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Having Multiple Devoted Boyfriends Is Wonderful, Polyandrous Women Confirm. Many women may casually date multiple guys, but some modern-day women are practicing polyandry: having multiple husbands (or, in a contemporary, repurposed definition, several serious or life-long partners).

Having Multiple Devoted Boyfriends Is Wonderful, Polyandrous Women Confirm

Polyandry, the female-focused version of polygamy, is technically illegal in the United States; thus, those who practice it do so without literally getting married. "I would say [polyandry] is when a woman has many male partners," says Dr. Denise Renye, a San Francisco-based psychologist who specializes in sex and intimacy. Read more: How Dating Came to Suck So Much But that doesn't mean a woman can't dream of putting a ring on those many male partners. While some women like Jislaaik relish the chance to celebrate polyandry, other women in polyamorous communities view having multiple male partners as simply an inherent facet of the general polyamorous lifestyle. Blue has multiple male partners herself and says more men offer more emotional support—not to mention the sexual benefits. Why I say “non-primary,” not “secondary”

I’m a writer and editor by profession, so I choose words carefully.

Why I say “non-primary,” not “secondary”

In this blog I deliberately refer to “non-primary” partners — rather than “secondary,” the more common term. ​I Grew Up in a Polyamorous Household - VICE. Few cultural symbols have as much heft as the "traditional" nuclear family.

​I Grew Up in a Polyamorous Household - VICE

You know the one: two heterosexual parents, two kids, one dog, two tablespoons of white picket fence, whisk gently. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with that—it's just not how I was raised. FetLife. Going Poly — Some life lessons from 2016. - A brief overview of what a Unicorn can be in a... Finally Home — Polyamory can bring: immense joy and dizzying... Poly-Architecture 101: Building Hierarchies « Slut, Ph.D. It is one of the most often misunderstood truisms of hierarchical polyamory that stable and highly functioning primary relationships are essential for successful (hierarchical) poly life.

Poly-Architecture 101: Building Hierarchies « Slut, Ph.D.

It’s not the truism itself that people misunderstand; it’s that most people misunderstand *why* you need a stable and highly functioning primary relationship for a successful hierarchical poly life. For the rest of this post, I’m going to rely on a metaphor of architecture and houses. Resources and Information on Polyamory and Non-Monogamy. Login - FetLife. Polyamory FAQ - More Than Two. Religious Attitudes Towards Polyamory. Among organized religions, attitudes towards polyamory vary from extreme discomfort and distaste to complete acceptance.

Religious Attitudes Towards Polyamory

At one end of that spectrum, conservative or fundamentalist sects of Christianity, Islam, and Judaism abhor extra-marital sex and base family on a strident sexual exclusivity—for women. At the other end of the spectrum, Paganism and sacred sexuality of several varieties celebrate a multiplicity of gods and lovers. The more liberal and sex-positive a religion is, the more likely it will accept polyamorous relationships among its congregation. The Big Three in the United States—Christianity, Islam, and Judaism—share the same theological foundations that mandate heterosexuality and marriage to create children.

All three accept sexuality within religiously recognized unions and discourage extra- or non-marital sexuality, though Christianity tends to be more suspicious of sexual pleasure than either Judaism or Islam. What’s a metamour? On my terms. The “metamour” concept is like the vase in this picture.

What’s a metamour? On my terms

Don’t see the vase? Only see the faces? That’s the problem I’m talking about! “Metamour” is an especially weird bit of poly-speak. Nonmonogamy2.5.1.gif (GIF Image, 1600 × 1186 pixels) - Scaled (74%) Books: The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide (Paperback) by Peter J. Benson (Author) Matt Bullen: March 2012. Poly Party Weekend, June 15 - 17! Poly lessons I learned from cheating while monogamous. Posted by shaunphilly in Culture and Society, Polyamory.

Poly lessons I learned from cheating while monogamous.

Tags: cheating, monogamy, relationships, trust trackback This post will be hard for me to write. It will be difficult because it involves mistakes I have made juxtaposed with ideas about love and polyamory that may come across as crass, cold, and possibly uncaring. There will undoubtedly be people who read this that think of me as an asshole for the thoughts I will express below, but I think it’s worth exploring these ideas anyway. After all, it is such experiences which helped give me perspective on polyamory, and perhaps some people will sympathize or have experienced similar things. So, I have not always been polyamorous. Study looks at evolutionary origins of monogamous coupling. The roots of the modern family — monogamous coupling — lie somewhere in our distant evolutionary past, but scientists disagree on how it first evolved.

Study looks at evolutionary origins of monogamous coupling

A new study says we should thank two key players: weak males with inferior fighting chops and the females who opted to be faithful to them. These mating strategies may "have triggered a key step in the very long process of the evolution of the family," said study author Sergey Gavrilets, a biomathematician at the University of Tennessee in Knoxville.