Am I Projecting? Tryinng To Control? 7 Ways In Which I Check. Normally when I feel tempted to tell someone what he or she ‘has to do’, or ‘think’, I stop myself and wonder if I may be projecting my own desire to control the world, my fears, and or insecurities. Say for example, if I think that you should start a practice of ashtanga, then I turn it around and ask where in my life do I need to start a practice? If I think someone is obnoxious I turn it around and ask where AM I being obnoxious? I never let one of those go without pondering if I am projecting. 100% of the time I am and I need to consider why the desire to control.
Why the urge to be right? I learned that lesson well through my brother when in the late 1990′s I would go to Buenos Aires and think I could help by giving him money. Ever since that conversation I think twice before I attempt to give advise, money, or my opinion to anyone and never ever give it if unsolicited. They are a part of me. In the end, the real work is to live beyond the labels. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. See Also: Psychology studies relevant to everyday life from PsyBlog.