How to think positive. You can think posit WHEN A PERSON THINKS a negative thought and tries to get rid of it, that person is thinking positively negatively. Daniel M. Wegner of Trinity University in San Antonio, Texas, has conducted a long string of experiments that show the futility and actual danger of trying to get rid of thoughts. In some of the experiments, Wegner told his subjects, “Try not to think about a white bear.” The subjects were then asked to say aloud everything that came to mind. Of course, thoughts of white bears showed up quite a bit. Trying not to think a negative thought will result in thinking it more. Thinking is like breathing: It goes on night and day and you can’t stop it. The same is true about thinking. So when you find yourself disliking the content of your thoughts, instead of trying to stop yourself from thinking a thought, try to direct your thoughts. And the way to direct your thinking is by asking yourself a question. Of course, the kind of question you ask makes a big difference.
How to Deal with Criticism Well: 25 Reasons to Embrace It “Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” ~Aristotle At the end of the day, when I feel completely exhausted, oftentimes it has nothing to do with all the things I’ve done. It’s not a consequence of juggling multiple responsibilities and projects. When I’m exhausted, you can be sure I’ve bent over backward trying to win everyone’s approval. I work at minimizing this type of behavior—and I’ve had success for the most part—but admittedly, it’s not easy. I remember back in college, taking a summer acting class, when I actually made the people around me uncomfortable with my defensiveness. After a couple minutes of verbal sparring, one of my peers actually said, “Stop talking. Looking back, I cut myself a little slack. Because I was desperately afraid of being judged, I took everything, from everyone as condemnation. I realize criticism doesn’t always come gently from someone legitimately trying to help. Personal Growth 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
20 Ways to Overcome Shyness Can you remember the last time you stepped into a room full of strangers and felt that self-conscious and awkward feeling rush over you? Or that heart thumping moment when you wanted to ask someone on a date, but were too shy to do so? Or wanting to approach someone for business, but was too hesitant to actually do it? That anxiety in the pit of your stomach in social situations? Regardless of whether you are introverted or extraverted, we can all relate to that feeling of shyness at some point in our lives. This article is the result of collaboration between Amanda Linehan, an introvert, and Tina Su, an extravert. The Three Components of Shyness According to Dr. Excessive Self-Consciousness – you are overly aware of yourself, particularly in social situations.Excessive Negative Self-Evaluation – you tend to see yourself negatively.Excessive Negative Self-Preoccupation – you tend to pay too much attention to all the things you are doing wrong when you are around other people. 1. 2. 3.
How to Gain Respect of Others — It is interesting to consider why we instinctively respect some people, but others can be very hard to appreciate. Respect doesn’t necessarily mean we have to agree with everything they say; respect comes from people’s inner life, and the values and beliefs they hold. If someone is sincere, honest and self effacing it is easy to respect them, even if they believe in a different life philosophy. If we can understand why some people instinctively gain respect, we can learn to implement these characteristics in our own life. Talk Less We do not command respect by excessively talking. True words aren’t eloquent; eloquent words aren’t true. - Lao Tzu.Tao Te Ching Verse 81 Listen More Everyone likes to have their own say. Sincere Appreciation There is a big difference between sincere appreciation, and flattery which hopes for similar words to be repaid in kind. Non Judgemental It is easy to build up lists of people we like and people we dislike. Honesty Leave Praise To Other People Self Respect
How To Stop Procrastinating Be inspired to overcome procrastination. Now in beta, BuddyHive.com links random buddies to be accountable to each other as they achieve small tasks. Click above, write in a task, and we’ll find a buddy to support you on your way. Procrastination is the intentional and habitual postponement of an important task that should be done now. Unpleasant tasks Unpleasant tasks rarely turn out to be as bad as you think.Complete these tasks first. Complex Projects Something looms ahead of you: starting a small business, getting a job, preparing the annual budget. Indecision People delay because they can’t make up their minds.Determine a time for making a decision and the criteria for making it. Fear of failure (lack of self confidence) People don’t want to face the consequences of failure, so they delay. Lack of interest You are tired or lazy. Perfectionism People delay because they want to get the project perfect.Set deadlines for yourself. Hostility towards a boss Distraction, lack of focus
How To Stop Procrastinating 8 Ways to be UBER Charismatic What did JFK, Marilyn Monroe and Hitler all have in common? They were all renowned charismatics that lit up every room they entered. You’ve most likely met one of these kinds before. The guy/girl at the party. They possess some strange quality that causes them to be liked by everyone and constantly at the center of attention. Robert Greene studied these people and detailed the methods one can use to become a charismatic in his book “The Art of Seduction.” Purpose Pick a cause, a goal, a vision and live it. Mystery Become mysterious (like Bruce Wayne) by being unpredictable. Saintliness Think Gandhi. Eloquence Speak slowly and hypnotically, with random pauses if needed. Theatricality Be larger than life. Danger/Spontaneity Radiate dangerous, rebellious sexuality. Vulnerability Have a soft side and love your followers. Magnetism Develop a piercing gaze. DO NOT COMMENT.
How to Create Daily Habits Think of any positive daily habit you would like to acquire. Daily exercise. Daily meditation. Spending more time with your kids. We first make our habits and then our habits make us. You have already acquired the daily habit of brush your teeth each morning. As an adult, when you try to acquire a new habit for the long-term, it may seem more difficult. Sustaining a positive daily habit, such as a daily workout routine, can be difficult in the long-term The problem with only acquiring positive habits in the short-run is that you put in a lot of time and effort, but you don’t get to keep the results. Instead of focusing on cultivating self-discipline, introduce rituals similar to brushing your teeth. Take a moment to think about a positive habit you tried to acquire for the long-term in the past, but only kept for the short-term. Here are three tips to creating a new daily habit for the long-term: 1) You must practice your new habit each day consistently for the first 21 days That’s it.
How to feel better now What makes you happy? I find directly pursuing happiness is difficult to do. Many times the things we think will make us happy fail to do so. Instead I like to focus on growth and developing a strong life philosophy that can guide you through tough times and help you enjoy successes. But what about feeling good right now? Hack One: Goals Nothing creates a bigger jolt of enthusiasm than a new inspiring vision of the future. Hack Two: Chores Procrastination sucks. Hack Three: Laugh Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Hack Four: Aid Help someone who needs it. Hack Five: Socialize One of the leading evolutionary theories for explaining the size of the human brain is our complex social structure. Hack Six: Inspiration Find something to get you inspired, even if just for a short time. Hack Seven: Exercise Exercise releases various chemicals into your brain which leave you feeling good. Hack Eight: Posture Change the way you hold your body to reflect someone who is happier. Hack Nine: Music
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