A Zen Master Responds to Hate Mail By Maria Popova Although the internet may have originated the notion of trolling as an act of aggression, the undergirding human impulse is an ancient one. Its pervasive manifestations drove Kierkegaard to ponder the psychological underpinnings of trolling and Benjamin Franklin to devise a brilliant strategy for handling haters. But because all acts of hate say more about the hater than about the hatee, this ugly primordial urge to transmute our inner pain into outward aggression often finds targets so unlikely as to border on the absurd — including, in one particularly colorful case, the great Korean-born Zen teacher Seung Sahn Soen-sa (August 1, 1927–November 30, 2004). In March of 1975, Soen-sa received a series of letters from a student, expressing a great deal of confusion about the “don’t-know mind” aspect of Zen practice, demanding various clarifications, and ending thusly: Please answer me soon, but you probably won’t, huh? You say that you are confused.
Having Difficult Conversations Get Anyone to Like You. Get anyone to like you - Instantly - Guaranteed If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves. This golden rule of friendship works every time - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves. The Big Three Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. Eyebrow Flash The eyebrow flash is a quick up and down movement of the eyebrows. Head Tilt The head tilt is a slight tilt of the head to one side or the other. Smile A smile sends the message "I like you." Empathic Statements Empathic statements keep the focus on the other person. Example 1 George : I've been really busy this week. Tom : So you didn't have much free time in the last few days. Example 2 Tom : Free time has been at a premium in the last several days. Flattery Asking a Favor
Mixed Signals: Why People Misunderstand Each Other In her new book No One Understands You and What To Do About It, Heidi Grant Halvorson tells readers a story about her friend, Tim. When Tim started a new job as a manager, one of his top priorities was communicating to his team that he valued each member’s input. So at team meetings, as each member spoke up about whatever project they were working on, Tim made sure he put on his “active-listening face” to signal that he cared about what each person was saying. But after meeting with him a few times, Tim’s team got a very different message from the one he intended to send. To Halvorson, a social psychologist at Columbia Business School who has extensively researched how people perceive one another, Tim’s story captures one of the primary problems of being a human being: Try though you might to come across in a certain way to others, people often perceive you in an altogether different way. These kinds of misunderstandings lead to conflict and resentment not just at work, but at home too.
» How NOT to Multitask – Work Simpler and Saner By Leo Babauta You’re working on two projects at once, while your boss has placed two new demands on your desk. You’re on the phone while three new emails come in. You are trying to get out the door on time so you can pick up a few groceries on the way home for dinner. You are juggling tasks with a speed worthy of Ringling Bros. In this age of instant technology, we are bombarded with an overload of information and demands of our time. Life Hack recently posted How to Multi-task, and it’s a good article on the nature of multi-tasking and how to do it while still focusing on one task at a time. This post is How NOT to Multi-task — a guide to working as simply as possible for your mental health. First, a few quick reasons not to multi-task: Here are some tips on how NOT to multi-task:
How to Detect Lies. Interesting Info -> Lying Index -> How to Detect Lies Become a Human Lie Detector (Part 1) Warning: sometimes ignorance is bliss. After gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you. The following deception detection techniques are used by police, forensic psychologists, security experts and other investigators. Introduction to Detecting Lies: This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions. This is just a basic run down of physical (body language) gestures and verbal cues that may indicate someone is being untruthful. If you got here from somewhere else, be sure to check out our Lie Detection index page for more info including new research in the field of forensic psychology. Signs of Deception: Body Language of Lies: • A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact. Bored?
Presentation: The Power of Loyalty in Social Media | davefleet.com Are You As Busy As You Think? 25 Acts of Body Language to Avoid Our body language exhibits far more information about how we feel than it is possible to articulate verbally. All of the physical gestures we make are subconsciously interpreted by others. This can work for or against us depending on the kind of body language we use. Some gestures project a very positive message, while others do nothing but set a negative tone. Most people are totally oblivious to their own body language, so the discipline of controlling these gestures can be quite challenging. Most of them are reflexive in nature, automatically matching up to what our minds are thinking at any given moment. Nevertheless, with the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of our negative body language habits. Practice avoiding these 25 negative gestures: “ I speak two languages, Body and English. ” — Mae West Holding Objects in Front of Your Body – a coffee cup, notebook, hand bag, etc. Want to know powerful, dominant, confident body language postures?
Strategic Public Relations Motherhood 'detrimental' to women's scientific careers, study concludes ITHACA, N.Y. — Women with advanced degrees in math-intensive academic fields drop out of fast-track research careers primarily because they want children – not because their performance is devalued or they are shortchanged during interviewing and hiring, according to a new study at Cornell University. "Motherhood – and the policies that make it incompatible with a tenure-track research career – take a toll on women that is detrimental to their professional lives. Even just the plan to have children in the future is associated with women exiting the research fast-track at a rate twice that of men," report Cornell human development professors Wendy Williams and Stephen Ceci in the March-April issue of the journal American Scientist ( For the study, Williams and Ceci analyzed data related to the academic careers of women and men with and without children in academic fields, including math-heavy ones.
What Does Your Body Language Say About You? How To Read Signs and Recognize Gestures - Jinxi Boo - Jinxi Boo Art by LaetitziaAs we all know, communication is essential in society. Advancements in technology have transformed the way that we correspond with others in the modern world. Because of the constant buzz in our technological world, it's easy to forget how important communicating face-to-face is. When conversing old-school style, it's not only speech we verbalize that matters, but what our nonverbal gestures articulate as well. Body language is truly a language of its own. 10% from what the person actually says40% from the tone and speed of voice50% is from their body language. Lowering one's head can signal a lack of confidence. Pushing back one's shoulders can demonstrate power and courageOpen arms means one is comfortable with being approached and willing to talk/communicate
Articles on web writing - 4 Syllables Do you know how to make your social media posts accessible? In this article, we discuss ways to reduce accessibility barriers when writing posts, sharing links, and posting images and video. If you’re writing for the web, you’re writing for responsive design. Or you soon will be. In this article, we offer some tips to get your content working well on a range of screen sizes and orientations. Long descriptions are text alternatives for complex or detailed images. In this article, we look at the role of long descriptions for images, why you need them, and how to implement them. One of the great things about the Internet is the range of tools and information now available—often for free. Want clean, healthy web content? Many organisations are stuck on PDFs. Global Accessibility Awareness Day aims to get people talking, thinking and learning about digital accessibility. Accessibility guidelines require us to use ‘purely decorative’ images in ways that let assistive technologies ignore them.
When Scientists Choose Motherhood A single factor goes a long way in explaining the dearth of women in math-intensive fields. How can we address it? Wendy M. I have frequently been questioned, especially by women, of how I could reconcile family life with a scientific career. —Marie Curie, two-time Nobel Prize winner and mother of a daughter, Irène Joliot-Curie, who also won the Nobel Prize Jennifer was an extremely talented undergraduate, majoring in mathematics and engineering. Although it’s not hard to find evidence of women professors’ many successes in the academy, scenarios like Jennifer’s are all too common. What is going on here? Much has been written about the underrepresentation of women professors in math-intensive fields, particularly in upper-level positions. The usual explanations for the shortage of women focus squarely on sex discrimination at various life stages. We argue for the importance of another factor in women’s underrepresentation: the choice to become a mother. » Post Comment Sending...