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Men Just Don't Trust Women

Men Just Don't Trust Women
It took five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged for me to learn something about my wife. Actually, that’s misleading. I’ve learned many things about my wife in that time period. I learned that she owns both a snuggie and a onesie. And I learned that she’s prone to wearing both of them at the same time. But, there’s one thing in particular that didn’t quite dawn on me until recently. Panama and I were talking about the Rolling Stone story controversy. Trust. This conversation is how, after five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged, I realized I don’t trust my wife. When the concept of trust is brought up, it’s usually framed in the context of actions; of what we think a person is capable of doing. But you know what I don’t really trust? My typical second reaction? My typical third reaction?

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Maybe you should just be single Mid-February is the most frigid time of year, so it’s always seemed apt that that this is when they choose to hold the highest holy day of the cult of coupledom. If you’re reading this, there’s a not insignificant chance that you are one or several of the following: a) young b) female c) single or d) nauseated by the sheer volume of saccharine romantic propaganda sloshing around the public sphere at this particular time of year. But none of us live outside culture, and feeling frustrated on Valentine’s Day doesn’t make you stupid or duped or a mindless drone for the greetings-card industry.

Male Scientist Writes of Life as Female Scientist Neurobiologist Ben Barres has a unique perspective on former Harvard president Lawrence Summers's assertion that innate differences between the sexes might explain why many fewer women than men reach the highest echelons of science. That's because Barres used to be a woman himself. In a highly unusual critique published yesterday, the Stanford University biologist -- who used to be Barbara -- said his experience as both a man and a woman had given him an intensely personal insight into the biases that make it harder for women to succeed in science. After he underwent a sex change nine years ago at the age of 42, Barres recalled, another scientist who was unaware of it was heard to say, "Ben Barres gave a great seminar today, but then his work is much better than his sister's." And as a female undergraduate at MIT, Barres once solved a difficult math problem that stumped many male classmates, only to be told by a professor: "Your boyfriend must have solved it for you."

What I Learned Working at a Strip Club  I first started working at the strip club as a waitress. My "interview" was me walking into a cluttered manager's office, on the top floor of a downtown club. The manager took one look at me and then called a different manager of another club to tell him "I have a beautiful girl for you that will be dancing in no time." That's any strip club's goal, essentially: to find more dancers to bring in more clients to make them more money.

How do doctors turn a penis into a vagina? Azraels-Art/Vimeo When someone wants to get male-to-female sex reassignment surgery, doctors can actually turn a penis into a vagina by basically flipping it inside out. We first saw this incredible video on Cosmopolitan's website, and we decided to find out a bit more about what was going on in the animation, which demonstrates a surgical technique described by a team of urologists at the University of Tübingen in Germany. Any woman who's been abused or assaulted knows how easy it is to go back Predictably, the Jian Ghomeshi sexual assault trial has focused far more on what the victims did “wrong” than on the perpetrator’s behaviour. Story after story in the media paints a picture of women who fucked up — who went back, who had sex with Ghomeshi after the assault, who went on second dates, who flirted, who sent “sexual” emails… “What were you thinking?” Crown attorney Michael Callaghan asked the third complainant.

The Different Types of Infidelity Which Make Men and Women Most Upset The gender that gets most upset about sexual and emotional infidelity. Amongst heterosexuals, men are almost twice as likely to be upset by sexual infidelity as women, a new study finds. Heterosexual women, meanwhile, are much more likely to be upset by emotional infidelity. The results come from a poll of nearly 64,000 Americans, the largest ever of its type, which is published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior (Frederick & Fales, 2014).

How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars The message that women are untrustworthy liars is everywhere in our culture—from TV and music, to politics and religion, says Soraya Chemaly. Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. I Explain Things to Women at Parties Scene: A row house in Adams Morgan, Washington, D.C. Me: Hi, Joanna! Bob tells me you're writing a book about mansplaining — that’s so interesting! Joanna: Yeah, I'm excited!

The damage pornography did to a six-year-old child Loaded: 0% Progress: 0% Is the culture of porn destroying sex? Dr Anita Elias is seeing an increase in sexual dysfunction among young women and believes the culture around porn could be to blame. Liz Walker was only six years old when an older girl from up the street squashed in next to her on the school bus and excitedly whispered "Hey do you want to see something?" It was a magazine she found under her brother's bed and full of graphic pornography.

Feminine Gamification Viewpoint: Consumer Differences - Gamification Nation Share Feminine Gamification Viewpoint: Consumer Differences Women are the main decision makers when it comes to shopping, below is an interesting infographic illustrating some of the differences thanks to the people at for putting it together. With ladies making a vast proportion of buying decisions, what can your organisation do to attract these customer with gamified campaigns from marketing to loyalty and potentially sales strategies? Although the data are primarily US based I would say, a lot of them will still transfer to Europe. Ladies lead the way in online shopping, but the problems experiences when shopping are quite different for both genders. Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It Ages ago, I read this fantastic piece about practical things men can do to support feminism. Almost every item on the list really resonated with my experience, and this was one of the most resonant: 2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.Recognize that women are disproportionately responsible for emotional labour and that being responsible for this takes away time and energy from things they find fulfilling. Since this was just a list, that’s all it had to say about this very important topic.

Rebecca Solnit Takes on Male Literary Crybabies in “Men Explain Lolita to Me” Rebecca Solnit knows all about mansplaining. After all, she’s the one who coined the term in her now-classic 2008 essay “Men Explain Things to Me.” It appears that since then, need for the term hasn’t decreased at all. Men continue to explain why her opinions are wrong—treating their own tenuous opinions as fact—as she explains and illustrates in her recent essay, “Men Explain Lolita to Me.” What’s kind of hilarious is that this essay on being mansplained to is the product of an essay she wrote in response to a piece in which men were being mansplained to.

"Is It Her Hormones?" A Case of Psychiatry Missing the Mark Every Saturday, I sit down to review somewhere in the neighborhood of 75-100 scientific abstracts and pull papers that pique my interest. This 11-year-old ritual has kept my finger on the pulse of the academic pursuit of truth – of science as we choose to define it at a given time. I have watched, even in this decade, the evolution of new concepts, paradigm-undermining discoveries, and jaw-dropping reveals. Psychoneuroimmunology, the microbiome, and epigenetics have populated my inbox, first with a trickle, and now with the force of a fire hydrant. This week, I read an abstract that I want to share because it makes its own point without much editorializing or framing necessary. A case report that makes the case

Mobile Gaming: Females Beat Males on Money, Time and Loyalty Ever since the Kim Kardashian: Hollywood game hit the top grossing charts on the App Store, the web has been abuzz with articles about the changing face of mobile gaming. The game’s overnight success, its whopping $700,000 USD per day revenue run-rate, and its direct challenge to worldwide hits Supercell’s Clash of Clans and King’s Candy Crush, have become the fascination of mainstream media from Forbes, to CNN and the New York Times who labeled the game an unlikely mobile video game hit. The media didn’t question Ms. Kardashian’s star appeal, it questioned the game’s appeal to a broad mobile gaming audience, an audience long believed to be dominated by males in general and teens and college students in particular. It might be true that Ms.