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Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers
1. Everything she does is deniable. There is always a facile excuse or an explanation. Cruelties are couched in loving terms. Aggressive and hostile acts are paraded as thoughtfulness. She rarely says right out that she thinks you're inadequate. Many of her putdowns are simply by comparison. Because her abusiveness is part of a lifelong campaign of control and because she is careful to rationalize her abuse, it is extremely difficult to explain to other people what is so bad about her. 2. Any attempt at autonomy on your part is strongly resisted. 3. 4. 5. She will deliver generalized barbs that are almost impossible to rebut (always in a loving, caring tone): "You were always difficult" "You can be very difficult to love" "You never seemed to be able to finish anything" "You were very hard to live with" "You're always causing trouble" "No one could put up with the things you do." She minimizes, discounts or ignores your opinions and experiences. 6. Narcissists gaslight routinely. 7. Related:  Mental Health

Characteristics of Narcissistic Fathers | This page is one of the most visited on this site and since I’ve read that 75% of all narcissists are men, that makes sense to me. I don’t know if the way narcissistic fathers act is the same as narc moms act (view here) but when I found the lists I put farther down on this page, reading them struck a chord in me and I flashed back to one of my stepfathers. By doing this blog, I’ve come to realize that my 2rd stepfather was a horrible narcissist, abusive to all, violent, cold, extremely controlling and cruel…even while being ver-r-r-y charming, handsome and successful. Hey, snakes and poisonous bugs can be pretty too… Boy-oh-boy did he get mad one time when I was 12 years old. Looking back, I realize that two of my mother’s four husbands left her via divorce and the last one died. :Angry Man" Anita Killi In Cognitive Therapy of Personality Disorders, Aaron T. (View original source here.) (View original source here.) Like this: Like Loading...

20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends. They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility. Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions. Here are the 20 diversionary tactics toxic people use to silence and degrade you. 1. Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words: “That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. 2. Solution? 3. 4. 5. 6. Do you have a successful career? 7.

Diana Mini » How-To's Loading the film Turn the rear door switch [1] to open and slide the rear door off. Move the pressure plate [2] down and put the new 35mm film into the left hand side. Pull the film towards the clip on the take up spool [3] and clip on. Turn the advance wheel [4] anticlockwise a little to make the film move up to the yellow mark. Check that the film sprockets are aligned with the sprocket gear spool [5] and then close the movable film plate [2] Slide the rear door back on. Turn the rear door switch [1] to close and wind the advance wheel [4] anticlockwise until it stops. Before taking a photo Set focus distance. Set the aperture. Select shutter mode. Choose the frame format. Start Shooting! Now that the focus, aperture, shutter speed and frame mode are all set you're ready to go! Rewinding the film Technical Specification FIlm Type: 35mm film Lens: 24mm (Square Format: 30mm equivalent, Half Frame format: 35mm equivalent) Diagonal View Angles: 70° 62° Focusing: 0.6m-inf.

wonder About Me | My name is Janet and I welcome you to this site about healing from the abuses inflicted on those of us who were unfortunate enough to be born to a narcissistic parent (or worse, two narc parents since narcissists either: 1) marry other narcissists or 2) they find doormat people who will tolerate their insane crap.) My mother is the narcissist in my life. Or rather WAS because I have opted to go NC (No Contact) because I simply wore out…I could not take the games, the put downs, the fights, etc. any longer. 8/8/2011 marks 52 years on this planet for me…and I struggle every day with the aspects of narcissism that I have been subjected to throughout my life…as well as the narcissistic characteristics I learned, and occasionally still exhibit, in my own life. I live in Nashville, Tennessee, have an awesome 26 year old son, Jason and we are both Christian. I did my best to raise Jason very differently than my mother raised me and in most ways I succeeded. Because “I” didn’t matter. Oh.

20 Brutally Honest Reasons Why I Don’t Have Any Friends 1. I have lost touch with most people from high school and college because it’s hard to make time for a social life when I spend most of my hours working. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Oh No They Didn't! - Silent Night tops Christmas carol list 'Silent Night has topped the list of Britain's most recorded Christmas song of all time. The 190-year-old Austrian carol beat more recent festive compositions such as Winter Wonderland to the top spot in a list of more than 170 recordings, according to music licensing company PPL. "Silent Night is a beautiful carol which encapsulates the feeling of Christmas entirely," said Mike Dalby, lead reporting analyst at PPL. "Everyone from punk band The Dickies right through to Sinead O'Connor has recorded it, which exemplifies just how much it resonates with all different types of artists." PPL compiled the list using a database of about 1,800 Christmas themed recordings. The original version of the carol, Stille Nacht, was written in 1816 in Austria by the priest Father Joseph Mohr. O'Connor's 1991 recording was the most popular version of Silent Night in Britain, PPL added. It was first performed on Christmas Eve in 1818. What's your favourite christmas carol ONTD? source

BORDERLINE WAIFS AND UNSUNG HEROES; Rescuing The Woman Who Doesn't Want To Be Saved. BORDERLINE WAIFS AND UNSUNG HEROES; Rescuing The Woman Who Doesn't Want To Be Saved. By Shari Schreiber, M.A. Given the hundreds of letters I get from men who desperately "want to help" the Borderline after their troubling affair has ended, I suppose this article's time has finally come. I understand that you tirelessly tried to assist her, teach her and rescue her during that relationship, and you're wrestling with letting go of this fixation, weeks or months later. The Borderline Waif seldom exhibits the harsh or volatile traits we've come to associate with other BPD types. These people might blame their struggles on elements outside their control, like karmic retribution; "I must have done something really awful in a past life, to deserve this!" Since 'helplessness' is the Waif's core emotional theme, options and choices that are healthier/more productive, are generally avoided. Don't assume this borderline is always physically thin/slender.

Gaslighting | Definition of Gaslighting / Definition of Gaslight by J. E. Brown (Source: Gaslighting A common form of brainwashing in which an abuser tries to falsely convince the victim that the victim is defective, for any purpose whatsoever, such as making the victim more pliable and easily controlled, or making the victim more emotional and therefore more needy and dependent. Often done by friends and family members, who claim (and may even believe) that they are trying to be helpful. Example 1: If an abusive person says hurtful things and makes you cry, and then, instead of apologizing and taking responsibility, starts recommending treatments for what he or she calls “your depression” or “your mood swings,” you are in the presence of a gaslighter. Example 2: If someone insults you or criticizes you, and then pretends it was a joke and asks “Don’t you have a sense of humor?” Translation: “You are perceptually defective. Like this: