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Overly Sensitive, Highly Emotional, and Other Feminine Flaws

Overly Sensitive, Highly Emotional, and Other Feminine Flaws
That’s my (admittedly random) approximation of the number of times I’ve been called highly emotional or otherwise plastered with the overly sensitive label. Though I disagree with the qualifiers, I’m in unabashed agreement with the adjectives. For sure, I am both emotional and sensitive – traits that render me highly qualified to live, love, express, and explore as my authentic self. How about you? Do you find yourself dodging the punches as folks try to heal you of your apparent emotional ailments? If you do, you’ve likely tried to process those opinions – you know, in the name of self-betterment and all – and you might even be working at becoming less sensitive and less emotional. No prob. Do your work; explore your experiences; see what you might see. And as you do so, let me offer you some insights on the reasons people feel the need to label you, and your options for managing those labels. The primary reason you get the label is because most people are uncomfortable with honesty. Akilah S.

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