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Field Guide to the Loner: The Real Insiders

Field Guide to the Loner: The Real Insiders
Miina Matsuoka lives by herself in New York City. She owns two cats and routinely screens her calls. But before you jump to conclusions, note that she is comfortable hobnobbing in any of five languages for her job as business manager at an international lighting-design firm. Loners often hear from well-meaning peers that they need to be more social, but the implication that they're merely black-and-white opposites of their bubbly peers misses the point. Contrary to popular belief, not all loners have a pathological fear of social contact. James McGinty, for one, is a caseworker who opted out of a career as a lawyer because he didn't feel socially on-the-ball enough for the job's daily demands. Solitary Pleasures Matsuoka, who is divorced, is open to romantic relationships , but "whomever I'm with must know that at least one day a week I need to lock myself in my room and stick feathers on a sculpture," she warns. The Unhealthy Case of the Lonely Loner

The Top 10 Psychology Studies of 2010 The end of 2010 fast approaches, and I'm thrilled to have been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to write about the Top 10 psychology studies of the year. I've focused on studies that I personally feel stand out, not only as examples of great science, but even more importantly, as examples of how the science of psychology can improve our lives. Each study has a clear "take home" message, offering the reader an insight or a simple strategy they can use to reach their goals , strengthen their relationships, make better decisions, or become happier. If you extract the wisdom from these ten studies and apply them in your own life, 2011 just might be a very good year. 1) How to Break Bad Habits If you are trying to stop smoking , swearing, or chewing your nails, you have probably tried the strategy of distracting yourself - taking your mind off whatever it is you are trying not to do - to break the habit. J. 2) How to Make Everything Seem Easier J. 3) How To Manage Your Time Better M. J.

Coffee drinkers less likely to be hospitalized for heart rhythm disturbances Coffee drinkers may be less likely to be hospitalized for heart rhythm disturbances, according to a report presented at the American Heart Association's 50th Annual Conference on Cardiovascular Disease Epidemiology and Prevention. Researchers at the Kaiser Permanente Medical Care Program in Oakland, Calif., found that men and women who reported drinking four or more cups of coffee each day had an 18 percent lower risk of hospitalization for heart rhythm disturbances. Those who reported drinking one to three cups each day had a 7 percent reduction in risk. The large, long-term observational study involved 130,054 men and women, 18 to 90 years old, with the majority less than 50 years old. About 2 percent (3,317) were hospitalized for rhythm disturbances; 50 percent of those were for atrial fibrillation, the most common heart rhythm problem. The 18 percent reduction in risk was consistent among men and women, different ethnic groups, smokers and nonsmokers. Contact information: Dr.

Generic Love Some years ago I was having dinner with my girlfriend, Liz; among other items on my plate was a heaping mound of mashed potatoes. When Liz noticed I had finished eating all of my potatoes, she instantly ladled another scoop onto my plate, without asking. She had done this before, and I felt I needed to say something: "Please don't automatically give me more food without checking first to see if I want more." "Oh. Sorry." It was a short-lived but friendly relationship, and about six months later she was living happily with a new man, one of my housemates, Steve. Meanwhile, I was formulating a theory about love: it's nothing personal. I began to reflect on my previous relationship, with Cathy. Again, I got it: love is generic. My personal idiosyncrasy in love is that I like for both of us to have the same cute little pet name for each other. With Noodles, it eventually became clear that our generic love styles really didn't match. "Who is it?" "Rochel, the shoemaker's daughter." "Rochel?

Shakespeare and the Internet | Open Shakespeare From Monday 12th September to Monday 10th October, Open Shakespeare will host a series of articles on the topic of ‘Shakespeare and the Internet’. When we invited contributions, the theme was deliberately kept as broad as possible in order to facilitate a wide and diverse range of responses from each of those who have written a post for us. Our contributors range from teachers and students of Shakespeare to an experimental theatre company. Having already read the majority of the contributions, I can say now that the series fulfils its goal of offering what the Bard would call a “multitudinous” range of approaches to the topic of Shakespeare and the Internet; subjects range from why Polonius would appreciate hypertext to the problems and opportunities of online abundance. Please feel free to make use of the comments section at the bottom of each article, and to carry on in this space the points for debate that each article raises. The contributions will appear in the following order:

Apocalypse Now: Why Believers Will Grow Stronger If the World Doesn’t End In case you haven’t heard, the world is about to end on May 21. According to 89-year-old radio host Harold Camping and his followers, who have been placing billboards and subway ads across the country, people must repent now and “cry mightily” for God’s mercy in order to be “raptured” into heaven on Saturday, or risk being left behind as the world is wracked by earthquakes, plagues and, ultimately, complete destruction. Psychology is typically lousy at predictions. The psychology behind this phenomenon applies to far more than fanatical religious behavior. Previous studies of apocalyptic religions have explored believers’ reactions when the world doesn’t end as predicted. Before the prophecy foundered, believers had already begun preparing for the world’s end, quietly and with little publicity quitting jobs or school and giving away their money and possessions. What accounts for this “irrational” behavior? (More on Dr.

Spirit Vaults : Meditation - Essay It seems everyone is interested in meditation...talking about the wonderful benefits, recommending classes and discussing the different ways to "do it". But, for a beginner, just what is "it"? And how do you do "it"? Our busy, hectic, lifestyles may seem to prohibit this peaceful practice, or provide a convenient "excuse" not to begin, or continue, to meditate...but, the happy news is, you CAN successfully benefit even if you practice for short periods. Sit comfortably, preferably upright and alert. To sit on a mat, cushion or pillow, sit cross-legged, half or full lotus, depending on your ability. You may close your eyes (unless this causes you to fall asleep) or gaze with almost-closed eyes as if looking downward and inward. Traditionally, the best times to practice are upon arising and in the evening or before bedtime. Meditation is a cultivation process --- be patient and natural, enjoy each moment, do not "try hard"...just allow and everything will naturally fall-into-place.

On Making the Right Choice: The Deliberation-Without-Attention Effect Contrary to conventional wisdom, it is not always advantageous to engage in thorough conscious deliberation before choosing. On the basis of recent insights into the characteristics of conscious and unconscious thought, we tested the hypothesis that simple choices (such as between different More Contrary to conventional wisdom, it is not always advantageous to engage in thorough conscious deliberation before choosing. Vegetarian Organic Life Beyond Vegetarian Organic I've been writing and publishing the Vegetarian Organic Life newsletter since May, 2003. Sharing my ideas, recipes and discoveries with my wonderful readers has been the great joy of my life. I hope you have enjoyed my newsletter and have gained something of value from my recipes, tips, opinions, observations and advice. I have spent the past two years developing a completely new approach to diet. some time in Greece where we researched and became inspired by the Mediterranean diet, ancient Greek foods and ancient Spartan culture. We call the Spartan Diet the "healthiest diet in history" because it takes everything mankind has learned about food, diet and health from ancient times to today, and -- most importantly -- brings that knowledge into actual daily practice. The Spartan Diet is about achieving optimum health for the rest of your life with a total health lifestyle that is sustainable, gratifying and empowering. Spartan Diet enables you do to that. - Amira

The Futile Pursuit of Happiness If Daniel Gilbert is right, then you are wrong. That is to say, if Daniel Gilbert is right, then you are wrong to believe that a new car will make you as happy as you imagine. You are wrong to believe that a new kitchen will make you happy for as long as you imagine. You are wrong to think that you will be more unhappy with a big single setback (a broken wrist, a broken heart) than with a lesser chronic one (a trick knee, a tense marriage). A professor in Harvard's department of psychology, Gilbert likes to tell people that he studies happiness. Until recently, this was uncharted territory. The problem, as Gilbert and company have come to discover, is that we falter when it comes to imagining how we will feel about something in the future.

dying_dreams: Snape/Hermione fanfic recommendations. A little while ago, vampiresetsuna requested that I gave her some Snape/Hermione fanfiction recommendations, and here they are. It's a long list of recommendations, which I have taken from the Snape/Hermione threads at White Flag; I compiled all the recs that I and my other fellow SS/HG 'shippers at the board had given over time. So here are the fanfic recs, in particular order. If you find that a link is broken, it is recommended that you either let me know, or try the Wayback Machine. 1. I think I can safely say that the fanfiction you see listed here is among the best you can find on the Internet. Note: Italicised fanfics are WIPs and may or may not have been abandoned by their author. 1. Should you crave for more, I suggest you visit the following archives and websites: ● Dark Sarcasm● Fanfiction recommendations at 'Why Snape?' Oh, and fanlistings you might feel like joining: Last but not least, the following LiveJournal communities might also be a good idea:

How to Keep Bad Moods From Taking You Over | Photo by r.f.m II Well, it happens sometimes. I find myself in a lousy mood. Hard to say where it started, but it certainly has something to do with not getting much sleep Saturday night. I had big plans for Sunday, but the day was compromised by my zombie state. My funk cruised on through today too. Today I was going to write a more in-depth post on another topic, but when I sat down to do it, it was like pulling teeth. The Nature of the Beast Low moods are a bizarre animal. Mine is currently sucking the excitement out of certain upcoming events that normally thrill me to think about. Thankfully I’ve learned to recognize what it means to be in a bad mood, and usually I can remember what to do about it. In a bad mood, the thinking mind sticks around (sometimes it even goes into overdrive) but wisdom seems to slink away when you’re not looking. Simply understanding this “wisdom-loss” phenomenon inherent to bad moods goes a long way. The Role of Physical Interference A Warning