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Character flaws: The seven chief features of ego - Personality & Spirituality

Character flaws: The seven chief features of ego - Personality & Spirituality
Untitled, by Jean-Michel Basquiat (1984) Every one of us has a fundamental flaw, an immaturity of character, a dark side or negative tendency. This character flaw, also known as a ‘Chief Feature’, tends to take control whenever we feel stressed, anxious or uncertain. What is a Chief Feature? Generally speaking, all personality traits (or overleaves) are neutral. A chief feature [1] is different. A chief feature is a dominant negative attitude — a defensive and potentially destructive pattern of thinking, feeling and acting. We all have at least one. Your chief feature is your primary ego defence and your main stumbling block in life. This article describes how the chief feature comes to have such a stranglehold on our personality. The seven chief features In the Michael teachings there are seven types of chief feature (character flaw / constraint / personal defect / stumbling block, whatever you prefer). Here they are listed from the most introverted to the most extroverted: Persona Shadow Related:  Understanding Human BehaviorPsychotherapy

18 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Shy And Introverted This… this is my soul song, people. This is my Vietnam. 1. You’re not anti-social, you’re selectively social. 2. At any given point, you have one (maybe two) best friends who are your entire life. 3. 4. 5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. The human element is always hungry for knowledge, for wisdom, for truth. The Human Element.

The Key to Great Communication and a Loving Marriage: Less is More | UnTangled Why do people get married? Because we find someone who wants to be a student of us. And why do people get unmarried? Because over time the students become teachers and everyone’s teaching but no one’s learning, and we forget how to attend to each other. I don’t know how I learned anything in my first semester of graduate school. The program was stellar and my professors were excellent, but I met my wife that autumn, and I quickly became a student of her first, and psychology second. In my graduate school, the classes were small and usually held at a round table, with students facing each other. I became a student of her before all other things. The years have piled up, though. We trade in attentive gazes for critical comments. As another autumn approaches, I have to wonder, “Have I ceased to be a student of my wife?” Most couples don’t need an addition of ideas—they need a subtraction of distractions. Last month, my wife and I flew to Hawaii for a conference. I just watched. Fully attentive.

Free Downloads - Therapy Worksheets You will need Adobe Reader to open the files - download the free software here . Cognitive Models & Formulation Templates About the Resources My motivation for this website is to improve and increase both the self help resources available, and printable resources for therapists. The documents (whole or part) and their content must NOT be resold nor otherwise used for profit. Give your feedback or suggestions here . Please let me know if you have any suggestions for the website: I would welcome suggestions for making alterations to existing resources, or for ideas for new ones. Please consider a small donation to the Red Cross in return for using these free resources MP 3 guided imagery/relaxation downloads WHAT'S NEW at Self Help Books Sitemap & Search Carol Vivyan

Psychologists Have Uncovered a Troubling Feature of People Who Seem Nice All the Time This week, a Texas mother pointed out that a high school geography textbook was painting a misleading picture of slavery — and the publisher acknowledged she was right and immediately moved to correct the text. Mother Roni Dean-Burren was surprised to learn McGraw Hill Education's ninth-grade textbook World Geography seemingly lacked any reference to the brutal conditions endured by black people captured and sold in the Atlantic slave trade, BuzzFeed reports. Her concerns were subsequently mirrored by tens of thousands of Facebook users. The questionable section of the textbook, titled "Patterns of Immigration," reads "The Atlantic slave trade between the 1500s and the 1800s brought millions of workers from Africa to the southern United States to work on agricultural plantations." In a video posted to Facebook, Dean-Burren explained precisely what was wrong with that section — the term "worker" omits mention of the vile, coercive nature of slavery.

Verbal Abuse Disguised as Love I sometimes blame myself for not hearing our conversations for what they were. “Conversations” is not the right word. Isn’t a conversation a flow of words and thoughts, back and forth, between two people – a dialogue? But my soon-to-be ex-husband and I didn’t have dialogues, we filled our communications with monologues in which we looked at one another, directed our sometimes screaming voices at one another, but definitely did not converse. Verbal Abuse Can Be Confusing Of course, none of these monologues solved any of the issues we wanted to solve, so we both left the monologue feeling…what did he feel? He told me what I was doing, what I was thinking, who I was being. I felt attacked. Verbal Abuse Can Result In “If Only I…” Type of Thinking I felt that his low opinion of me, that his analysis of who I was, was off mark. But that was not to be. So, over time, I learned that I had to be him in order to please him. Verbal Abuse Isn’t Just About Name-Calling

Dark Shamanism: Embracing the Shadow « Prehistoric Shamanism I once visited a place in Siberia that local people considered so evil that I needed to purify beforehand, bathing in sacred waters and staying the preceding night close to a mountain sacred to Buddhist tradition. To me, the rock plateau that my guides took me to was beautiful, with views far across the Mongolian steppe, but it was not a place to linger. At the base of the rock lay 36 black shamans, killed whilst in trance by a Buddhist monk and buried there for their spirits to fester malevolence for all time. Many traditional shamans can curse as well as cure. In a similar manner, I have no hesitation in defending myself, sometimes verbally, sometimes legally, but often spiritually, putting up barriers against harm and baleful influence. Some shamans go further still and we are probably all familiar with the historical Jivaro (now called Shuar) from the Amazon and their practice of capturing heads of enemies.

Understanding Your Individuality One of the aspects of having a balanced mindset is that you are no longer prone towards extremist view-points, you don’t see things in a “black and white” manner, rather you start perceiving the “grey areas”, which is what allows you to be free of delusional thinking. For example, the adage of “you can do anything you set your mind to”, or “impossible is nothing”, can feel very emotionally motivating, and it can create a spur of adrenaline, and it makes for a great pep talk, but it’s also a very “black and white” statement, which is delusional at best – it’s just a fact that there are many things that you just can’t do, no matter how hard you try, simply because your body is not made for it. Another aspect of understanding your individuality is to see through your “past”, see through your old self, your past conditioning, that no longer resonates with you currently. Being aware of your current individuality Letting go of your old self Implications of living your current individuality

Fourth Way enneagram Enneagram with point numbers and octave designations for octave beginning at point 9. Points 3 and 6 show "shock points" at which a new Do may enter and develop alongside the existing octave. Origins[edit] As reported by P. Idries Shah, a populariser of Sufism, has claimed that the enneagram has a Sufi provenance and that it has also been long known in coded form disguised as an octagram.[4] Another claim to a Sufi provenance is offered by the Sufi Enneagram website.[5] The archives of the Naqshbandi Sufi order of Daghestan have been claimed to provide an account of a meeting between Gurdjieff and Shaykh Sharafuddin Daghestani in which the secret of the nine points was transmitted to Gurdjieff.[6] Robin Amis claims an Orthodox Christian origin, claiming that both Gurdijeff and Ouspensky developed their teaching with insights gained from visits to Mount Athos.[7] Another proposal suggests the diagram is a map of the chakras from yogic schools.[8] At point 3, Mi-Fa, occurs a "shock". [edit]

How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. "Absolutely," said the professor. I've never forgotten that lesson. 2. One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. A special note was attached. Sincerely, Mrs. 3. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. 4.

5 Things I Said To My Abuser That I Wish I'd Heard Myself Say I remember saying words to my ex-husband, Will, that didn’t help my abusive relationship or me at all. Will ignored them for the most part, but the tragedy is that I ignored them too. Here are the top five statements I wish I’d heard myself say. 5. I didn’t dare think this comment let alone say it out loud until close to the end of our marriage. Will’s schedule became the center of my existence. Near the end, I started telling Will that I wouldn’t change my plans just because his changed. If I heard myself say it, perhaps I would have believed it sooner and became unwilling to sacrifice for him in this way all of the time. 4. Normal people censor their jokes depending on their company if they respect the one in their company. Over time, I came to dislike and distrust even his smile. If I’d noticed how many times I said or thought that isn’t funny during our first few weeks of dating, I could have saved myself the pain, effort, and 18 years that it took to decide he wasn’t right for me.