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Created to Be His Help Meet - Excerpts. Mr. Command Man God is dominant — a sovereign and all-powerful God. He is also visionary — omniscient and desirous of carrying out his plans. And, God is steady — the same yesterday, and today, and forever, our faithful High Priest. Most men epitomize one of these three aspects of God. No single man completely expresses the well-rounded image of God. A few men are born with more than their share of dominance and, on the surface, a deficit in gentleness. They are known for expecting their wives to wait on them hand and foot. Command Men have less tolerance, so they will often walk off and leave their clamoring wife before she has a chance to realize that she is even close to losing her marriage.

A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in command wants a faithful wife to share his fame and glory. If you are married to a king, honor and reverence is something you must give him on a daily basis if you want him to be a benevolent, honest, strong, and fulfilled man of God. Mr. Mr. Mr. TCK%20resource%20list-Feb2011. Gifted for Leadership: Discover Your God-Given Calling.

« Inadequacy, Fear, and Calling | Main | Calling Unfolds » February 7, 2013 Find your passion and put it into action by Julia Mateer More often than not, you will find Yolanda staying past hours at the all girls’ school where she works as a counselor. As a therapist and women’s ministry leader, I’m often asked, “How do I know what my calling is?” Listen to Your Life Our days are filled with busyness to the point where we don’t take time to listen to our lives. 1. Mission Statements Writing a mission statement puts a framework to your passion. Here are a few tips for writing your own mission statement: • Keep it simple. • Keep it general enough that you don’t pigeonhole yourself. • Remember, a mission statements is changeable, a living document. Dream Once you have discovered your passion and developed your mission statement, it’s time to use your imagination, throw off convention, and dream. Passion into Action • Fear • Insecurity • Finances • Responsibilities • Past mistakes • Perfectionism.

10 Ways to Determine God's Calling in Your Life, Spiritual Living, Christian Faith. God's calling to missions is not authoritative the way the Scriptures are. Your calling is never beyond question. You can't claim it to others the way you quote Scripture to them. Nevertheless our calling can be profoundly and durably sure in our own heart. It is the work of God to bring our heart to a point of conviction that, all things considered-including Scripture-this path is the path of obedience.

The conviction is not infallible. But when it is of God, it brings peace. How does God waken such a calling? 1. The Bible shapes our minds for mission durability (Psalm 1:1-3), and makes us burn for Christ (Luke 24:32). 2. Every Christian has gifts (1 Peter 4:10-11). 3. The Christian heart of love is drawn by perceived needs, whether near or far. 4. Clearly the Bible treats heroes of the faith as divinely appointed inspirations for the awakening of vision and ministry (Hebrews 13:7). 5. 4 Steps to Finding Your Calling.

The Church is full of people who are anxious to hear from God—but hearing God and following through on what He says are two different things. We often pray for God to speak and lead us into the life He has designed for us before we are willing to take those steps forward when He gives the word. Many of us truly believe God has good plans and purposes for our lives. But how do we discern His purpose? How do we know if where we’re headed is out of selfish ambition, or Kingdom calling? And when we do see the vision He has for our lives, how do we get started? Stepping into God’s calling for your life is quite a journey, and it all starts with discovering God right where you are. The biggest reason you can’t discover who you are until you know God is because knowing Him will change you. 1) Discover God Before you can begin to understand who you are, you must have a revelation of who God is.

We are often self-focused. God is not made in our image. 2) Discover Who You Are in Christ 3) Get Started. Overcome Anxiety (Bible Verses) — Going by Faith. Anxiety can become a state of torment. It’s easy to feel scared when we’re faced with uncertainty and phantoms. It’s uncomfortable, unknown, lurking… it shines a light on how little control we have over a situation and holds it there. I’m no stranger to this feeling. Dealing with anxiety used to cause me sleepless nights. I used to feel lost in the world to deal with my thoughts, worries and fears. The mix often lead to panic, nausea and stress. Like many, many others, I dealt with it alone. And like many others, I looked for peace in anything outside of me. Even though I thought I was stuck with the worst of the worst when it came to dealing with stress, God showed me the way out. Have you felt God’s presence and call to return to him?

Overcome Anxiety with Truth When I stopped running from God, I found a love so pure, so real and so TRUE, that it filled something in me that was lost, empty and scared to death. The truth is, God is in control. “Be strong and courageous. Title Page. 5 Keys To Making Molehills Out of Mountains | Charlie Lyons. At some point we’ve all had that day that just doesn’t go our way no matter what we try to do. Everything and everyone, it appears, have conspired to throw us down and keep us there. It all seems hopeless; we wonder why we even got out of bed this morning. So, we do what comes naturally — we dig in our heels and we push back. The recipients of our push-back can be many: kids, spouse, manager, co-workers, other drivers on the highway, a professor, our parents, the barista that was due for her break half an hour ago that suddenly realizes she’s having the same kind of day you are and wants you to know it. Our mantra becomes this: “I can please only one person per day.

When this kind of attitude is left unchecked, some of the smallest irritants we usually overlook become some of our biggest obstacles to overcome. Whether it’s conscious or not, we push back with an enforcement of our own convictions, standards, or even preferences on someone else. Okay, step back and take a breath. 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself. Feeling less than motivated all too often? I do. Well, perhaps not too often. But sometimes I just feel really lazy and unmotivated. Want some practical solutions to that universal motivation-problem? Here are 25 of them. Try a handful. Let me know which ones work well for you. I’m sure you’ll find at least one or two that do just that among these suggestions. 1. 2. 3. What am I ______ about in my life right now? Put in your own value in the blank space. What am I happy about in my life right now? It’s important that you really feel how it makes you feel. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Reviewing your results is important so you see where you have gone wrong in the past to avoid similar missteps further on. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. Also, try to find the valuable lesson(s) in each of your failures. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? Can you improve your conversation skills? Certainly. It might take a while to change the conversation habits that’s been ingrained throughout your life, but it is very possible. To not make this article longer than necessary let’s just skip right to some common mistakes many of us have made in conversations and a couple of solutions. And if you want more in-depth training then join us in my 12-week, step-by-step Smart Social Skills Course where I share the very best things I have learned in the past 8 years about improving social skills and relationship habits. Not listeningErnest Hemingway once said: “I like to listen. Don’t be like most people. When you start to really listen, you’ll pick up on loads of potential paths in the conversation.

Where did you go fishing? The person will delve deeper into the subject giving you more information to work with and more paths for you choose from. If they say something like: “Oh, I don’t know” at first, don’t give up. Slowing down. Said: How to Build Self Confidence: 6 Essential and Timeless Tips. Image by *Zara (license). “Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”Helen Keller “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.” Brian Tracy “Confidence is courage at ease.” I believe that one of the most common wishes is simply to feel more confident in various situations in life. But how? Confident friends may say: “Well, just be confident, man!” There are however some time-tested and timeless advice. Now, I hope you will find something useful in this article to help you improve and maintain your own levels of confidence. 1.

“Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”Thomas Carlyle “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Be present. 2. “The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear.”William Jennings Bryan 3. 4. 5.

7 Common Habits of Unhappy People. Image by Mitya Kuznetsov (license). “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” Marcel Proust Circumstances can certainly make life unhappy. In this article I’d like to share 7 of the most destructive daily habits that can create quite a bit of unhappiness within and in your own little world.

But I’ll also share what has worked, what has helped me to minimize or overcome these habits in my life. 1. Does life has to be perfect before you are happy? Do you have to behave in a perfect way and get perfect results to be happy? Then happiness will not be easy to find. How to overcome this habit: Three things that helped me to kick the perfectionism habit and become more relaxed: Go for good enough. 2. No one is an island. It becomes a lot harder to be happier if you let yourself be dragged down by negative voices. 3. 4. 5. How to Not Make a Mountain Out of a Molehill (+ The Smart Social Skills Course is Coming Soon) One of the very best ways that I have found to make daily life easier, lighter, more positive and less stressful is to learn how to not make mountains out of molehills. To learn how to not add extra drama or overanalyze or overthink things. To not create problems where there are none or there are simply very small issues you can fix. Learning this has helped me to have fewer problems and worries in my work.

And in my relationships. It also made my dating life more effortless and fun when I used to be single. So I’d like to share the most effective ways that I have learned to do this. And at the end of this post I’ll also share what I have spent most of my time with lately. Quickly stop and reexamine your thoughts. When I am starting to make a mountain out of a molehill and I am starting to sweat the small stuff then I usually use a stop-phrase. As a big problem is starting to form in my thoughts I say in my mind: Hold on now… Question #1: Who cares? This one is really powerful. 10 Tips to Manage Your Worrying. Do you find that you’re continually fighting with your worries?

Do they distress you because you feel controlled by them or that if you don’t worry then something bad might happen? Do your worries pour into your head when you wake at night? Finally, when you’ve started worrying, do you find it almost impossible to stop? You are not alone! Almost 1 in 10 people find uncontrollable worrying a distressing affliction that feels as though it has become an inseparable part of their personalities and character. Chronic worrying is often driven by a need to worry to “make sure things will all be OK”, it will affect your mood; it will also have detrimental effects on your relationships, your work productivity, and your social life.

I’ll talk more in later blogs about some of the causes of chronic worrying. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. How To Make A Mountain Out Of A Molehill. How I Plan My Week (My 5-Step Process + free workbook download. Video Gallery. The "Need to Know" by Peggy Vaughan. Downloadable Tools. Letting Go of Our Adult Children, Chapter 5, p. 12. — Page 12 Chapter 5 of Letting Go of Our Adult Children, in which you can learn how to begin turning your attention from your child to yourself.

By now you may be aware that old habits have kept your family conflict running on automatic pilot. You may realize that clinging to the hope that your child will eventually see things your way has kept you in the limbo of disappointed parents — unable either to let go with love or find peace for yourself. Fortunately, three catalysts for change lie within easy reach: emotional pain created by the situation, the recognition that you alone are responsible for emotional reactions to choices your child makes, and the opportunity for personal change that naturally arises when children leave home.

Ten years ago the combination of these pressures forced me to stop my futile efforts to change my son and to start exploring ways I could change. Pain: A Powerful Catalyst for Change Family rifts are painful and hard to dismiss. ©1994 Arlene F Harder, MA, MFT.