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What If We Treated All Consent Like Society Treats Sexual Consent?

What If We Treated All Consent Like Society Treats Sexual Consent?
Text Above Panels: If it’s not okay to treat your friends like this… Panel 1 (Two men talking on a couch.) Man #1: “Wanna watch Pulp Fiction?” Man #2: “Sure!” Panel 2 (The same men with a text box in the upper lefthand corner that says “a half hour later.”) Man #2: “Eh, I’m not really liking this, let’s do something else.” Panel 3 (The same men, but Man #1 is now blocking Man#2’s chest with his arm while Man #2 looks startled.) Man #2: “No! Panel 4 (A man and a woman are standing next to a car. Man: “Thanks for letting me borrow your car.” Woman: “No problem. Panel 5 (The same woman is standing next to the car looking frustrated while the man sits in the driver’s seat. Woman: “What are you doing?” Man: “Borrowing your car! Panel 6 (The woman has her hands on her hips and is frowning at the man, who is frowning back at her.) Woman: “You can’t take my car whenever you want it!” Man: “That’s bullshit! Panel 7 (Two women are speaking to one another. Woman #1: “I really like The Fluffy Bunnys’ new song.”

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SSC and RACK SSC and RACK By Mr. Michael The practice of BDSM is often confused and indistinguishable by the non-BDSM, or vanilla, public with acts of violence or abuse. Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him." I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea." If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. No Means No!: Teaching Children about Personal Boundaries, Respect and Consent With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse, such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn (from a young age) to always speak up when their rights are not being respected. The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults. When a child, teenager or adult says, No!’

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