To be happier, focus on what’s within your control. Buster Keaton in Speak Easily (1932).
Courtesy Wikipedia God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference. This is the Serenity Prayer, originally written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr around 1934, and commonly used by Alcoholics Anonymous and similar organisations. It is not just a key step toward recovery from addiction, it is a recipe for a happy life, meaning a life of serenity arrived at by consciously taking what life throws at us with equanimity. The sentiment behind the prayer is very old, found in 8th-century Buddhist manuscripts, as well as in 11th-century Jewish philosophy. Why Very Smart People Are Happiest Alone. In a just-published study about how our ancestral needs impact our modern feelings, researchers uncovered something that will surprise few among the highly intelligent.
While most people are happier when they’re surrounded by friends, smart people are happier when they’re not. The researchers, Norman P. Li and Satoshi Kanazawa, of the Singapore Management University, Singapore and the London School of Economics and Political Science, UK, respectively, were investigating the “savannah theory” of happiness. Six Ways to Get More Happiness for Your Money. When we think about spending our money wisely, we usually focus on getting the best value for the lowest price.
We comparison shop and download apps to find the latest discounts and deals; we’re seduced by the daily special or the limited-time offer. But, for those of us lucky enough to have disposable income, what if we defined wise spending in terms of the happiness that it brings? That’s a completely different way of thinking about our purchases, and one that we have little practice in. Uk.businessinsider. Free yourself up to just be.
Flickr/taylor.f11 Generally speaking, trying hard is a great way to achieve most of what you want in life. Put in more effort at work and your prospects for a promotion will almost definitely improve — at least more than they would if you simply accepted the status quo of being a slacker. Date a lot of people and you'll have a better chance of meeting your soulmate than if you stayed at home moping on the couch. The Value of Positive Emotions. What Are Your Happiness Strengths and Weaknesses? Happiness is something nearly everyone wants more of.
Perhaps we don’t feel it often enough or strongly enough, or it seems to slip through our fingers far too easily. Many happiness seekers have read dozens of articles, yet they don’t feel much closer to creating the happiness they desire in their lives. New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy. You get all kinds of happiness advice on the internet from people who don’t know what they’re talking about.
Don’t trust them. Actually, don’t trust me either. Trust neuroscientists. What is Happiness? Transcript Dan Gilbert: It’s easy to be the world’s foremost authority on affective forecasting when you make up the term yourself.
Affective forecasting, which is what I spend most of my time studying these days, is the process by which people look into their future and make predictions about what they’ll like and what they won’t like. A Better Way to Pursue Happiness. We all want to be happy.
And science shows that happiness not only feels great but also predicts better physical health and even a higher paycheck. But how do we pursue happiness effectively? After all, some recent scientific research actually cautions us against the pursuit of happiness. Here are the things that are proven to make you happier: Time to round up the research on living a happy life to see what we can use.
First, yeah, a good chunk of happiness is controlled by your genes but there’s a lot you can do to make yourself happier. Many of these techniques have been repeatedly tested and even worked with the clinically depressed. Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude. Simply Happy : TED Radio Hour. Happy - Official Trailer [HD] 2012 (Documentary) 3 Little Tricks to Deal With People Who Offend You. By Leo Babauta Something that we struggle with daily, that eats us up and causes stress and anger: annoying people.
You know those people: they cut in line, are rude to you in the office or at the restaurant, cut you off in traffic, talk loudly about obnoxious things, play loud music when you’re trying to concentrate, interrupt you, and so on. 10 Things Science Says Will Make You Happy by Jen Angel. [Buy or print our poster version of this article below.] In the last few years, psychologists and researchers have been digging up hard data on a question previously left to philosophers: What makes us happy? Researchers like the father-son team Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener, Stanford psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, and ethicist Stephen Post have studied people all over the world to find out how things like money, attitude, culture, memory, health, altruism, and our day-to-day habits affect our well-being.
The emerging field of positive psychology is bursting with new findings that suggest your actions can have a significant effect on your happiness and satisfaction with life. Here are 10 scientifically proven strategies for getting happy. And The Power Of Negative Thinking. Editor's Note: This story contains one of our 11 New Years resolutions you can actually keep in 2014. For the full list, click here. It sometimes feels as if the "happiness industry"--the self-help books, motivational speakers, corporate consultants and the rest--makes its money by being useless. It's an ingenious business model, when you think about it: promise to help people think positive, then when your techniques fail, conclude that they weren't thinking positively enough--sending them back for more.
Among the many myths and misconceptions dogging the subject of happiness, here are five of the worst, along with some suggestions for what to do instead. 15 Powerful Things Happy People Do Differently. What are the differences between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it should be very obvious: happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct. 30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself. 18 Rules of Living By The Dalai Lama. 11th January 2012 At the turn of this century, the Dalai Lama issued the following eighteen rules for living. 12 years on, we thought that 2012 was a great time to revisit these timeless points.
Seven rarely mentioned requirements for happiness. (NaturalNews) I put together the following list of requirements for happiness based on research as well as my experience as a counselor and coach. 1. Inner alignment One of the best ways to be miserable is to live in conflict with you. Sometimes we conflict ourselves by trying to live opposing values. For example, some men try to be a family man and a playboy at the same time. 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy. Want to Be Happier? Stop Doing These 10 Things Right Now.
30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you. The Top 5 Regrets In Life By Those About to Die. Sunnie Toelle: The Happiness Tipping Point. "I think it's here," Prof. Hedonist Philosopher Epicurus Was Right About Happiness (Mostly) PHILOSOPHY - Epicurus. A Life Worth Living: Albert Camus on Our Search for Meaning and Why Happiness Is Our Moral Obligation. By Maria Popova. Top 10 Ways to Beat a Bad Mood. Happify. Want to Know What Really Makes You Happy? Try Tracking It - H. James Wilson. Throughout our careers and lives, the big decisions we have to make usually lead back to a single, overriding concern: What really makes me happy? Too often we try to answer these questions without knowing or understanding the real data from our lives.
Our self-analysis devolves into speculation or wishful thinking. Over the past month or so, I’ve been collaborating with Harvard Business Review to develop a quick self-test to determine individual readiness for understanding your own data through the world of auto-analytics. Auto-analytics is a method of using new self-tracking tools to help answer key professional (and personal) questions: How do I boost my productivity?
Track Your Happiness. Stop Trying to Be Happy. Happiness Is an Empty Promise. Bertrand Russell on the Vital Role of Boredom and “Fruitful Monotony” in the Conquest of Happiness. By Maria Popova “A generation that cannot endure boredom will be a generation of little men… of men in whom every vital impulse slowly withers, as though they were cut flowers in a vase.” Between the time Kierkegaard contemplated boredom and psychoanalyst Adam Phillips made his bewitching case for why the capacity for it is essential for a full life, Bertrand Russell (May 18, 1872–February 2, 1970) tussled with the subject more elegantly than any other thinker before or since.
The Secret To Never Being Frustrated Again.