Polyamory? Polyamory: The Practice of Jealousy Management. Jealousy Management for Love and Profitor, how to fix a broken refrigerator Note: This essay is adapted from a two-part entry that originally appeared in my online journal, the first part of which appears here and the second part of which appears here.
Both parts have generated significant commentary, which you can read in my journal. Additional commentary is welcome. Throughout the course of this essay, I use the metaphor of a broken refrigerator as a shorthand for a broken romantic relationship. The reason for this is a comment left in my online journal by one of the readers, which says: "Not to sound flippant, I am reminded of a Letterman joke he told on the Tonight Show (with Carson), about guys that can do anything, and how aggravating they can seem to regular folk: "You're serious? " This essay is an attempt to answer that question with respect to building a relationship without jealousy. Let's assume your relationship is a refrigerator. I'll get back to the fridge in a bit, though. 8 Essential Open Relationship Rules to Know … This is the 21st century, a time when cellphones and laptops rule the world.
A time when relationships aren't as conventional as they used to be. People are in open relationships, and although they're open, they're still RELATIONSHIPS and relationships have rules. The following are rules that will make your open relationship work, by keeping things open, but giving yourself boundaries, so things don't spiral too far out of control! Table of contents: 1 Honesty In an open relationship your partner doesn't need all the gory details about your sex life with other people, but it is very important to make sure that they know when you are having relations with other people. 2 No Unprotected Sex outside of the Relationship This is more of a health issue. 3 No Sex with Mutual Friends Mutual friends are tricky ground. 4 No Sex with Other People in the Bed You Share As I said before, open relationships are relationships just like anything else.
Respect is very important. 6 Be Comfortable. The Psychology of Relationships. PsyBlog The Psychology of Relationships In life there’s hardly anything as difficult as going it alone; having someone to lean on can make even the bitterest of life’s blows tolerable.
Research even suggests that relationships are as vital to our health as good nutrition and regular exercise, perhaps more so (see: health benefits of relationships). Human relationships have an incredible complexity and variety which psychologists have only just begun to fathom. The posts collected below examine some of the emerging aspects of research on the psychology of relationships. Starting new relationships Established relationships The end of the relationship? 2inShare. Openly Poly. Unknown knowns: Why did you choose to be monogamous?
Many of us are familiar with Donald Rumsfeld's famous (and surprisingly useful) taxonomy of knowledge: There are known knowns.
These are things we know that we know. There are known unknowns. That is to say, there are things that we now know we don’t know. But there are also unknown unknowns. But this taxonomy (as originally described) omits an important fourth category: , the things we don't know that we know. By definition, we are each completely ignorant of our own unknown knowns. When I was eighteen I went on a date with a girl I'll call Emma, who conscientiously informed me that she already had two boyfriends: she was, she said, polyamorous . The chance to date a pretty girl, though, can be sufficient motivation for a great many things (as is also the case with pretty boys). I couldn't come up with any particularly compelling answers, so I called Emma up and we planned a second date.
Non-consensual non-monogamy, the most popular alternative. 10902693.pdf (application/pdf Object) Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships.