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Guest Blogger Starling: Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced

Phaedra Starling is the pen name of a romance novelist and licensed private investigator living in small New York City apartment with two large dogs. She practices Brazilian jiu-jitsu and makes world-class apricot muffins. Gentlemen. Thank you for reading. Let me start out by assuring you that I understand you are a good sort of person. You are kind to children and animals. So far, so good. Now, you want to become acquainted with a woman you see in public. “But wait! Well, no. So when you, a stranger, approach me, I have to ask myself: Will this man rape me? Do you think I’m overreacting? I don’t. When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Fortunately, you’re a good guy. To begin with, you must accept that I set my own risk tolerance. The second important point: you must be aware of what signals you are sending by your appearance and the environment. This means that some men should never approach strange women in public. Are you wearing a tee-shirt making a rape joke?

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