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20 Things to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone

20 Things to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone
“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” ~Chinese proverb As Tiny Buddha grows larger, I find there are a lot more people emailing me with requests. The people pleaser in me wants to say yes to everyone, but the reality is that there is only so much time in the day—and we all have a right to allocate our time as best supports our intentions, needs, and goals. Recently someone contacted me with a request that I was unable to honor. As ironic as this may sound given the context of this site, I felt angry. I felt angry because I have always struggled with saying no, and this was exactly the type of uncomfortable encounter I generally aim to avoid. I felt angry because I felt misunderstood and judged, and I wanted him to realize that he was wrong about me. I felt angry because I assumed he intended to be hurtful, and I didn’t feel like I deserved that. It’s inevitable that I’ll feel that way again—and many times, with people I know well and love. 1.

7 Lessons From 7 Great Minds - Global One TV Have you ever wished you could go back in time and have a conversation with one of the greatest minds in history? Well, you can’t sorry, they’re dead. Unless of course you’re clairaudient, be my guest. But for the rest of us, we can still refer to the words they left behind. Even though these great teachers have passed on, their words still live, and in them their wisdom. I’ve made a list of seven what I believe are some of the greatest teachings by the world’s greatest minds. 1. “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.” - Lawrence J. In order for us to achieve our dreams, we must have a vision of our goals. Action: Visualize a life of your wildest dreams. 2. “It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, “Always do what you are afraid to do.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson The best way to learn something is to dive right in to it. Action: You must define your fears in order to conquer them. 3. “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.

How can you tell if someone is a psychopath? Not all are predators Consider the following scene: You’re out for dinner with your family when your father suddenly stands, raps his spoon against a glass and calls the restaurant patrons – all strangers – to attention. “Many thanks,” he says, “for coming tonight, especially to those who have come from out of town. I can’t tell you how much it means that you could join us. We’d like to continue the celebration after dessert, with a reception down the street at the King’s Arms. The diners all applaud with enthusiasm. Leaving soon after, you ask, “Dad, we aren’t really going to the King’s Arms, are we?” “No, son,” he says, “but they are. That, says British research psychologist Kevin Dutton, who watched his own father once perform that – and many similar – acts of brazen tomfoolery, is classic evidence of psychopathy. “My father was absolutely a nailed-down psychopath,” he said in an interview. As Dr. “There are two deep-seated myths I’m trying to debunk,” explains Dr. But, in other respects, Dr. Psycho or hero?

The Power of the Apology Column by Janine Popick, Inc.com "Women in Business" May 21, 2009 I’ve worked for a bunch of companies spanning from New York to the Bay Area, both large and small. I have noticed in all of these companies that women apologize in our everyday language--me included. I’ve had times where a woman will walk into my office with a pre-scheduled meeting, and sheepishly say, "Sorry, is now still a good time?" In certain meetings, I have even found myself starting sentences like, "Sorry if we’ve covered this and I can’t remember…" or "Apologies, if I don’t understand. If it’s so easy for women to spew "sorrys" all day long, why can it be SO tough for men to apologize? Sometimes all anyone wants is an apology. Think about when you’re in a car on the freeway and someone cuts you off. Is there no middle ground? With all of these moving parts, there is always the possibility of something going awry.

Imagine Illusionist Derren Brown on how he destroyed the planet for one unsuspecting man in controversial new TV show IF Derren Brown ever asks for a volunteer, think very, very carefully before saying yes. The illusionist, mentalist and magician has long moved on from card tricks and cold reading. His repertoire of psychological experiments and stunts includes everything from performing Russian roulette live on TV to successfully predicting the National Lottery. His next venture is a case in point. Called Apocalypse, for one poor soul, a young volunteer called Steven, it really is the end of the world. He said: “The show is about taking somebody who basically takes his life for granted, and suffers from that lazy sense of entitlement that many of us do, and giving him a second chance at discovering the value of what he has. “It’s over two episodes, which I’ve never done before. “It was based on a seed of truth, because there was a meteor shower around August, so we just used the idea that this shower was masking a much bigger potential collision. “The end of the world happens. “What does scare me?

50 of the best personal development blogs Personal development is my business and my life. In the 6 months that I have been blogging I have come across some excellent blogs in all subjects and thought it would be a good idea to share some of the top blogs in the different areas. This month I will look at the personal development field. You’ve probably all seen the positive blog network (PBN) logo in the sidebar. Here are a few others that you might like to check out. That’s it for now. Some Amazing Comments

19 « 30×30 Reputation Is Ridiculous, but Important People just don’t do their homework. I don’t mean that in a snarky way, like “ahh man we’re all sheep.” No, it’s just too mentally stressful to challenge every idea that crosses our path. Life would be so exhausting if we had to evaluate everyone’s opinion, every day. This is why reputation is a bigger deal than most of us make it out to be. Here’s the really crazy part: To a certain extent, you can create your reputation just by repeatedly saying it out loud. © 2012, Ian Mathias Like this: Like Loading...

Sum of the parts? How our brains see men as people and women as body parts Public release date: 25-Jul-2012 [ Print | E-mail Share ] [ Close Window ] Contact: Sarah Gervaissgervais2@unl.edu 402-472-3793University of Nebraska-Lincoln When casting our eyes upon an object, our brains either perceive it in its entirety or as a collection of its parts. Consider, for instance, photo mosaics consisting of hundreds of tiny pictures that when arranged a certain way form a larger overall image: In fact, it takes two separate mental functions to see the mosaic from both perspectives. A new study suggests that these two distinct cognitive processes also are in play with our basic physical perceptions of men and women -- and, importantly, provides clues as to why women are often the targets of sexual objectification. The research, published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, found in a series of experiments that participants processed images of men and women in very different ways. "Local processing underlies the way we think about objects: houses, cars and so on.

What Does Love Mean? When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love. 2. 3. 4. 5. Terri – age 4 6. Danny – age 7 7. Emily – age 8 8. Bobby – age 7 9. Nikka – age 6 10. Noelle – age 7 11. Tommy – age 6 12. Cindy – age 8 13. Clare – age 6 14. Elaine-age 5 15. Chris – age 7 16. Mary Ann – age 4 17. Lauren – age 4 18. Karen – age 7 19. Mark – age 6 20. Jessica – age 8 21. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

30 Best Quotes in Pictures of the Week - May 05th to May 12th, 2012 1. ”Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour…..” – Albert Einstein 2. ”When you can’t smoke” – Rory Sutherland 3. ”Death does not concern us…” – Epicurus 4. ”I think it’s better to have ideas.” – Chris Rock 5. ”You gotta be able to smile…” 6. ”Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle…” – Buddha 7. 8. ”Some things are best left unsaid.” – Red 9. ”However vast the darkness we must supply our own light” -Stanley Kubrick 10. ”It Takes Courage…” – E.E.Cummings 11. ”The world has enough for everyone’s need…” Mahatma Gandhi 12. ”I’m a f*cking unicorn, and f*ck anybody who say I’m not”-Tyler, The Creator 13. ”It is the mark of an educated mind…” – Aristotle 14. ”The two most important days in your life…” – Mark Twain 15. ”Be humble, for you are made of earth, be noble, for you are made of stars” – Serbian proverb 16. 17. ”Mutual Weirdness” – Dr. 18. ”There is only one god…” – Syrio Forel 19. ”The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows” – Rocky Balboa 23. 25. 26. 28.

A proposal to classify happiness as a psychiatric disorder. I write for myself and I'll say anything I damn well please Transcripts follow. (Source: Dexter; Image above, via NME.) Transcript December 2, 1996 Green Day P.O. Box 710 Berkeley, Ca 94701-0710Re: InsomniacTo whom it may concern:I am a parent, and I am very disturbed by the cassette tape my 8 year old son was listening to. Civilization V Wonders

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