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How to beat loneliness

How to beat loneliness
Loneliness is a subjective feeling. You may be surrounded by other people, friends, family, workmates — yet still feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you. Other people are not guaranteed to shield us against the raw emotional pain that loneliness inflicts. But raw emotional pain is only the beginning of the damage loneliness can cause. It has a huge impact on our physical health as well. Loneliness activates our physical and psychological stress responses and suppresses the function of our immune systems. Emerging from loneliness is far more challenging than we realize. There are many paths to loneliness. Unfortunately, emerging from loneliness is far more challenging than we realize, as the psychological wounds it inflicts create a trap from which it is difficult to break free. These distorted perceptions have a huge ripple effect, creating self-fulfilling prophecies that ensnare many. Take action Give the benefit of the doubt Approach with positivity

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