Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" (**) - Alfie Kohn
September 2001 By Alfie Kohn NOTE: An abridged version of this article was published in Parents magazine in May 2000 with the title “Hooked on Praise.” For a more detailed look at the issues discussed here — as well as a comprehensive list of citations to relevant research — please see the books Punished by Rewards and Unconditional Parenting. Para leer este artículo en Español, haga clic aquí. Hang out at a playground, visit a school, or show up at a child’s birthday party, and there’s one phrase you can count on hearing repeatedly: “Good job!” Plenty of books and articles advise us against relying on punishment, from spanking to forcible isolation (“time out”). Lest there be any misunderstanding, the point here is not to call into question the importance of supporting and encouraging children, the need to love them and hug them and help them feel good about themselves. 1. The reason praise can work in the short run is that young children are hungry for our approval. 2. 3. 4. 5.
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