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This Woman Stripped Her Dress Off While Onstage In The Name Of Feminism. Point Well Made. 20 Unspoken Rules Every Twentysomething Should Know. 33 Meticulous Cleaning Tricks For The OCD Person Inside You. Exclusive: Monica Lewinsky on the Culture of Humiliation. Another job interview, this one typical: walked into the stark, terminally cool reception area of a hip-yet-prestigious advertising agency in Los Angeles, my hometown.

Exclusive: Monica Lewinsky on the Culture of Humiliation

As always, I put on my best “I’m friendly, not a diva” smile. “Hi. Monica Lewinsky here to see So-and-So.” The twentysomething receptionist pushed her black-rimmed hipster frames up her nose. “Monica who?” Before I could answer, another twentysomething, in skinny jeans, plaid shirt, and bow tie, rushed over and interrupted: “ Ms. I found myself sitting at a small round table, face-to-face with So-and-So, the agency’s head of strategy and planning. I’ve had to become adept at handling any number of reactions in social situations and job interviews. I eventually came to realize that traditional employment might not be an option for me. In another job interview I was asked, “If you were a brand, which brand would you be?” In September of 2010, the culmination of these experiences began to snap into a broader context for me. Kat Lazo Delivers A Manifesto For Millennial Women.

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<3. <i>RuPaul's Drag Race</i> and the Danger of Overpolicing Language  "Tranny," "sissy," "sex change," and "she-male" are self-identifying slang words used by gender-nonconforming people -- mostly performers, artists, sex workers, and others considered to be living on the fringe of our queer community.

<i>RuPaul's Drag Race</i> and the Danger of Overpolicing Language 

Although we use these words playfully to relate, empower, and communicate, these words, like the word "gay," are sometimes used to disrespect us. When I first transitioned, I proudly identified as a "tranny" until people within the trans community told me the word was offensive to them. I complied but quickly realized that while striving to be accepted by the hetero-dominated world, the upper echelons of the trans community were trying to sweep the fringe under the rug by censoring the language with which they identify. In addition to banishing "tranny," "sissy," "sex change," and "she-male" as slander, they insisted that the users of these words were the oppressors, making themselves the victims -- a well-worn tool of manipulation and control.

Raising a Moral Child. Photo What does it take to be a good parent?

Raising a Moral Child

We know some of the tricks for teaching kids to become high achievers. For example, research suggests that when parents praise effort rather than ability, children develop a stronger work ethic and become more motivated. Yet although some parents live vicariously through their children’s accomplishments, success is not the No. 1 priority for most parents. We’re much more concerned about our children becoming kind, compassionate and helpful. Despite the significance that it holds in our lives, teaching children to care about others is no simple task. Are some children simply good-natured — or not? Genetic twin studies suggest that anywhere from a quarter to more than half of our propensity to be giving and caring is inherited. By age 2, children experience some moral emotions — feelings triggered by right and wrong. But is that the right approach? The researchers randomly assigned the children to receive different types of praise.

7 Ways To Keep It Together When You Want To Fall Apart. Life isn’t always fair.

7 Ways To Keep It Together When You Want To Fall Apart

Accidents happen, marriages end, businesses fail and loved ones pass on. When your world crumbles, it's difficult to keep yourself intact. Believe me: I’ve been there. After the financial betrayal of my ex-husband, I lost my award-winning business, went bankrupt and had to accept that my marriage was a lie. I very nearly came undone. Keeping it together when you want to fall apart isn’t easy. 1. Emotional turmoil complicates even the simple things. If you find yourself worrying about an issue, consider whether you have the power to change it. Your energy levels are likely depleted; use what remains to address the things you can control. 2. Burying your emotions can make you feel overwhelmed, isolated and cause a rapid decline in well-being. By sharing your thoughts, you will release the pressure buildup, and give yourself the opportunity to view the situation from a new perspective.

Remember, a problem shared is a problem halved. 4 Steps To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You. Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, but many of us spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think.

4 Steps To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You

You might not even realize you're doing it, but these kinds of mental gymnastics are unhealthy and stressful, making us feel unworthy and removing our attention from the present moment. Here are four steps to help you stop worrying about what other people think, designed to help you maintain healthier and happier relationships with yourself and others. 1. Understand why you care. In order to break the cycle, it's important to understand where the energy is coming from.