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10 Things I've Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic

10 Things I've Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic
Originally published on Medium and cross-posted here with their permission. Gaslighting is the attempt of one person to overwrite another person’s reality. There’s a good chance that you now know more about gaslighting than most therapists. And that is really unfortunate, because if you have experienced gaslighting, it’s going to be really hard to untangle it yourself. Unfortunately, you may have to, and I want to tell you that you are not alone. Let me share my experience. 1. About the fifth time I called a close friend of mine on the phone, gasping for air, asking “Am I a monster?” What the hell is gaslighting? Wikipedia told me that it came from an old movie, where the main character makes changes in the environment and then insists to his victim that she is simply imagining these changes. Whaat? Unfortunately, the first definition I looked up was woefully inadequate. The rest just happens organically when a person who holds that belief feels threatened. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Try: 9. 10.

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Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It Ages ago, I read this fantastic piece about practical things men can do to support feminism. Almost every item on the list really resonated with my experience, and this was one of the most resonant: 2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.Recognize that women are disproportionately responsible for emotional labour and that being responsible for this takes away time and energy from things they find fulfilling. 12 Reasons Why There's Orgasm Inequity (And No, It's Not That Women Are 'Harder to Please') I was young when I came to discover masturbation, and I had orgasms long before I knew what they were. Nothing about it seemed complicated. I just rubbed “down there” for a few minutes, and it happened.

Power and control in abusive relationships In an intimate relationship[edit] Background[edit] The power and control wheel was developed in 1982 by the Domestic Abuse Program in Minneapolis to explain the nature of abuse, to delineate the forms of abuse used to control another person, and to educate people with the goal of stopping violence. What is Gaslighting? You’re overreacting. It wasn’t that bad. You’re just being emotional. What Does Mother Teresa Canonized Saint Mean A 2013 study from the University of Montreal echoed the concerns. Investigating hundreds of documents regarding Mother Teresa after her death, the study raised questions about “her rather dubious way of caring for the sick, questionable political contacts, [and] her suspicious management of the enormous sums of money she received.” It also noted that doctors working with her reported poor conditions. The French-language study also found that she had been “very generous with her prayers, but for the most part miserly with her foundation’s millions,” in the face of disasters. Famed atheist intellectual Christopher Hitchens, who was invited to be part of the investigation regarding her suitability for sainthood, wrote an essay during the beginning steps of her canonization process in 2003 that called Mother Teresa “a fanatic, a fundamentalist, and a fraud” for her approach to the care of the poor.

How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars The message that women are untrustworthy liars is everywhere in our culture—from TV and music, to politics and religion, says Soraya Chemaly. Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” 5 Warning Signs You May Be Suffering from PTSD Originally published on The Huffington Post and republished here with the author’s permission. When Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is in the news, it’s mostly because of the number of veterans suffering as a result of combat-related trauma. Victims of other kinds of trauma can also suffer from PTSD, though, and often do without realizing it. PTSD mirrors other mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety, and can also present as “I feel fine” when really, the “feeling fine” rooted in numbness and avoidance.

Psychological manipulation Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics.[1] By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive. Social influence is not necessarily negative. For example, doctors can try to persuade patients to change unhealthy habits. Social influence is generally perceived to be harmless when it respects the right of the influenced to accept or reject and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation. Requirements for successful manipulation[edit]

Abuse That's Hard to Recognize: Coercive Control Isolation. Threats. Humiliation. Sometimes even physical abuse. m.artsy If you’re thinking about being an appropriation artist, you may need to put a lawyer on retainer because sooner or later you’re likely to find yourself in the midst of a copyright case. These are no small matter. Judicial decisions around appropriation can seriously restrict artistic practice, pitting different artistic communities against each other. Just look at Cariou v. Prince. 3 Ways Men Wanting to 'Focus On Her Pleasure' During Sex Can Still Be Sexist We’re starting to talk more about giving equal weight to women’s pleasure in man/woman sexual encounters, and that’s awesome. As a woman, you’d think I’d be all for focusing more on women’s pleasure in sex. And I am – mostly. Sometimes, though, I’ll hear a hetero guy talking about how important women’s pleasure is, and it leaves me cringing. Worse yet, sometimes I’ve had sex with men who said they were all about my pleasure – and in a sense, they were – yet I still ended up feeling like their feelings and needs were more important than my actual experiences. In this article, I’ll be discussing three ways “I love giving a woman pleasure!”

Cartoons Show How ‘Thank You’ Can Be an Empowering Substitute for ‘Sorry’ If you want to say “thank you,” don’t say “sorry.” Want to share this article with your friends? Just copy and paste this link: