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Emotions Are A Resource, Not A Crutch

Emotions Are A Resource, Not A Crutch
Ever since Darwin, and perhaps long before him, it has been theorized that our emotions play a crucial role in adapting to our environment. This means that emotions are not just an inconvenient byproduct of consciousness, but a form of higher cognition – an ability for living beings to experience their world in deeper and more complex ways. Humans are a species that thrive on social relations, and our emotions become a gauge on morality and justice. They help facilitate our interactions by giving us clues on how to connect with others in meaningful and productive ways. Emotions however come in many different qualities, degrees, and intensities. Perhaps more important than how researchers conceptualize different emotions is how we experience them. The first key to emotional intelligence is being able to identify these emotions while they occur. Of course even after we are aware of our emotions it doesn’t mean they can’t mislead us to undesirable actions. Sources [2] McNAIR, D. Related:  mental health

Lack of Emotions This is a counseling session for a lack of emotions. If you would like personalized help with a lack of emotions or another issue, click on the button to find out more. Also read my Counseling Blog for even more free self help tools: Be one of the first people invited to my new Facebook page! The Counseling Situation My question is how do I get my feelings back? I asked for more information to write the most helpful counseling response. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Here are the answers to your questions. I try to remember feeling happy or sad and I even look at pictures of me smiling and having fun but I can't remember what that feels like. I'm not sure of that. My friend says I'm going to have a stroke one day because I keep everything inside. My boyfriend says I'm a walking time bomb waiting to explode. The Counseling Response Whenever we try to shut off close down or avoid certain emotions, the problem is that everything else can get shut down as well.

The Power of The Daily 10 Consider this: one month from now you can have easily taken 300 steps towards your highest values. In three months 900 and in a year 3,650. It’s very simple and surprisingly powerful. I’m not a big proponent of commitments that will tie you down and that’s what is so beautiful about the daily 10. You are only making one commitment and that’s to the daily 10 itself, and those 10 things can be whatever you want them to be on any particular day. We all need help and reminders to live our life in a way that progresses us towards what we value the most. Here’s how it works: Step 1: Create your list of highest values. Step 2: Every day create your list of 10 “do’s” and “don’ts” for that day. Step 3: At the end of every day note whether you did what you said you would do. Repeat steps 2 and 3 every day. The daily 10 can be work, personal, or preferably both. As an example of a don’t I use that helps me achieve one of my values of “Health”, I have been putting “No extra snacking” on my daily 10.

Six Steps (en) Introduction Most people find it easier to learn focusing through individual instruction than through simply reading about it. The actual process of focusing, experienced from the inside, is fluid and open, allowing great room for individual differences and ways of working. Yet to introduce the concepts and flavor of the technique, some structure can be useful. There are other ways of describing the focusing process. So, with the caveat that what follows is a simple scaffolding for you to use as long as it's useful and then to move beyond, we offer to you six steps, a taste of the process. What follows is a lightly edited excerpt from The Focusing Manual, chapter four of Focusing. The inner act of focusing can be broken down into six main sub-acts or movements. Think of this as only the basics. So here are the focusing instructions in brief form, manual style. Clearing a space What I will ask you to do will be silent, just to yourself. Felt Sense Handle Resonating Asking Receiving Back to Top

Primal Work Therapy Wounds Group Workshop Awareness Courage Strength Interview Shakura What is Primal work? Primal is a therapeutic method, a way to work on oneself. In Primal, we go back to the past, particularly the first seven years of life, bringing clarity to the conditioning we received and light to shine on old wounds carried from that time. In ancient times, the Indian mystic Patanjali developed meditations and techniques to relive the past in order to clean the mind and reclaim the space of Being. In modern times, about 40 years ago, Arthur Janov, an American therapist, developed Primal Therapy to revisit our early years and heal neurosis created at that time. In the past few years, new concepts and techniques have come into existence, such as the Bradshaw Inner Child work and Co-Dependency. If I had to put it in a sentence I would say: Primal is a process that takes us towards our real self, towards an authentic way of living. What is the need to go back to the past, when life happens now and we have a future ahead that seems more important? As a result:

The Fear of Hurting the Other and the Inhibition of Self Click here to contact Beverly and/or see her GoodTherapy.org Profile Even when it is unintended, some people find it intolerable to hurt someone they love. To experience hurting the other can create shame, guilt and strong “I am a bad person” feelings. As a result, we may avoid saying what is on our mind and put aside our own feelings and needs. This inhibiting of the self can be harmful to our relationships and can create the conditions for developing anxiety and depression. Marlene, a 27 year old married woman, came into my therapy office feeling anxious and depressed. What Marlene described to me suggested that she had issues she needed to work on as an individual and that as we did this she would be more able to address the difficulties in her relationship with Ben. While Ben might be particularly subject to feeling hurt or slighted, Marlene’s inability to tolerate hurting Ben and talk with him about these issues, made the relationship difficult. Find the Right Therapist

Top 10 Thinking Traps Exposed Our minds set up many traps for us. Unless we’re aware of them, these traps can seriously hinder our ability to think rationally, leading us to bad reasoning and making stupid decisions. Features of our minds that are meant to help us may, eventually, get us into trouble. Here are the first 5 of the most harmful of these traps and how to avoid each one of them. 1. “Is the population of Turkey greater than 35 million? Lesson: Your starting point can heavily bias your thinking: initial impressions, ideas, estimates or data “anchor” subsequent thoughts. This trap is particularly dangerous as it’s deliberately used in many occasions, such as by experienced salesmen, who will show you a higher-priced item first, “anchoring” that price in your mind, for example. What can you do about it? Always view a problem from different perspectives. 2. In one experiment a group of people were randomly given one of two gifts — half received a decorated mug, the other half a large Swiss chocolate bar. 3. 4.

Six natural ways to increase your serotonin levels Head out for a morning walk to boost your serotonin levels. Photo, Getty Images. What causes the dip in mood?Though serotonin is typically recognized as a brain chemical, the majority of this neurotransmitter is produced in our digestive tract. Serotonin exerts powerful influence over mood, emotions, memory, cravings (especially for carbohydrates), self-esteem, pain tolerance, sleep habits, appetite, digestion and body-temperature regulation. Production of serotonin is closely linked to the availability of vitamin B6 and the amino acid tryptophan. In my professional opinion, serotonin deficiency has become an epidemic of equal proportion to obesity. 1. Find out what makes you feel good and put it into action. 2. Bottom line: I recommend taking 50-400 mg per day in divided doses throughout the day or before bed. 3. Vitamin B6 in particular supports the production and function of serotonin, melatonin and dopamine in the brain. 4. 5. Bottom line: Take 4-12 g per day. 6.

Premonition - No Ordinary Dream Premonitions are not merely ordinary dreams, but instead a forewarning of what is to come. Are you listening? Pay Attention to Your Dreams. They May Be Visions of the Future. What is a Premonition? A premonition is a forewarning of something that is going to happen before it does without having any concrete evidence to support it. Premonitions can come in many different forms; dreams/nightmares, messages from spirits, intuition (that gut feeling) in the waking state and automatic writing. The phenomenon of premonition is most often associated with anxiety or an uneasy feeling suggesting impending disaster. So YOU Are Having Premonitions? The most common way to receive premonitions is through your dreams. So you are experiencing them – so now what? My Premonition Came True!! Believe, Kristy

Intuition – Your Best Ally We’ve all had experiences involving intuition... all of a sudden and out of the blue, we feel this huge hunch and somehow we know that something is going to happen... only to find out later on that our presentiment had translated into reality... Another example is when we meet a person for the first time and either we immediately feel connected to them, or we perceive a negative feeling about them. All of this happens instantly bypassing our conscious awareness and five physiological senses. Intuition refers to the “knowing” of external things happening without the reasoning, feedback, logic, or use of the senses from which other “knowings” usually emerge. It is also called “sixth sense” and some link it to paranormal phenomena, and ESP or extrasensory perception. Intuition can be experienced through clairvoyance, clairaudience, and/or sensing clearly. It is when our inner eye –also called “the third eye”- is at work seeing what we can’t with our eyes. Back to "Articles" Page

The Secret to Forgiving Yourself Have you ever made a mistake you thought was so bad that you simply couldn’t forgive yourself? So bad that you sunk into a depression and were unable to move on? Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why can’t we forgive ourselves for our mistakes? I was working with a client recently who was very upset because she was going to have to declare bankruptcy due to the failure of a start up business. She wanted to know what she could do to make the situation right. They told me to ask her this question… “If your best friend came to you with this problem, what would you tell her?” “Oh I would tell her that she shouldn’t be so hard on herself, everyone makes mistakes. So then I said, “And why can’t you say this to yourself? She was stunned for a moment, speechless. So I said, “How come your friend deserves forgiveness but you don’t?” She didn’t answer. “Forgiving yourself doesn’t mean you are free from the consequences of your actions. She replied, “Yeah, I suppose I do owe them that. “Of course.

Let Go Feelings of Unworthiness The biggest resistance towards allowing your well-being to unfold is the feeling of unworthiness. The “Ego”, or the “Me” sense, is bound to feel unworthy, or inferior, from time to time because its very structure is based on a “shaky” foundation. The Ego derives its identity from thought forms (self image based thoughts), and object forms, which are both subject to spontaneous change. All Egos, hence, feel limited, fragile and defensive, causing feelings of unworthiness to creep up time and again. These are few circumstances when feelings of unworthiness might come up in an Ego – When someone disagrees with your opinion (often rudely or derisively) – When you perceive that someone is being insulting towards you – When you perceive rejection from someone – When you come to negative conclusion about your body-image – When you compare your possessions with others In fact, the “you” in the above list is actually the “Ego” or the false self. Letting go of unworthiness and worthiness

The 7 Chakras for Beginners - Healing, Balancing, and Opening Your Chakras with Exercises, Foods, Colors The seven chakras are the centers in our bodies in which energy flows through. Blocked energy in our seven chakras can often lead to illness, so it's important to understand what each chakra represents and what we can do to keep this energy flowing freely. Here's our quick summary: 1. Root Chakra — Represents our foundation and feeling of being grounded. Location: Base of spine in tailbone area. 2. Location: Lower abdomen, about two inches below the navel and two inches in. 3. Location: Upper abdomen in the stomach area. 4. Location: Center of chest just above the heart. 5. Location: Throat. 6. Location: Forehead between the eyes (also called the Brow Chakra). 7. Location: The very top of the head. If you want to learn even more about chakras, and how to open each to harness your spiritual energy to feel truly alive, check out our course, Chakras 101: How To Harness Your Spiritual Energy For Better Sex, Better Sleep & Better Moods. Error loading player: No playable sources found

6 Super Easy Morning Routines For Optimal Health Incorporate any one of these into your morning routine to see positive changes in your life. 1. Drink 1 liter (about 4 cups) of water. From the time you wake up in the morning to when you leave your house for work, try drinking a liter of water. Many of us do not realize that are bodies detox when we sleep. When you flush your body with clean water in the morning, you're flushing the toxins out through your kidneys. 2. Drinking hot water with lemon in the mornings before you eat breakfast will have a positive impact on your health. 3. Completing a 10-minute stretch before getting ready for work will not only wake you up in the mornings, but also can tone muscles as well as prevent any muscle injuries throughout your day. 4. This may be a hard one to try at first, but not relying on coffee to get you up and moving first thing in the morning is quite relieving. 5. Spend10 minutes in the morning jotting down your goals for the day. 6. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com

Passive-Aggressive: Explanation & Cure. The first time I encountered the phrase passive-aggressive was during a break-up. Feeling hurt, I was defensive and had no idea what the words meant, and all I knew is that it was an attack and a label. Fast forward a decade filled with a great deal of introspection and inquiry into psychology, self-discovery and personality, and I would have had to agree with her. I used to be passive-aggressive, still can be, and have learned what it is, how to identify it, and the cure. Passive-aggressive is not having the courage to speak openly and directly. As a highly sensitive person, I am aware of the impact of my words, actions and presence on others. I didn’t always have passive-aggressive traits. It took years for me to recognize my fears, the causes for them, and how to live with and move past them. Most passive-aggressive people tend to have deep wounds, either from childhood or traumatic experiences in life. The tendency to be fearful is a natural result of trauma. Love remains the cure.

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