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Privacy Policy Browse Tools by Category Start Here (2) How to Make Decisions Making the Best Possible Choices 14 How Good Is Your Decision Making? Decision Making Models (6) Choosing Between Options (9) Deciding Whether to Go Ahead (9) Financial Decisions (4) Improving Decision Making (13) The Impact of Ethics and Values (3) Group Decision Making (9) Further Resources Bite–Sized Training (6) Book Insights (16) Expert Interviews (6) Processing Please wait... AddThis Sharing Sidebar Share to Facebook , Number of shares , Number of shares668 Hide Show. Best Personal Development Videos ~ Motivation and Leadership. Click the screen shot to play... Jack Canfield: Planning Your Day You probably know Jack Canfield as the co-creator of the best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul book series, which currently has over 35 titles and 53 million copies in print in over 32 languages.

But if you really want to know who Jack Canfield is, he is best described as an understanding, compelling, empowering and compassionate coach who has helped hundreds of thousands of people achieve their dreams. The Story of Self-Talk... by Dr. Shad Helmstetter This best-selling Self-Talk series was specially created for people who want powerful, positive non-stop motivation -- and who want to excel in their business and personal lives every day! Be Inspired... Nick Vujicic Born with no arms or legs, Nick Vujicic gives an inspiring testimony about overcoming circumstances in one's life. Simply Unmotivated Success David Stoddard, the "Unmotivated Motivational Writer" tells the reality about goals. Making the Transition to Leader.

4 Easy Ways You Can Resolve Some Of Life’s Toughest Questions. How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done - 5 Expert Tips. Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller. To check it out, click here. Some days the to-do list seems bottomless. Just looking at it is exhausting. We all want to know how to stop being lazy and get more done.

I certainly want the answer. So I decided to call a friend who manages to do this — and more. Cal Newport impresses the heck out of me. He has a full-time job as a professor at Georgetown University, teaching classes and meeting with students.He writes 6 (or more) peer-reviewed academic journal papers per year.He’s the author of 4 books including the wonderful “So Good They Can’t Ignore You.”

And yet he finishes work at 5:30PM every day and rarely works weekends. No, he does not have superpowers or a staff of 15. Below you’ll get Cal’s secrets on how you can better manage your time, stop being lazy, get more done — and be finished by 5:30. 1) To-Do Lists Are Evil. Here’s Cal: And he’s right. 9 Ways Your Old Programming May Be Holding You Hostage | Psychology Today. "Old programming" is one way to think about decisions you made as a child to better adapt to a conditionally accepting family.

After all, when you’re highly dependent on your caretakers for comfort, guidance, and support, what could be more essential than feeling securely bonded to them? Obviously, when you’re young, you can’t function autonomously. So, inasmuch as you have no choice but to rely on your parents to take care of you and keep you from harm’s way, it’s imperative to form an “alliance” with them that’s as strong and stable as possible. As a child, it’s hardly likely that you conceptualized your family situation all that consciously. That is, based on your genetic blueprint, you’d contrive to do just about anything to minimize disappointing your caretakers in the future.

Hopefully, the dependency-rooted, adaptive tactics I’m alluding to should be easy enough to understand and sympathize with. Finally, please be aware that I’m not at all interested in “parent-bashing.” 1. 2. One Exercise Sure to Make You Feel Better About Yourself. Antonio Guillem/Shutterstock I have been treating patients using cognitive therapies for almost 15 years, and one of the most successful exercises I have ever seen work to help them re-engage their sense of well-being is so simple that each and every time I convince someone to do it, I am still remarkably struck by how effective it is.

Before I share this exercise with you, I want you to know that the difficult part is not doing the activity. It is making yourself believe that the activity will have enough benefit that you will put forth the actual effort to do it, and experience the results. Often when I give this assignment to patients, they come back for two or three weeks afterward, still not having tried it. OK, so what is the exercise? Keep a pad of paper next to your bed and every night before you go to sleep, write down three things you liked about yourself that day.In the morning, read the list before you get out of bed.Do this everyday for 30 days. 1. 2.

7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People. The 6 Healthy Habits: lasting health through inner growth. An Overview The 6 healthy habits will change your life for good. Attain your health and life goals now. Healthy habits that will change your life for good You and I are creatures of habit. That can work for us or against us. Do you want to lose weight, get fit, beat stress and live a long, healthy for life? Would you like to enjoy a long, healthy life, achieve your personal goals and grow to reach your full potential as a human being? Imagine changing your everyday habits so that they work for you, not against you. Think about it. Bad habits are hard to break The problem is, our unconscious, ingrained habits are often self-defeating. We continually behave in ways that are counter to our own best interests. Yet breaking bad habits can be so very hard to do. If only it were easier, we could form new habits that are more aligned with our dreams and aspirations.

Well, thanks to developments in our scientific understanding of how the mind works, it turns out that now, you can achieve just that. Top Top. The Willingness Factor: Learn to Avoid Avoidance. Melanie’s life was shrinking like a cheap blouse in an overheated dryer. At 30 she’d developed a fear of flying that ended her dream of world travel. Within a year, her phobia had grown to include—or rather, exclude—driving. After the World Trade Center attacks, Melanie became terrified to enter the downtown area of any city. She quit her job as an office manager (the potential for mail-based terrorism was too big) and called me hoping I could help her devise a way of earning money from home. “Everybody tells me my fears aren’t realistic,” she said. “But I think I’m the most realistic person I know.

There was only one thing for which Melanie would leave her apartment. Ironic, n’est-ce pas? Why Experiential Avoidance Seems Like a Good Idea Most of us do this kind of emotional side step, at least occasionally. Consider Melanie, who, quite understandably, wanted to steer clear of the awful sensation of being afraid. The Willingness Factor The Consequences of Willingness. 25 Best Books on Self-Improvement You Need to Read Before You Die. I remember the first time I got my hands on a self-improvement book. I was baffled. At that moment I realized my fate was not set in stone. I could become my own drill master and coach. The books I read would set out the training course for me to overcome. These are affiliate links to and Blinkist, using these will support HighExistence, thank you. 1.

This book is a masterpiece, and unlike most self-improvement books, this one targets an infinite array of areas in which you can, and ultimately must, improve. 2. Perhaps it is the fact that randomness played such a significant role in my years as a poker player that I find this book utterly important. Read the key insights of Fooled by Randomness in 15 minutes for free on Blinklist 3. I read this book in a time where I thought power was something I should attain. 4. The title of this book doesn’t capture it all. 5. 6. We all know how that destructive downward spiral feels. 7. A from 1937, this book by Hill is a masterpiece. 8. 25 Best Books on Self-Improvement You Need to Read Before You Die. I remember the first time I got my hands on a self-improvement book. I was baffled. At that moment I realized my fate was not set in stone. I could become my own drill master and coach. The books I read would set out the training course for me to overcome.

All I had to do was listen to that voice that aspired to climb higher and higher. Every time I committed to a new challenge I knew it was going to be outside my comfort zone, but after enough iterations, I also knew it will not just be part of my repertoire, it will be part of me. These are affiliate links to, using these will support HighExistence, thank you. 1. This book is a masterpiece, and unlike most self-improvement books, this one targets an infinite array of areas in which you can, and ultimately must, improve. 2.

Perhaps it is the fact that randomness played such a significant role in my years as a poker player that I find this book utterly important. Not enough time? 3. 4. Not enough time? 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 4layersfinal 3. 14 Things Mentally Strong People Do Differently To Be More Successful. LifeHack | We’ve all had our moments in life when we feel like we just can’t take it anymore. Life gets us down. We feel beaten, broken, and like there’s no way out. But what is the difference between the people who can turn it around and make lemonade out of lemons? It all lies in how you think. If you are mentally strong, you can be happy in many different situations. If you want to be one of those people, here are 14 things that they do in order to be successful: 1. Mentally strong people don’t let their emotions control them. 2. Instead of looking at obstacles as problems, mentally strong people see them as learning opportunities. 3.

If they are facing a crisis, they don’t freak out for very long. 4. You have to pay taxes. 5. I know a lot of people who have absolutely wonderful lives but the do nothing but complain about what they don’t have. 6. 7. If something goes wrong in their life, they don’t point the finger at other people. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. To your success!!! 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. LifeHack | Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong. 1.

They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair. 2. They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. 3. Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. 4. You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. 5.

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. 6. They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. Amy Morin. The Benjamin Franklin Effect: The Surprising Psychology of How to Handle Haters. “We are what we pretend to be,” Kurt Vonnegut famously wrote, “so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” But given how much our minds mislead us, what if we don’t realize when we’re pretending — who are we then? That’s precisely what David McRaney explores in You Are Now Less Dumb: How to Conquer Mob Mentality, How to Buy Happiness, and All the Other Ways to Outsmart Yourself (public library) — a “book about self-delusion, but also a celebration of it,” a fascinating and pleasantly uncomfortable-making look at why “self-delusion is as much a part of the human condition as fingers and toes,” and the follow-up to McRaney’s You Are Not So Smart, one of the best psychology books of 2011.

McRaney, with his signature fusion of intelligent irreverence and irreverent intelligence, writes in the introduction: The human mind is obviously vaster and more powerful than any other animal mind, and that’s something people throughout all human history couldn’t help but notice. The Benjamin Franklin Effect: The Surprising Psychology of How to Handle Haters. 5 Amazing Trigger Points To Relieve Pain. I know I have a lot of stress built up just from going about my day to day life.

Finally, there are some interesting new methods that I’ve learned that can definitely help you out in a stressful situation. However, everyone’s pain is unique and different. Please always consult your physician, especially if you are pregnant, your pain is acute or intense, or if your symptoms are combined with fever and abdominal discomfort. Neck Pain (empower point) Where is it? What does it do?

Low Back Pain (unlock the back point) Where is it? What does it do? Premenstrual Pain (happy pelvis point) Where is it? What does it do? Constipation (let it go point) Where is it? What does it do? Headache (Clear Vision Point) Where is it? What does it do? And there you have it! (h/t: vickyvlachonis) When You're Bored, Do These 15 Productive Things. There are a lot of productive things to do when bored. On Quora, user Visakan Veerasamy proposes the use of elimination.

I took that theory one step further, expanding to also include two other types of activity. Here are fifteen productive things to do when bored based on the principles of elimination, consumption and work. 1. One of the reasons you’re not as prolific as you want, may be that you have too much clutter. 2. Is there anything in particular that’s distracting you? 3. Are you worried about something?

4. There are a lot of things in our lives that might be nice, but are distractions to our productivity because they’re not necessary. 5. Even if you don’t have enough energy for a big task, you might have enough to do a small one. 6. When you’re bored is an opportune time to learn. 7. Information isn’t the same as knowledge. 8. You have to be careful with this one; you can’t just watch an episode of your favorite TV show and call the time you spent productive. 9. 10. 11. 12.

The Secret to Life in 2 Words. Practice conscious living. Control your unconscious mind. Conscious living is the cornerstone for building great health and success. Conscious living is the key to real health, growth and success The first of the 6 Healthy Habits is to live consciously. And for good reason. When you learn to live consciously it becomes easier, and in fact natural, to adopt the remaining 6 Healthy Habits.

For life. Living consciously lays the foundation for lasting improvement in all aspects of your life - your health, growth and success. With conscious living you gain greater clarity about who you are and who you really want to be. You begin to understand what really matters to you in life. If you're new to the concept of conscious living, you may discover this deeper knowledge about yourself and your true aspirations happens for the first time in your life.

Conscious living helps you uncover the meaning and purpose of your life, and the inner talents and external opportunities that can lead you to your goals. The wisdom you seek is already within you. 4 Mindfulness. Healthy Nutrition: Giving your body the nutrients it needs.