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Spotting Emotional Manipulation. 8 Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation.. and Free Ourselves From It. By Paul Lenda Guest Writer for Wake Up World We as human beings have a very strong self-centered aspect (even if it may not be truly ‘real’) of our beings called the ego, and many problems arise when this aspect of the human experience goes uncontrolled. Manipulation has always been a favored tool of the ego in order to get what it wants. This manipulation can come in either a physical form or it can be seen to work on the emotional level in order to break the psyche into meeting the manipulator’s desires. Properly identifying the ways in which people emotionally manipulate others can save us much suffering in the future when identified early enough.

By protecting ourselves from being manipulated on the emotional level, we are able to free ourselves once and for all from the violation of our universal right of free will. Identifying Emotional Manipulation You make a statement that is turned around to be used against you in a negative way. They put you in a guilt trip. They are indirect. 7 Reasons Why I Spent 7 Years In The Worst Relationship Of My Life. 1. I worked too damn hard to let it go. What would other people think? This was supposed to be The Guy and I’ll be damned if I look like a fool in front of everyone. In hindsight, this was the worst logic to ever have in any relationship. 2. He was emotionally unstable and taking me down with him. It wasn’t until a year after we met and a few months into dating that he told me he was Bipolar. 3. I had always considered myself one badass independent woman. 4. Yes, yes, I know that I am a fool for doing that and I regret it to this day. 5.

In reality, I couldn’t stand them; they enabled his gambling, supported him quitting numerous jobs and never encouraged him to go to school. 6. There was a point in time that we wanted to get married, the whole shebang. 7. If I didn’t have kids with this man, I was going to have to start all over with another one and that could take Lord knows how long. When I made it out of there, I looked back in awe. 20 Beautifully Honest Quotes About Love. “We were together. I forget the rest.” – Walt Whitman, “Leaves Of Grass” “I am no longer in love with her, that’s certain, but maybe I love her. Love is so short, forgetting is so long.” – Pablo Neruda, “Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair” “Every time I open the drawer, it’s a trip down Memory Lane, which, if you don’t turn off at the right exit, merges straight into the Masochistic Nostalgia Highway.” – Sloane Crosley, “I Was Told There’d Be Cake” “It’s always going to be you, even when I’m busy pretending to love somebody else.” – Laura Jane Williams, ““We Never Happened, And That Has To Be Okay” “I was glad I wasn’t in love, that I wasn’t happy with the world.

. – Charles Bukowski, “Women” “You will break someone’s heart if you fall in love with someone’s potential and then blame them for not living up to it. . – Jamie Varon, “How To Break Someone’s Heart” – Warsan Shire “But if you loved me Why’d you leave me?” – Kodaline, “All I Want” “It is not so incomprehensible as you pretend, sweet pea. How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex. These six simple, effective tips on how to stop thinking about your ex will help you overcome obsessive thoughts, and move on with your life. Stop ruminating on the past, and start thinking about your future. How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Howard Halpern is the book I recommend on how to stop thinking about your ex. Obsessive thoughts about your ex can be a normal part of breaking up. But if those thoughts are overpowering or overwhelming, then you need to find a way to overcome them. The most important thing to remember is that learning how to stop thinking about your ex is a habit that you CAN break.

It takes energy and dedication at first, but you can stop the obsessive thoughts about the person you broke up with. Here’s what one guy says about his ex-girlfriend: “I still seem to be obsessing about my ex. 6 Tips on How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex Use the dog-and-vomit analogy (it’s gross, but it works!) Obsessive Love Be free. Summary Author. 5 Reasons It’s So Hard to Get Over a Breakup. Even when you know breaking up is the best choice, it’s sad and depressing. These reasons breaking up is hard to do will help you cope – they’re from two women who weren’t well-behaved. Have you read any of Martha Beck’s books?

Her newest is Finding Your Way in a Wild New World: Reclaim Your True Nature to Create the Life You Want. If you’re getting over a breakup, now’s the time to find your way and reclaim your true nature! Here’s a quip from one of my favourite authors and mothers, Anne Lamott: “I thought such awful thoughts that I cannot even say them out loud because they would make Jesus want to drink gin straight out of the cat dish.” How’s that for not well-behaved? You haven’t dealt with the past. I absolutely did not fall in love with and marry a man who reminds me of someone who cared for me in my childhood! What about you – did you fall in love with someone who reminds you of your childhood? You’re scared you’ll never find love again. You’re scared to be alone. 8 Awesome Reminders To Help You Find Love Again. True Love. One of life’s greatest quests.

Achieving it is easier said than done: even though the concept of Love is more or less the same between everyone on Earth, our needs and expectations can easily get in the way and ruin a relationship. Love is a fragile thing that can be broken unexpectedly. Sometimes it’s a matter of seconds, sometimes love is eroded over a decade, but it’s almost a fact of life that one will experience heartbreak at some point. Recovering from it is not only possible, but crucial to building character, self-esteem and more importantly, to get closer to experiencing true love. So here I present my humble point of view based on my own experiences on how to love again. 1.

This might well be among the worst feelings that you can experience, but it’s absolutely crucial to loving again (remember, you can’t make an omelet without setting fire to the kitchen) If it’s over, it’s over; stop kicking the dead horse. 2. A lot. Grieving is important. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. This Is How We Date Now. We don’t commit now.

We don’t see the point. They’ve always said there are so many fish in the sea, but never before has that sea of fish been right at our fingertips on OkCupid, Tinder, Grindr, Dattch, take your pick. We can order up a human being in the same way we can order up pad thai on Seamless. We think intimacy lies in a perfectly-executed string of emoji. We think effort is a “good morning” text. We say romance is dead, because maybe it is, but maybe we just need to reinvent it. Maybe romance in our modern age is putting the phone down long enough to look in each other’s eyes at dinner.

When we choose—if we commit—we are still one eye wandering at the options. We soothe ourselves and distract ourselves and, if we can’t even face the demons inside our own brain, how can we be expected to stick something out, to love someone even when it’s not easy to love them? And, even if we find it. Then, we see these other happy, shiny couples and we compare. So, we break up. When a relationship ends. Staying in touch? Children involved?

Ending a long-term relationship means having to deal with the tricky questions of... whether or not to stay in touchwhether or not to get legal advicemanaging your emotionssupporting your children I cover Take this first-class hypnosis course for freeClosing date 24/6/14 Do you need legal advice? Before you take any action though, be sure that you've had legal advice, if appropriate. Particularly if you've been living together, you're likely to have joint assets. You'll find further info here: finding the Best Divorce Lawyer for Your Money Staying in touch - is it worth it? Do you need to stay in touch with an ex when you're ending a relationship? If you're hurting, and/or your marriage or relationship was full of conflict, stress and perhaps even abuse, you may be having a hard time deciding what is best.

How long you need to stay in touch and the quality of contact depends on a number of factors. I hope you'll think these things through really carefully. Finally - when ending relationships... Letting Go of Love. How to Let Go of Love Have you been dumped, betrayed or left so heartbroken that you didn't ever want to love again? Are you still stuck on an ex and don't know how to move on? And how do you know when it's time to let go and look for love somewhere else?

Dr. Phil has advice: If you're "the other woman" who's waiting for a man to leave his lover, don't waste your time. 20 Uniquely Awesome Date Ideas.