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What it means to "hold space" for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well - Heather Plett

What it means to "hold space" for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well - Heather Plett
When my mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days. None of us knew anything about supporting someone in her transition out of this life into the next, but we were pretty sure we wanted to keep her at home, so we did. While we supported mom, we were, in turn, supported by a gifted palliative care nurse, Ann, who came every few days to care for mom and to talk to us about what we could expect in the coming days. She taught us how to inject Mom with morphine when she became restless, she offered to do the difficult tasks (like giving Mom a bath), and she gave us only as much information as we needed about what to do with Mom’s body after her spirit had passed. “Take your time,” she said. Ann gave us an incredible gift in those final days. In the two years since then, I’ve often thought about Ann and the important role she played in our lives. The work that Ann did can be defined by a term that’s become common in some of the circles in which I work. Related:  PsychologyPsychologypersonal grows

Myers Briggs: Cat Edition All 16 Myers-Briggs Types, if they were furballs. We brought together the internet’s two favorite pastimes: MBTI and Cats. Behold, Myers Briggs: Cat Edition. “Excuse me, why have you disturbed me sir?” “Nope.” “World Domination: Initiated.” “I heard there was a party! “My kitty. “Excuse me human. “Mwahahahaha!” “Hi, umm… Oh.. “Pet me. “Parkour Cat.” “Don’t screw with me.” “There you go. “Don’t you worry about those other kitties. “No. “You will obey me.” If you like these… feel free to share ‘em!

You're Distracted. This Professor Can Help. - Technology By Marc Parry Seattle Matthew Ryan Williams for The Chronicle Before each class session, David Levy leads his students in a few minutes of meditation. To complete her homework assignment, Meran Hill needed total concentration. Then she plunged into the task: Spend 15 minutes doing e-mail. Soon enough, though, a familiar craving bubbled up. As Ms. But the assignment had her trapped. The e-mail drill was one of numerous mind-training exercises in a unique class designed to raise students' awareness about how they use their digital tools. Their professor, David M. At its extreme, that debate plays out in the writing of authors whom the critic Adam Gopnik has dubbed the Never-Betters and the Better-Nevers. On college campuses, meanwhile, educators struggle to manage what the Stanford University multitasking researcher Clifford Nass describes as a radical shift in the nature of attention. Amid this scampering attention, some fear for the future of long-form reading. When I ask Mr. But Mr. Mr.

How to hold space for yourself first - Heather Plett Anytime we can listen to true self and give it the care it requires, we do so not only for ourselves but for the many others whose lives we touch. – Parker Palmer, Let your Life Speak When I shared my post about what it means to hold space for people and it went viral, I learned this… This desire to hold space well for other people is vast and diverse. I have heard from the most fascinating range of people about how this post is being circulated and used. It’s showing up in home schooling forums, palliative and hospice care circles, art communities, spiritual retreat centres, universities, alcoholics anonymous groups, psychotherapists’ offices, etc. The lesson in this is that no matter who or where you are, you can do the beautiful and important work of holding space for other people. We are doing the best we can to live in love and community. We are not perfect, and sometimes we still make selfish decisions, but we are doing our best. This is really important. Learn when to walk away.

My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward The first time I saw my wife walking around the Georgetown campus I shouted out “Buongiorno Principessa!” like a buffoon. She was Italian, radiant, way out of my league, but I was fearless and almost immediately in love. We lived in the same freshman dorm. She had a smile bello come il sole—I learned some Italian immediately to impress her—and within a month we were a couple. She’d stop by my room to wake me up if I was oversleeping class; I taped roses to her door. Two years after graduation we married, when we were both just 24 years old and many of our friends were still looking for first jobs. One night, as I approached Giulia’s room, she saw me and collapsed on her bed, chanting “Voglio morire, voglio morire, voglio morire.” Giulia had a concrete life plan: to become a director of marketing at a fashion company and have three kids by the time she turned 35. This is where that lovely storyline ends. (Photos: Courtesy of Mark Lukach) That fantasy shattered in the waiting room.

worrying-about-stuff-is-a-sign-of-intelligence The tendency to worry about stuff could be a sign of a certain kind of intelligence, according to a paper in an upcoming edition of the journal Personality and Individual Differences (hat tip to Christian Jarrett at the British Psychology Society's Research Digest for spotting it first). A team led by Alexander Penney of Ontario's Lakehead University gave 126 undergrads a litany of surveys and questionnaires designed to measure both their intelligence and how much they tended to stress about events in their lives. (For instance, they were asked how strongly they agreed with statements like, "I am always worried about something.") After analyzing the results, Penney and his team found a correlation between worrying and verbal intelligence. Correlation doesn't imply causation, of course, but this is not the first paper to have found a link between anxiety and intelligence.

Heldenreise in Illertissen - Irgendwie Anders e.V. Der Seminarort ist das Freizeitheim Bruckhof, das in einer ruhigen und erholsamen Umgebung in einer Randlage von Illertissen liegt. Das Haus ist gemütlich und eignet sich mit seiner weitläufigen schönen Außenanlage hervorragend für unsere Seminare. Bettwäsche (Bezüge oder Schlafsack mit Leintuch) bitte selber mitbringen. www.bruckhof-illertissen.de Leitung: Daniela Schürmann,Christoph Seibitz und Christian Brüser Am Ende des Seminars entscheidest Du selbst, ob und mit welchem Spendenbetrag Du zukünftigen Heldenreisen-TeilnehmerInnen dieses Abenteuer ermöglichen möchtest. Mehr Infos zu unserem Spendenkonzept findest du hier: Infos >> Da die Seminare in der Regel sehr schnell ausgebucht sind, raten wir allen Interessenten sich rechtzeitig anzumelden.

This Stunning Photo Series Nails What It Feels Like To Have An Anxiety Disorder It can be difficult to verbalize what it's like to experience mental illness, so photographer Katie Crawford decided to show people instead of tell them. In a stunning self-portrait series titled "My Anxious Heart," Crawford captures how it feels to suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and depression -- two conditions she has personally dealt with since she was a child. "I created the project as a way for me to personally express what I feel like in my experience. "A captive of my own mind. Crawford accurately depicts how anxiety and depression feel on the inside -- from feeling like you're wrapped so tightly in anxiety that you can't breathe to the agonizing inability to fall asleep when panic is looming. "I want people that suffer from [anxiety] to be able to use these images as a reference if they need it," she said. "A glass of water isn’t heavy. The artist's portraits are a welcome explainer in a world where mental illness is so frequently misunderstood. Close Katie Crawford

Como fazer alguém se apaixonar por você Eles só se encontraram por causa de um questionário. A equipe do psicólogo Arthur Aron (aquele mesmo da pesquisa na Ponte Suspensa de Capilano) havia convidado voluntários para responder a uma série de perguntas sobre estilo de vida, hobbies, interesses etc. Com base nessas respostas, Aron formou uma série de casais que dividiam gostos e ideias parecidos para ficar frente a frente e conversar. Cada dupla se sentou em uma sala confortável, só os dois, sem ninguém por perto, e começaram a conversar. Ela perguntou quem ele levaria a um jantar, se pudesse escolher qualquer pessoa no mundo. Eis as perguntas do questionário do amor, que faria duas pessoas desconhecidas se apaixonarem: FASE 11. FASE 2 13. FASE 325. A ideia do questionário era criar laços de confiança de um jeito bem rápido. Aqueles quatro minutos finais de encarada amarraram de vez os laços. Crédito da foto: flickr.com/calamity_photography/

Heldenreisen bei Selbst-Bestimmt.net – Termine: HeldenreiseHeldenreisen bei Selbst-Bestimmt 10.- 16. Januar 2015 (Noch 4 Plätze frei.)Im Tagungshaus Gangloff(Frühbucherrabatt bei Anmeldung bis 13. Dezember 2014)Anmelden Im Leitungsteam sind: Willi Kiechle Inga Büschen Philipp Zimmermann _____________________________ 14.- 20. Andreas Kleindienst Manuel Bertrand _____________________________ 02.- 08. Oliver Schmid Claudia Kraus Mit Live-Musik-Begleitung von Babek Bodien ___________________________ 25.- 31. Linda Ohlmeier _____________________________ 06.- 12. Im Leitungsteam sind: Melanie Haselow Tobias Konermann _____________________________12.- 18. Im Leitungsteam sind: Inga Büschen

7 Signs Your Havingness Level is Dangerously Low » BAD WITCHES witchery Published on December 20th, 2014 | by Carolyn Elliott Your havingness level is an internal barometer of how much good stuff you allow yourself to have before your “too good to be true!” The “good stuff” that a low havingness level will cause you to reject may be just about anything – love, money, sex, fun, creativity, joy. In my years of coaching, I’ve discovered that a low havingness level is the one of the very biggest obstacles to success and fulfillment that most magical people face. The bad news is that your havingness level is originally set when you’re a child, and it’s calibrated to precisely match the havingness level of your family. The good news is that you can reset and increase your havingness level in any arena so you can allow in way more good stuff. You know that your havingness level is low when: 1) You constantly struggle to make and save money even though you work hard and are creative and magical and awesome. This one is a dead-giveaway. What to Do About It

Why Do Men Prefer Nice Women?: Responsiveness and Desire - Society for Personality and Social Psychology Friday, July 25, 2014 (0 Comments) Posted by: Jen Santisi People's emotional reactions and desires in initial romantic encounters determine the fate of a potential relationship. Responsiveness may be one of those initial "sparks" necessary to fuel sexual desire and land a second date. Femininity and Attractiveness Researchers from the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya, the University of Rochester, and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, collaborated on three studies to observe people's perceptions of responsiveness. In the first study, the researchers examined whether responsiveness is perceived as feminine or masculine, and whether men or women perceived a responsive person of the opposite sex as sexually desirable. Sparking Sexual Desire Participants in the second study were asked to interact with a responsive or non-responsive individual of the opposite sex, and view that individual's photo (the same photo was given to each participant). Birnbaum, G.

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