The Best Ways to Keep Stress and Anxiety at Bay I used to stress about everything. I was real bad about it. Now I don't stress at all, mostly because I got very ill for a couple years and stress is on the top five list of things that trigger my disorder. So I don't stress over things - I've already done something very hard and got through it okay. I can get through everything else because it just doesn't measure up. If that doesn't work or I'm just worrying despite knowing better, at some point I either have to force myself to stop or I know I'll have an episode. I've tried yoga and meditation and it was just a disaster.
markmanson One day, when my brother was 18, he waltzed into the living room and proudly announced to my mother and me that one day he was going to be a senator. My mom probably gave him the “That’s nice, dear,” treatment while I’m sure I was distracted by a bowl of Cheerios or something. But for fifteen years, this purpose informed all of my brother’s life decisions: what he studied in school, where he chose to live, who he connected with and even what he did with many of his vacations and weekends. And now, after almost half a lifetime of work later, he’s the chairman of a major political party in his city and the youngest judge in the state. Don’t get me wrong. Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. Part of the problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. Here’s the truth. So when people say, “What should I do with my life?” This is an infinitely better question to ask. Ah, yes. Embrace embarrassment.
The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck Ok, I have a confession to make. I have spent almost my whole life– 31 years– Â caring far too much aboutÂ offending people, worrying if I’m cool enough for them, or asking myself if they are judging me. I can’t take it anymore. Today, ladies and gentlemen, is different. We’re going to talk about the cure. Do you wonder if someone is talking shit about you? Well, it’s time you started not giving a fuck. FACT NUMBER 1. Yes, it’s really happening right at this moment. What people truly respect is when you draw the line and say “you will go no further.” Right. Regular people are fine– you don’t actually hear it when they’re talking behind your back. Thankfully, that’s not actually true. FACT NUMBER 2. This stuff is crazy, I know, but it’s cool, you’ll get used to it. How liberating this is may not even hit you yet, but it will. You know when they say “the best revenge is a life well lived”? So not giving a fuck is actually a necessary precedent to create a good life for yourself. STEP 1.
10 All Natural Ways to Stop Feeling Depressed Life is a drag.What’s the point of anything?I’ll never be happy. Do any of these gloomy thoughts sound familiar? It’s likely they do. While these suggestions won’t eliminate your problems, they can help you break a negative thought pattern and stop feeling depressed. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. sentences-that-can-change-your-life The power of a sentence is tremendous. A single destructive sentence can ruin somebody’s life, make your day, or change your mood. Fortunately, there are some sentences that can give us power to go on. We have sorted out 10 powerful sentences that can change your life for the better. #1 “People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.” #2 “Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world.” #3 “You learn more from failure than from success; don’t let it stop you. #4 “The most dangerous risk of all – The risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later” #5 “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.” #6 “The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.” #7 “If you accept your limitations you go beyond them.” #8 “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. #10 “Comfort is the enemy of achievement.”
Why You Shouldn’t Care What Others Think About You Image courtesy of *Zara Who’s in control of your life? Who’s pulling your strings? For the majority of us, it’s other people – society, colleagues, friends, family or our religious community. It works both ways. Second, we all want to feel important and so we crave the positive attention of others. We are so desperate for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives, denying huge swathes of ourselves and failing to do the things we really want to do because we’re worried about what other people will think. The drug is so addictive that most people will not give it up – they will keep looking for approval because the hit is so intense. The truth is that it’s all an illusion anyway – you cannot control what other people think. If we try to live by the opinions of others, we will build our life on sinking sand. So how can we take back control? This doesn’t mean that you should start to treat people badly, step on them or use them.
40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain “If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes. There will never be a time when life is simple. Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Let go of Anger and Bitterness 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Let Go Of Past Relationships 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Let Go Of Stress 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Photo by Katie Romanova
stumbleupon Many people read Rich Dad Poor Dad but they forget that they are their greatest asset. Our minds and our hearts bring our greatest return on investment. Successful people are investors, in their dreams and the dreams of others. Here are 7 steps on how to become addicted to success: 1. Knowledge is potential power and questions are the healthiest way to grow your knowledge. By asking questions we are able to understand how things work and those who understand how things work can make things work. Ask lots of questions, ask big questions, and ask small questions. Build your understanding. “Success is something you attract by who you become” – Jim Rohn 2. Gardeners prepare the soil before they plant their seeds, when its time to reap the benefits of their harvest they are always glad that they did. Gardeners also have crops on different cycles because not every crop has an equal return or grows at the same time of year. Imagine the different crops to be revenue streams, networks, hobbies etc. 3. 4.
How to Not Care What People Are Thinking About You – and Release Your People-Magnetic Self Into the Conversation You arrive for a party at a friend’s house and open the front door. It seems all eyes are on you as you walk into the room. Nervous thoughts rush through your mind: “What are they thinking about me?” When you think others always judge you, you become socially awkward, talk less, and shut-down. I often get asked how someone can overcome these thoughts where they worry what others think because I had the same problem years ago. Surviving the Brutality of People’s Thoughts Why are you concerned what people think of you? As you explore your worries and anxieties about people’s thoughts towards you, you will see the problem boils down to worrying if people accept or approve you. Social acceptance is important for everyone. Your fears are a survival mechanism so it is okay to want acceptance, but because interactions and group structures have changed after thousands of years, you have outdated ways of thinking and behaving. We worry what people think of us more than we know: Your Superpowers
10 Instant Emotional Fitness Tools When things get out of control and you momentarily lose your emotional balance, there are any number of little things you can do to regain it. Here are ten tools to help get you started. 1. Wash your hands and face and brush your teeth. It cools and cleans the parts of your body that you use most frequently, which is relaxing, and gives you that "fresh start" feeling. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. None of these tasks has to be uncomfortable or take you much time. Dr. 365 Thought Provoking Questions to Ask Yourself This Year - StumbleUpon “Asking the right questions is the answer.” That’s the tagline at the top of our sister site Thought Questions. The site thrives on the philosophy that a question that makes you think is worth asking. So we’ve made a ritual of asking one new thought provoking question every day for our visitors to ponder and answer. Over the past year we have received countless requests to compile all the questions and place them on a single page that can be easily printed and reviewed. When was the last time you tried something new? Also, we’d love it if you visited Thought Questions and shared some of your answers with us. Photo by: Jacob Botter Related 25 Questions that Provoke Thought If the question makes you think, it’s worth asking. January 4, 2010 In "Hacks" 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind These questions have no right or wrong answers. July 13, 2009 7 Questions You Are Too Scared to Ask It’s not about finding the right answers; it’s about asking the right questions.