"5 Reasons Why Marriage Doesn't Work Anymore"...........MY ASS!!!!! - Recently, there has been an article that has made its way around Facebook, and I am sure you all have seen it. It’s an article by a gentleman named Anthony D’Ambrosio, a columnist for the Ashbury Park ((NJ) Press. The article is titled: “5 Reasons Why Marriage Doesn’t Work Anymore”. And it’s absolute bullshit. Anthony, for the record, is divorced. Well done, Anthony. After reading this article that no less than 15 of my Facebook friends shared on their pages (usually accompanied by an “Amen” and “This article is so perfect, like OMG”) – I have had enough. His first point: Sex becomes almost non-existent. My counter-point: Women love sex, and intimacy, and that feeling of closeness…especially to our husbands. Wrong. His second point: Finances cripple us. My counter-point: Shut up, you whiny piece of crap. Okay, so you can’t afford to go out to eat? My counter-point: 1) Dinner reservations on an app? His fourth point: Our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved. Like this:
What I Learned About Sex and Feminism from Hooking Up with a Guy I Didn't Like Originally published on The Huffington Post and republished here with the author’s permission. You don’t have to be in a formal relationship to have sex. After all, it may be a while until you find someone you want to be in a formal relationship with, and chances are you’ll want to have sex sooner than that. For many people, sex is a vitally important part of living – and it’s ridiculous to think you have to wait around for some perfect person to have it. I’ve enjoyed lots of safe, consensual sex with very cool people I wouldn’t call boyfriends, but we liked each other and we both knew what was up. It wasn’t until my 30s that I let myself off the leash a bit to explore no-strings sexual intimacy. For instance, a few years back, I engaged in a brief fling with a man I met online – a handsome, together dude who I thought could make a solid hook-up buddy. I’ll try anything twice. I was shocked by my own response: I felt surprised. Hooking up, in this case, was a closed loop. Exactly.
We Give Up. Let's Just Say Coffee Cures Everything ShareTweetShareSendLink The big news last week was that coffee now prevents skin cancer. “The more coffee consumed, the lower the risk,” The New York Times wrote. I’ve yet to find a cancer that coffee won’t cure. My suggestion would have been diabetes or Alzheimer’s research—if coffee hadn’t already cured them, too. I love coffee. The most recent paper on the dubious connection between coffee and skin cancer is rife with the same fatal flaws that pop up in the 2,000 other coffee wellness studies online. Is it possible that coffee reduces the rate of melanoma? Don’t take it from me (or Dr. I don’t blame the researchers. Physicians understand that. Study: Most People Think Scientists Are Full Of ItSunlight May Cause Skin Cancer Even Hours After You’ve Left The BeachCan Camel Urine Cure Cancer?
The Likely Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered, and It Is Not What You Think | Johann Hari It is now one hundred years since drugs were first banned — and all through this long century of waging war on drugs, we have been told a story about addiction by our teachers and by our governments. This story is so deeply ingrained in our minds that we take it for granted. It seems obvious. If we truly absorb this new story, we will have to change a lot more than the drug war. I learned it from an extraordinary mixture of people I met on my travels. I had a quite personal reason to set out for these answers. If you had asked me what causes drug addiction at the start, I would have looked at you as if you were an idiot, and said: “Drugs. One of the ways this theory was first established is through rat experiments — ones that were injected into the American psyche in the 1980s, in a famous advert by the Partnership for a Drug-Free America. The advert explains: “Only one drug is so addictive, nine out of ten laboratory rats will use it. When I first learned about this, I was puzzled.
Six easy ways to tell if that viral story is a hoax “And so it begins … ISIS flag among refugees in Germany fighting the police,” blared the headline on the Conservative Post; “with this new leaked picture, everything seems confirmed”. The image in question purported to show a group of Syrian refugees holding ISIS flags and attacking German police officers. For those resistant to accepting refugees into Europe, this story was a godsend. The problem is, the photo is three years old, and has precious little to do with the refugee crisis. But news in the digital age spreads faster than ever, and so do lies and hoaxes. But ordinary people are also starting to take a more sophisticated approach to the content they view online. Reverse image search Not only is a reverse image search one of the simplest verification tools, it’s also the one that showed the “leaked” ISIS refugee photo was a fake. When a link to the story was posted to Reddit, sceptical users swiftly took to Google to query it. YouTube DataViewer Jeffrey’s Exif Viewer FotoForensics
A Canadian City Once Eliminated Poverty And Nearly Everyone Forgot About It On a December afternoon, Frances Amy Richardson took a break from her quilting class to reflect on a groundbreaking experiment she took part in 40 years earlier. “Well, that was quite a few years ago,” she said. “There was a lot of people that really benefitted from it.” Between 1974 and 1979, residents of a small Manitoba city were selected to be subjects in a project that ensured basic annual incomes for everyone. For five years, monthly cheques were delivered to the poorest residents of Dauphin, Man. – no strings attached. And for five years, poverty was completely eliminated. The program was dubbed “Mincome” – a neologism of “minimum income” – and it was the first of its kind in North America. The project’s original intent was to evaluate if giving cheques to the working poor, enough to top-up their incomes to a living wage, would kill people’s motivation to work. A final report was never released. Read more about the minimum income: $10,000 For Everybody? “It was done.” Why Dauphin?
Dan and Me: My Coming Out as a Friend of Dan Cathy and Chick-fil-A | Shane L. Windmeyer I spent New Year's Eve at the red-blooded, all-American epicenter of college football: at the Chick-fil-A Bowl, next to Dan Cathy, as his personal guest. It was among the most unexpected moments of my life. Yes, after months of personal phone calls, text messages and in-person meetings, I am coming out in a new way, as a friend of Chick-fil-A's president and COO, Dan Cathy, and I am nervous about it. I have come to know him and Chick-fil-A in ways that I would not have thought possible when I first started hearing from LGBT students about their concerns over the chicken chain's giving practices. For many this news of friendship might be shocking. Why was I now standing next to him at one of the most popular football showdowns? Like most LGBT people, I was provoked by Dan's public opposition to marriage equality and his company's problematic giving history. On Aug. 10, 2012, in the heat of the controversy, I got a surprise call from Dan Cathy.
8 Ancient Rules for Life We Should Still Follow Rido/Shutterstock If you’ve ever suffered from anxiety, or even depression, you might find some relief in the ancient philosophy of Stoicism. Wait: It’s probably not what you think, if you think of stoics as people who hide their emotions. According to Jules Evans, author of Philosophy for Life and Other Dangerous Situations: Ancient Philosophy for Modern Problems, a combination of philosophy and psychology is not only practical; it's an effective way of approaching today’s problems. Not unlike cognitive-behavioral therapy, the classical ideas explored by Evans make use of the mind to deal with our less helpful emotions. For anyone with the tiniest bit of an analytic bent, or those who have been unhappy for way too long—like Evans himself was in his college years—this combo approach can be extremely helpful. I found Evans’ book to be thoughtful and a pleasure to read; even the appendices are not to be missed. 1) It’s not events that cause us suffering, but our opinion about events.
What moviegoers in Baghdad think of “American Sniper” When Gaith Mohammed, a young man in his twenties with a degree in accounting, went to see “American Sniper” during its opening week at Baghdad’s Mansour Mall, he says the theater was full and rowdy. “Some people watching were just concentrating, but others were screaming ‘F*ck, shoot him! He has an IED, don’t wait for permission!!’” Mohammed laughed, recounting the film’s many tense scenes when US Navy SEAL sniper Chris Kyle, played by Bradley Cooper, radios in for authorization to take out a potential threat in his crosshairs. The film, set during the US-led occupation of Iraq and released on Christmas Day, hit nerves in the United States immediately. Some critics and commentators lauded it as patriotic and unflinching; others dismissed it as reductionist and racist. Many people also objected to the film’s portrayal of Kyle — a man who described Iraqis as “savages” in his memoir — as a hero. It’s been stirring controversy in Iraq, too.
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