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The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath & a Narcissist.

The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath & a Narcissist.
get elephant's newsletter We know that “narcissist” has become a bit of a buzzword recently, and some folks are quick to apply it to an ex-lover or family member or friend. While awareness of this concept is healthy, so is remembering that it is, in a mental health context, a serious condition that shouldn’t be applied to someone you’re mad at because they stole your mirror. ~ Eds. I am an empath. I am writing this article from the perspective of an empath, however, would love to read the view from the opposite side if there are any narcissists that would like to offer their perception on this. Through writing about the empath personality type I have connected with many other people who class themselves as an empath and time and again I have heard people tell me how they have also attracted relationships with narcissists. For a detailed explanation of both the narcissist and empathy personality types, please click here and here. This is my theory… Here comes the empath, the healer. Related:  personal stuffManipulation

Polyamory FAQ - More Than Two The word polyamory is based on the Greek and Latin for “many loves” (literally, poly many + amor love). A polyamorous person is someone who has or is open to having more than one romantic relationship at a time, with the knowledge and consent of all their partners. A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship where the people in the relationship agree that it’s okay for everyone to be open to or have other romantic partners. So polyamory is like swinging? Not exactly. Oh, I gotcha. No. Six of one, half a dozen of the other. No. If you are married, and you have a girlfriend that your wife doesn’t know about, or that your wife suspects but isn’t sure about, or that your wife knows about but isn’t happy with, you’re not poly, you’re cheating. Polyamory is defined by informed consent of all the participants. Poly, schmolly. No. The rules need not be explicit; even breaking the tacit rules of a relationship is cheating. Okay, okay, I understand. No, no, no. Rules? Yeah? Uh-huh. No.

Fascia: The Secret Organ And How To Make Your Legs Longer and Leaner A visit to structural integrative specialist Lauren Roxburgh begins with a photo session in front of a gridded wall at her Santa Monica studio. She instructs you to stand in your natural posture—in a sports bra and tights—feet aligned against two marks on the floor. 90 or so minutes later, she sets you up in front of the same grid, and then shows you the infomercial-esque results. Lauren is an alignment and body mechanics specialist who focuses on the fascia—i.e., the connective tissue in our bodies that doctors are now considering to be the organ of structure or posture. So what is it exactly that you do? At the most basic level, I do body work—but it’s much deeper than that, as the way we move our bodies says a lot about our lives. What do I mean by that? I’ve studied many modalities, from nutrition to yoga to structural integration and meditation, but perhaps the one thing that makes me different is my focus on fascia. Shaping in what way?

How to Know if Someone is Hoovering You. “Hoovering” is a term describing a ploy that occurs when someone with a personality disorder tries to suck an ex partner back towards them after a period of separation. It often happens when the realisation hits the hooverer that the person they nonchalantly walked away from has garnered some strength, is doing just fine and building up with their life after having broken free from a toxic entanglement. This form of mind-game playing can happen after a week, a month or shockingly even years after a relationship has broken down. They will just try to walk straight back into their past life without a single care for the destruction they left behind. The reason people, usually narcissists, hoover is so that they can top themselves up with a vital supply of energy. This often happens when a hooverer is at a low point in their life and they need a quick-fix so they look for the easiest and quickest source. Moral code does not come into question when hooverers are desperately seeking a top up.

Six Ways To Show Your Love. How To Practice Compassion In Relationships. A couple asked me recently what the Buddhist view is on marriage. They were planning their wedding and in the process of writing their vows. I don’t know what the Buddha would have said, but what occurred to me in that moment was how committing to loving one person for the rest of your life is taking compassion practice to a whole new level. Compassion has three aspects, a feeling of warmth, a sense of openness, and a pervading wisdom that sees through the illusion of separateness and duality. Vaguely Relephant Reads: I Hope he Loves you like This. You’re Not Broken: What Therapists want us to know about the Human Experience. Before you get started, remember that to genuinely be compassionate to another, you must begin by extending that kindness to yourself. The Buddhist tradition presents compassion in action as the six paramitas or transcendental virtues. Generosity Generosity is centered upon selfless motivation. Discipline Patience Read Next:

Infographics for Entrepreneurs - Album on Imgur 11 Excel Shortcuts That Make Budgeting Easy Excel is a powerhouse in the business world, but the software also offers tremendous benefits for individuals in need of budgeting help. From playing with your stock options to planning for taxes, there are dozens of ways in which people can use Excel to their advantage, provided they understand the program’s tools and tricks. Below are 11 Excel shortcuts that make budgeting easy while saving you valuable time each month. Related: How Creating a Budget Can Improve Your Credit Score 1. AutoSum is a basic function in Excel that saves significant time when adding or subtracting numbers. To sum a column of numbers, select the cell immediately below the last number in the column and click the AutoSum button found at Home > AutoSum, and Formulas > AutoSum. 2. When creating a budget, the “$” shortcut is incredibly helpful for adding items like monthly expenses or different income components. 3. First, right-click on the row before which you want to add new rows. 4. 3D Sum 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

Four Influence Modes for Leaders – Jay Gordon Cone Every leader develops a point of view about the relationship between influence and change. Some perspectives are well-reasoned and rooted in leadership philosophies, others emerge from some combination of trial-and-error, habit, and values. The modes of influence described below will help leaders clarify their approach to influence and identify the skills and strategies needed to increase effectiveness when operating in each mode. Coercive Catchphrase: Do as I saySource: Power imbalanceStrategy: Find the fear; exploit weaknessPioneers: Machiavelli, Sun Tzu Persuasive Catchphrase: Lend me you earSource: Rhetorical excellenceStrategy: Draw on credibility, emotion and logicPioneers: Aristotle, Dale Carnegie Collaborative Catchphrase: Better togetherSource: TrustStrategy: Build on shared interests and share responsibility for successPioneers: David Straus, Roger Fisher and William L. Emergent

untitled businessinsider One nerve connects your vital organs, sensing and shaping your health. If we learn to control it, the future of medicine will be electric. By Gaia Vince. When Maria Vrind, a former gymnast from Volendam in the Netherlands, found that the only way she could put her socks on in the morning was to lie on her back with her feet in the air, she had to accept that things had reached a crisis point. It was 1993. Waiting rooms outside rheumatoid arthritis clinics used to be full of people in wheelchairs. Like many patients, Vrind was given several different medications, including painkillers, a cancer drug called methotrexate to dampen her entire immune system, and biopharmaceuticals to block the production of specific inflammatory proteins. “I was on holiday with my family and my arthritis suddenly became terrible and I couldn’t walk – my daughter-in-law had to wash me.” Luckily, she would not have to. And, like many good ideas, it came from an unexpected source. The nerve hunter

Chef Dan Esses Hopes To Rescue Money Pit Jack & Jake's With New Dryades Public Market The long-delayed O.C. Haley money pit Jack & Jake's has been through some major shakeups in the past few months leading to its inevitable demise—well, to a big rebranding move anyways. You may recall that 'visionary' CEO John Burns stepped down in September after the $17.7 million dollar two-story market (which also got a $1 million loan from the city) had stalled out indefinitely. Ian McNulty now reports that Three Muses chef and pasta guru Dan Esses is managing the project, which is now called Dryades Public Market and is already open. Kind of. A coffee bar, featuring French Truck Coffee, and a sandwich shop are operating on weekdays from 7:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. and a salad bar will open by next week. By December... the market should be a more complete picture, with produce, meat, seafood, dairy and dry goods for grocery shopping, prepared foods for on-site or grab-and-go meals and many other facets of food and drink to come. The cheese cave will become an Esses Foods pasta shop.

How to Build Your Immunity to Other People’s Control Dramas By Julian Websdale Guest Writer for Wake Up World Many people go through their lives in a constant hunt for someone else’s energy. Manipulation for other people’s energy can happen either aggressively, directly forcing people to pay attention to them, or passively, playing on people’s sympathy or curiosity to gain attention. So first, let’s look at the main ways control dramas are played out. The Intimidator If someone threatens you, either verbally or physically, then you are forced, for fear of something bad happening to you, to pay attention to them and so to give them energy. Poor Me If, on the other hand, someone tells you all the horrible things that are already happening to them, implying perhaps that you are responsible, and that, if you refuse to help, these horrible things are going to continue, then this person is seeking to control at the most passive level – a “poor me” drama. Think about this for a moment. The Interrogator An interrogator is another kind of drama. Aloof Drama

3 Quick Recipes for Flawless Skin & Stress Relief. ~ Pratibha Pal I spent 15 years of my life trying to look as beautiful as a model. Wouldn’t it be awesome to have flawless skin, perfectly arched brows, and the sculpted jawline that, for me, was always the epitome of beauty? I spent abomb using the same products, but the freckles and dark circles refused to go away. I was disappointed, but then help came to me in a very magical way—I became a mom to twin boys. I would love to share three recipes with you that are a part of my daily life and help me live life free of chemicals and toxins: The Citrusy Body Scrub This is one of my favourites—and also one of the easiest recipes to follow. What you’ll need: 5 tsp granulated sugar (smaller granules)1/4 tbsp salt2 tbsp of pure coconut oil1 drop of your favorite essential oilpinch of cinnamon powder First, I take 5 teaspoons of granulated sugar and add a quarter tablespoon of smooth salt and a pinch of cinnamon powder. Whipped Body Butter Ingredients: 6 Tbsp coconut oil7-8 drops lavender essential oil

Five Things the Ancient Greeks Can Teach Us About Medicine Today The ancient Greeks are widely seen as having been the founders of Western medicine more than 2,000 years ago. But since then our understanding of the human body and how to treat it has changed beyond recognition. So what would be the point of studying ancient Greek medicine today? It’s part of a more general question: why bother studying medicine from times before people knew about germs, antibiotics, the circulation of the blood, or anaesthetics? 1. The idea that we might uncover an unknown treatment in a forgotten treatise looks like a promising reason to study the ancient Greeks. However, drugs weren’t the starting point of ancient medicine. A patient’s condition was thought to result not just from the balance of their body, but from how that body relates to the environment. Trust me, I’m a doctor Wikimedia Commons/Tedmek, CC BY-SA 2. To gain a patient’s trust, a doctor had to make sure his image was right. 3. Greek medicine’s eventual triumph was not because it was “better”. 4. 5.