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Character flaws: The seven chief features of ego - Personality & Spirituality

Character flaws: The seven chief features of ego - Personality & Spirituality
Untitled, by Jean-Michel Basquiat (1984) Every one of us has a fundamental flaw, an immaturity of character, a dark side or negative tendency. This character flaw, also known as a ‘Chief Feature’, tends to take control whenever we feel stressed, anxious or uncertain. What is a Chief Feature? Generally speaking, all personality traits (or overleaves) are neutral. A chief feature [1] is different. A chief feature is a dominant negative attitude — a defensive and potentially destructive pattern of thinking, feeling and acting. We all have at least one. Your chief feature is your primary ego defence and your main stumbling block in life. This article describes how the chief feature comes to have such a stranglehold on our personality. The seven chief features In the Michael teachings there are seven types of chief feature (character flaw / constraint / personal defect / stumbling block, whatever you prefer). Here they are listed from the most introverted to the most extroverted: Persona Shadow Related:  Understanding Human BehaviorPsychotherapy

18 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Shy And Introverted This… this is my soul song, people. This is my Vietnam. 1. You’re not anti-social, you’re selectively social. 2. At any given point, you have one (maybe two) best friends who are your entire life. 3. 4. 5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. The human element is always hungry for knowledge, for wisdom, for truth. The Human Element.

The Enneagram is Astrology! by E. Alan Meece The Enneagram is a system of nine psychological types. People use astrology in very much the same way. The most interesting question I've had about the Enneagram, is not so much whether it works, or whether it's true; if it weren't true and useful, it probably would not be so persistently popular. Ironically, of course, people ask the same question about astrology (what is it based on?). My explanation is quite simple; the nine types of the Enneagram are really astrological types. All the various philosophical, psychological, esoteric, and scientific systems of human knowledge have things in common, and things that are different. So, how do the two systems coincide? Interestingly, without attributing an actual correlation, Enneagram therapist Mary Bast says, "Goldberg (The Nine Ways of Working) suggests the nine styles might as well come from different planets." Type One is Mercury Type One is described as the perfectionist.

Mindsets & Rationales That Lend Well To Villainy A list of mindsets that can plausibly and realistically drive and motivate villainous behavior in a character, be it a highschool bully or a full-blown supervillain. Remember, with any sufficiently developed and realistic villain, any number of these will be present and overlap with each other. “You hurt me. Therefore, you deserve to be hurt back.” The belief that someone one has been wronged by deserves to be hurt back in kind… or with interest. Sometimes, it doesn’t even have to be the individuals responsible for the initial act - sometimes, just another member of the same group will do. “Yeah, I poisoned Mary’s cat. “I’m not the problem - everyone else is.” The belief that it cannot be oneself or one’s own ideas that are at fault, but rather that everyone else is in the wrong or is the problem. “If everyone would stop being so selfish and think of the greater good, they’d realize that working twelve hours in the mines every day really isn’t that unreasonable. “They’re out to get me!”

The Key to Great Communication and a Loving Marriage: Less is More | UnTangled Why do people get married? Because we find someone who wants to be a student of us. And why do people get unmarried? Because over time the students become teachers and everyone’s teaching but no one’s learning, and we forget how to attend to each other. I don’t know how I learned anything in my first semester of graduate school. The program was stellar and my professors were excellent, but I met my wife that autumn, and I quickly became a student of her first, and psychology second. In my graduate school, the classes were small and usually held at a round table, with students facing each other. I became a student of her before all other things. The years have piled up, though. We trade in attentive gazes for critical comments. As another autumn approaches, I have to wonder, “Have I ceased to be a student of my wife?” Most couples don’t need an addition of ideas—they need a subtraction of distractions. Last month, my wife and I flew to Hawaii for a conference. I just watched. Fully attentive.

Metaperceptions: How Do You See Yourself? Konstantin Sutyagin/Shutterstock I gave a toast at my best friend's wedding last summer, a speech I carefully crafted and practiced delivering. And it went well: The bride and groom beamed; the guests paid attention and reacted in the right spots; a waiter gave me a thumbs-up. I was relieved and pleased with myself. While many profess not to care what others think, we are, in the end, creatures who want and need to fit into a social universe. The ability to intuit how people see us is what enables us to authentically connect to others and to reap the deep satisfaction that comes with those ties. The bottom line: It comes down to what you think about yourself Your ideas about what others think of you hinge on your self-concept—your own beliefs about who you are. Our self-concept is fundamentally shaped by one person in particular: Mama. As an infant scans his mother's face he absorbs clues to who he is; as adults we continue to search for our reflections in others' eyes. Context is key

Free Downloads - Therapy Worksheets You will need Adobe Reader to open the files - download the free software here . Cognitive Models & Formulation Templates About the Resources My motivation for this website is to improve and increase both the self help resources available, and printable resources for therapists. The documents (whole or part) and their content must NOT be resold nor otherwise used for profit. Give your feedback or suggestions here . Please let me know if you have any suggestions for the website: I would welcome suggestions for making alterations to existing resources, or for ideas for new ones. Please consider a small donation to the Red Cross in return for using these free resources MP 3 guided imagery/relaxation downloads WHAT'S NEW at Self Help Books Sitemap & Search Carol Vivyan

Pluto, Mars and the Inner Journey of Scorpio, Part I Detail from Hercules, by John Singer Sargent, 1921. Scorpio season is upon us once again, bringing with it another opportunity to look more deeply into our own psyche than we have ever done before. The enigmatic sign of Scorpio is associated with such intense themes as sex, death, cruelty, rebirth, power, regeneration, money, and the deepest darkest depths of our own minds. Jolly good fun! Scorpio goes where angels fear to tread and for this reason is also the sign of priests and psychologists. So what is it all about? Following the journey of the soul through the 12 signs of the zodiac, after the point of balance between body and soul has been reached in Libra, the final struggle takes place in Scorpio. Three planetary rulers, or space-holders, are the guardians of this birthing process, which is vital for the evolution of humanity from an animalistic being into a fully awakened soul-centered being. Ruth Ruth Hadikin – Soul Astrologer

Beautiful Word Clouds Psychologists Have Uncovered a Troubling Feature of People Who Seem Nice All the Time This week, a Texas mother pointed out that a high school geography textbook was painting a misleading picture of slavery — and the publisher acknowledged she was right and immediately moved to correct the text. Mother Roni Dean-Burren was surprised to learn McGraw Hill Education's ninth-grade textbook World Geography seemingly lacked any reference to the brutal conditions endured by black people captured and sold in the Atlantic slave trade, BuzzFeed reports. Her concerns were subsequently mirrored by tens of thousands of Facebook users. The questionable section of the textbook, titled "Patterns of Immigration," reads "The Atlantic slave trade between the 1500s and the 1800s brought millions of workers from Africa to the southern United States to work on agricultural plantations." In a video posted to Facebook, Dean-Burren explained precisely what was wrong with that section — the term "worker" omits mention of the vile, coercive nature of slavery.

Scientist studies emotion in psychology, art and acting to help autistics Stanford Report, March 25, 2010 Stanford researcher David Wilkins is comparing how artists, actors and psychologists know facial emotions. He hopes to use his findings to help individuals with autism, who often are very poor at recognizing facial emotions. By Christine Blackman When actors such as Katharine Hepburn express facial emotions, 'they capture something that we find significant and that captivates us,' researcher David Wilkins said. Sometimes our deepest emotions are written all over our faces. Stanford researcher David Wilkins is studying how people can be trained to better recognize facial emotions. His findings will be integrated in an interactive learning environment to train people with autism to better recognize facial emotions. Wilkins, a lecturer in Stanford's Symbolic Systems Program, is focusing on the seven universal emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear, disgust and contempt. Facing the facts Good actors subtly and accurately portray authentic emotions.