The Neuroscience of Relationship Breakups
"...Loves me, loves me not" An unexpected and unwanted breakup can cause considerable psychological distress. People report feeling as if they have been kicked in the stomach or blindsided and knocked down. B reakups and the Brain The research on relationship breakups in unmarried people (generally college students) gives us some clues as to why these events are so subjectively painful. fMRI of the brain during a breakup Our brains appear to process relationship breakups similarly to physical pain. Obsessive Thoughts & "Cravings" People who have recently been rejected by their partners often develop obsessive thinking. Recent research provides some suggestion that there may be physiological basis to these "cravings" for the ex-partner. Hope and Resilience One issue with these fMRI studies is that they tend to use a small number of people who respond to advertisements for people who haven't gotten over their ex-partners.
Your Daily Dose of Quotes (30 pics
Nov 09/11 Your Daily Dose of Quotes (30 pics) Daily selection of quotes. Smart, stupid, funny, love, friendship, etc.
Love Fitness: Are You in Shape for Your Next Relationship? by Joy Nordenstrom, CMM, MBA | The Toolbox at LisaKiftTherapy.com
As you jump into your workout, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you are definitely on the right track—you are taking care of yourself, your body. This is an excellent step in becoming ready for love. As a certified matchmaker and love coach, I constantly hear the laundry list of what people want in a partner. The following are three vital secrets I begin with as I work with my clients to help them find and maintain a juicy, thriving relationship. Fill up your inner joy. Think of yourself as a rechargeable battery. What makes you feel fabulous, stunning, creative, delicious? By filling yourself up, you come to the relationship not expecting your partner to fill you up. Cultivate a curious mind. This is key to being interesting and interested. Be authentically interested in your date. When you first connect with someone find things you have in common; direct the conversation to shared points of interest. Do things that develop your self-confidence.
The Neuroscience of Romanticized Love – Part 2: Either-Or Thinking | Neuroscience and Relationships
The selling of ideals for romantic love is a multibillion-dollar industry. While these notions contain elements of authentic love, they largely consist of myths, social order politics, and certain either-or thinking patterns known to jam the brain and body’s communication network. Why the paralyzing effect? Simply put, this thinking has attributes of belief systems known to jam the reflective thinking processes of the human brain with … fear. Only fear can paralyze the otherwise remarkable abilities of the human brain to reflectively think, learn, understand, empathize, thus, help partners form vibrant, mutually enriching couple relationships. At best, romanticized ideals, a phenomenon peculiar to the West, form a system of unrealistic expectations that lead single and married partners alike … to look for love where it cannot be found. The role of language and the ‘power of the pen’? It’s limiting to define what emotional states men and women “should” express. Beliefs are life shaping.
Sexual Recovery from an Extramarital Affair
During the last ten years there has been a revolution in understanding and treatment of extra-marital affairs driven by the seminal research and clinical work of Snyder, Baucom, and Gordon. Their book "Getting Past the Affair" is the gold standard of self-help books on this topic. I want to address a seldom discussed issue: sexual recovery from an affair. The new therapeutic model features a "both-and" approach of making meaning of the affair for the "involved" partner, the "injured" partner, and the marriage , as well as an immediate focus on rebuilding trust , intimacy, and sexuality . I am not advocating affairs as a way to enhance couple sexuality. You cannot change or undo the past. Why is developing a new couple sexual style with a stronger, more resilient sexual desire so important in healing from an extra-marital affair?
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Sexual chemistry: How brain chemicals that divide us into four personality groups are the key to finding perfect love...
By Louise Atkinson Updated: 08:20 GMT, 22 February 2011 Who knows why Brad Pitt chose Angelina Jolie over Jennifer Aniston or why Helena Bonham-Carter prefers to live in a separate house to her long-term partner Tim Burton? The course of true love is a complex combination of personality, circumstance, upbringing and timing, but an eminent U.S. anthropologist claims to have uncovered a key secret to why some relationships work and others prove to be a little more tricky. After 30 years of studying the science of romantic love, Dr Helen Fisher is convinced that attraction is closely linked to the chemistry of your personality type and how it matches — or clashes — with that of your chosen partner. Love solution: Finding your perfect match is easy if you know their personality type, according to scientists If dopamine tends to dominate your personality, she believes you will have a tendency to seek novelty. Happy couple: Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie must have compatible personality types
The Neuroscience of Romanticized Love – Part 3: A Jungian Analysis of Psyche Wounds | Neuroscience and Relationships
The human psyche, Dr. Carl Jung said, ever strives for wholeness and healing. Jung taught that healing, wholeness and consciousness, whether for an individual or a group, are inborn subconscious strivings. “There is in the psyche a process that seeks its own goal no matter what the external factors may be….the almost irresistible compulsion and urge to become what one is.” The path to one’s healing is a journey to consciousness, and the doorway to this path is … the discovery of one’s psyche wounds. Notably, the latest neuroscience supports some of Jung’s observations. The most painful wound in the Western psyche? What is a psyche wound? A noted author, lecturer and interpreter of Jung’s work, Dr. In his analysis, he regards what he terms ‘romantic love’ as “the great wound in the Western psyche.” This concept, Dr. According to Dr. “Romantic love not just a form of “love,” it is a whole psychological package — a combination of beliefs, ideals, attitudes, and expectations.
