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Beyond Intractability

Beyond Intractability

Deepak Chopra: Why Do Bad Things Happen? (Part 3) In the last post we arrived at a conclusion that will surprise many people: If the good parts of your life are to have meaning, the same must be true of the bad parts. This is a continual message delivered by the world's wisdom traditions. It's a fantasy to believe that being good will keep you from confronting the bad in life, or that there is ever enough pleasure to eradicate pain. The ills that visit every person's life exist for a reason. At a superficial level, you can indulge in a blame game that never ends. Rather, getting beyond blame is a way to actually solve the problem of suffering. There's a harsh judge inside each of us. When bad things happen, all of us refer to our inner compass. 1. When this scheme is embedded in your psyche, your reaction to bad things is predictable because you have so little room to maneuver. 1. We can call this whole scheme moral fundamentalism; it is the most basic view of the universe and our place in it. 1. 1. (To be continued)

How to raise a grateful child You can raise your children to be grateful for what they have. Life won't always gift your child with exactly his heart's desireTeach your child that showing appreciation for gifts is importantCreate excitement surrounding gift purchases for other family members ( -- I was 7 years old when I received a tiny Christmas present -- about the size of an eraser -- awkwardly wrapped and covered in tape. My sister's boyfriend, Jeff, was visiting and had considerately brought gifts for his girlfriend's three younger siblings. Mine, though, was by far the smallest. And I've felt guilty about it ever since. In this, experts say, I wasn't an unusual kid: For distractible, still-developing children (and that's pretty much all of them), gratitude can be hard-won. Why toddlers throw tantrums So, to Jeff Galvin I offer a long-overdue "Thank you." Your 9-year-old keeps a running -- and growing -- list of toys he has to have. Boys vs. girls: Who's harder to raise

CPR Home | International Institute for Conflict Prevention & Resolution Rod Stryker: The 6-Point Method for Breaking Unhealthy Habits When I first started teaching yoga, it was hard not to notice that students tend to practice in the same spot every time they come to class. The first time they enter the classroom, they carefully consider their options before putting their mat down. Taking in the room, they measure their surroundings to find the best place to practice. Their next class, they usually drop their mat in the exact same spot. Years later, most students are still practicing in the very same spot as the first time they came to class. Habits start innocently enough; rarely does it occur to us that even a harmless habit may be affecting our future. The implication of this is that if you want a different future -- say, to find the love of your life, a more meaningful career, or to have a more fulfilling spiritual life -- it is vital to consider a core teaching of the yoga tradition, which is: Avoid unconscious action or doing things simply because they are familiar. This point is essential.

MeiMei Fox: The Secret to Turning Your Relationship Into a Romance I never was a romantic. That doesn't mean I wasn't sentimental; I cried at the expected moments during chick flicks and even the occasional TV commercial. I enjoyed celebrating anniversaries of first dates and bringing unexpected gifts home to my partner for no reason. Until I met the Love of My Life, Kiran, I was hopelessly pragmatic. "Look," I'd say, assuming a newscaster tone of voice, "There are 7 billion people on this planet. But my worldview got turned upside-down this year. When we did make the decision to give our romance a chance to blossom this past spring, it flourished like Jack's beanstalk. Suddenly, I find that I am no longer "Miss Practicality," as my college friends nicknamed me decades ago. During our short time together as a couple, Kiran and I have navigated our share of scratchy patches. Let's be honest here: Kiran gets most of the credit. While we co-authored this blog, the lessons are Kiran's. 1. Relationships are work. 2. "I like to gush on you," Kiran says. 3.

revista la trama número 41 mayo 2014 La mediación en Portugal editorial Estamos inaugurando con este número una nueva propuesta: compartir experiencias provenientes del otro lado del Atlántico. Comenzamos con Portugal para luego seguir con España e Italia, con la intención de ofrecer al lector un panorama del desarrollo de la mediación en esos países. Con Portugal iniciamos este camino y ha sido posible gracias a la labor conjunta que hemos desarrollado con Ana María Silva, Doctora en Educación, profesora e investigadora en el Instituto de la Educación de la Universidad do Minho, Portugal, con quien hemos estamos desarrollando un fructífero intercambio. En primer lugar, Ana María Silva nos ofrece una síntesis retrospectiva de la trayectoria de la Mediación en Portugal, refiriendo su encuadramiento sociopolítico y jurídico y las diversas áreas de intervención, que nos permite ubicarnos en los desarrollos alcanzados en ese hermoso país. Las editoras

Marie Pasinski, M.D.: 5 Ways to Nourish Your Mind This Thanksgiving As you prepare for Thanksgiving, I hope you will consider how to best nourish your mind and those of your loved ones this year. Empowering your own mind, sharing new ideas and promoting brain-boosting activities are the best gifts you can bring to the table. Too often, as we reunite with our families, we fall into conversational ruts. If your family reunions are like mine, left to their own devices, conversations default to mundane topics and if we're not careful, a rehash of past issues and rants. I'll never forget the year my mother came into her own after all of her children had finally flown the coop. Looking back with a neurologist's perspective, I now understand how those conversations, spiced with new concepts and venturing into previously unexplored territory, stimulated brain activity. All of this activity is wonderful for our brain. There are many ways you can stimulate conversation, trigger creative thinking and nourish the minds of those around your table this Thanksgiving.

Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks: How to Create a Conscious Relationship: 7 Principles, 7 Practices As we write this blog we are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary. Early in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in past relationships, such as criticism, blame and secret-keeping. We wanted to create a relationship that ran on positive energy instead of up-and-down fluctuations of negative and positive. If that kind of relationship magic appeals to you, here are the operating instructions, as clearly and simply as we can make them. Ready? The First Principle Relationships thrive when each partner commits to total union with the other person and total creative expression as an individual. The First Practice Make a heartfelt commitment to your partner that you're willing to go beyond all your ego-defenses to full unity. The Second Principle Relationships thrive when each partner learns from every relationship interaction, especially the stressful ones, instead of running programmed defensive moves. The Third Practice