to share with you today, is trust. First of all, what is trust? It’s a word we all know and use but what does it mean in tangible terms? Brené quotes Charles Feltman, author of The Thin Book of Trust, who describes trust as “choosing to risk making something you value vulnerable to another person’s actions.” These ingredients are summarised with the (apt) acronym B.R.A.V.I.N.G.
Failures, Screw-ups and Unknowns (and why they can be good for you)* | DYAN WILLIAMS It is said that failure is a necessary precursor to ultimate success. Want to make it big in the real world? Fail early, fail fast, fail often, as the saying goes. Countless success stories are replete with mistakes and obstacles. Thomas Edison failed over 6,000 times before perfecting the first electrical lightbulb. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team and missed over 9,000 shots in his career. A failure that results from well-designed and well-intentioned experimentation can be worthy of praise. While we all want success, it’s not guaranteed. It’s easy to see why we fear failures, screw-ups and unknowns when you consider how they are traditionally defined: Failure: 1. lack of success; failing 2. unsuccessful person or thing. 3. non-performance. Screw-up: 1. bungle, mess. 2. mismanage a task. 3. thing incorrectly done or thought. Unknown: 1. not known. 2. unfamiliar. Failure: 1. the starting line 2. part of process. 3. on the path to success. Feel and reflect.
Bring on the learning revolution!: Sir Ken Robinson on TED education A new playlist from Sir Ken Robinson, the most-watched speaker on TED.com Sir Ken Robinson is not just an amazing orator — he is the most-viewed speaker on TED.com. His three talks have been viewed an astounding 21.5 million times, making him the sneezing baby panda of the TED ecosystem. Naturally, this made us curious: what talks does Robinson absolutely love? In this new playlist, Robinson selects […] TED Radio Hour presents “Unstoppable Learning” Our minds and bodies constantly master lessons from our surroundings.
Psychological Studies | Links to hundreds of Psychology studies running on the internet | Online Psychology Research Ltd La vulnérabilité 8 talks about learning from failure Global Issues Fighting the growing deserts, with livestock: Allan Savory at TED2013 The growing desert Allan Savory has dedicated his life to studying management of grasslands. And if that doesn’t sound exciting, just wait, because it touches on the deepest roots of climate change and the future of the planet. Environment Let’s unite as Team Humanity to revive degraded land: A conversation with TED Books author Allan Savory and rancher Gail Steiger All over the world, land is turning into desert at an alarming rate. To Overcome the Fear of Failure, Fear This Instead — Life Learning To Overcome the Fear of Failure, Fear This Instead If you do the math, becoming an entrepreneur is insane. The odds of success are tiny; failure is almost guaranteed. To make the leap, you have to be fearless. Or so I thought. I spent the past three years working on a book, Originals, about the people who champion new ideas to drive creativity and change in the world. They all felt the same fear of failure that the rest of us do. When most of us fear failure, we walk away from our boldest ideas. In work and in life, there are two kinds of failure: actions and inactions. When people reflect on their biggest regrets, they wish they could redo the inactions, not the actions. Ultimately, what we regret is not failure, but the failure to act. Da Vinci didn’t answer my request for an interview. Originals learn to see failure not as a sign that their ideas are doomed, but as a necessary step toward success. So take it from this group of elite failures.
The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work (And How to Fix Them) One of the hardest things in life is to know when to keep going and when to move on. On the one hand, perseverance and grit are key to achieving success in any field. Anyone who masters their craft will face moments of doubt and somehow find the inner resolve to keep going. On the other hand, telling someone to never give up is terrible advice. Life requires both strategies. One way to answer this question is to use a framework I call the 3 Stages of Failure. The 3 Stages of Failure This framework helps clarify things by breaking down challenges into three stages of failure: Stage 1 is a Failure of Tactics. In the rest of this article, I’ll share a story, solution, and summary for each stage of failure. Before we talk about how to get started, I wanted to let you know I researched and compiled science-backed ways to stick to good habits and stop procrastinating. Stage 1: A Failure of Tactics Sam Carpenter became a small business owner in 1984. Things did not go as expected. What happened?
Don’t Let Shame Become a Self-Destructive Spiral Executive Summary After a major mistake, it’s natural to feel ashamed. But shame is also a powerfully destructive feeling. Left to fester, it can have a profound effect on our psychological well-being. It’s concealed behind guilt; it lurks behind anger; it can be disguised as despair and depression. Steven, the VP operations of a media company, was asked to present on the organization’s digital transformation program to its top 100 executives during an annual strategy retreat. Given the way we react to shame, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that the roots of the word derive from an older Proto-Indo-European word meaning “to cover.” After a major mistake, it’s natural to feel ashamed. Down the Rabbit Hole People who pathologically feel shame tend to internalize and overpersonalize everything that happens to them. This can have a profound effect on our psychological well-being. The Origins of Shame Dealing with Shame Shame is part of the human experience.
Tips for Helping Kids Adopt a Growth Mindset | Greater Good Magazine Some people are just jerks, and not much can be done to change them. Do you agree with this statement? If your answer is yes, here’s something you might consider: Research suggests that believing in the human capacity to change is linked to less depression, better health, and greater achievement. This is the “growth mindset,” an idea pioneered by Stanford researcher Carol Dweck. According to this research, when we practice a growth mindset, the obstacles we’re facing seem more surmountable. We shouldn’t only believe in the ability of other people to change for their benefit, however. That’s a fairly easy idea to suggest, and perhaps you already believe in it. How to explain the social benefits Although there is some controversy over the misapplication of mindset research in schools, a growing number of studies suggest that fostering a growth mindset (also known as an “incremental theory of personality”) helps students to better navigate social challenges. ―Amy L. Obstacles to growth
The Upside of Pessimism I have pretty low expectations for this article. Oh sure, I spent a lot of time on it, and I personally think it’s a great read. But I’m kind of worried that you will hate it. Worse yet, I’m afraid you’ll hate me for writing it. You might take to Twitter and call me a featherbrained, elitist millennial. And then I’ll cry into my kombucha-flavored macaron. Or at least, that’s how I would start out thinking if I were prone to defensive pessimism, a phenomenon in which people imagine worst-case scenarios in order to manage their anxiety. This type of negativity might sound like apostasy by American standards. I recently spoke with Norem, a pioneer of the defensive pessimism theory. A lightly edited transcript of our conversation follows, and you can take a test to find out if you’re a defensive pessimist here. Olga Khazan: What is defensive pessimism? Julie Norem: It’s a strategy for dealing with anxiety and helping to manage anxiety so that it doesn’t negatively influence performance.