Worshipping Your Wife. Female Led Relationship: 9. Zusammenfassung. Girl Talk: When (Rape) Fantasy Becomes Reality. Two weeks ago, my gentle and loving boyfriend of three months held me down and forced me to have sex with him against my will, and then told me I had asked for it. And technically, he was right. Jacob and I had only been dating about a month and a half when I intimated that I had a rape fantasy. Over the years, I’d had my share of experience with role-playing and rough sex. I vividly recall a male friend of mine in college telling me that I had a distinct air of “sexual prey” about me, and me thinking that this was a huge compliment. Being dominated and playing the innocent who secretly wasn’t had been my currency and had guided the sexual dynamic I forged with partners for the last 10 years.
But only for the last few months had I allowed myself to entertain what I considered to be the final frontier — a simulated rape. I never got the chance to have that conversation before things went horribly wrong. A Rape Fantasy Gone Horribly Wrong. Please do not read any further if you're offended by discussions of rape, or if they trigger extreme negative memories. Yesterday, I happened upon this article by way of the following youtube video. Summing it up: Girl discloses her rape fantasies to her loving boyfriend; boyfriend goes through with it; she says it was real rape. Now, I will not participate in the blaming process, which I feel to be rather unproductive, especially since the article was posted over 3 years ago and enough people have done an excellent job of it already (though I admit that it is very tempting). Instead, I would like to point out that virtually all the comments to that article are about assigning 100% of the blame to one side.
Mostly, they blame the girl. Regardless of whether the commenter be male or female - almost everyone seems to agree that she is to blame. The more important question is, how can healing occur after an incident like this? How terribly hard it is to phrase things unambiguously here. A Slut's Memoir. Mistress160's Abode. Dreamwalker Sadistic Poet. Bess LaMess.