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EVERY Single One Of These 10 Things Is Emotional Abuse — Yes, Really. You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship – Medical Surity. Author: Jennifer Williams-Fields Stop.

You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship – Medical Surity

Just stop asking why a woman is so stupid and so weak when she stays in an abusive relationship. There’s no answer you can possibly understand. Your judgment only further shames abused women. It shames women like me. Sanctuary for the Abused: 28 Signs of An Abuser. 14.

Sanctuary for the Abused: 28 Signs of An Abuser

Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. Seems like two different people with mood swings from nice to explosive. May change his behavior around the guys. May be very sociable around others and only abusive with you. 15. 24. 25. 26. 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use to Silence You. Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends.

20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use to Silence You

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone. When my Mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days.

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone

None of us knew anything about supporting someone in her transition out of this life into the next, but we were pretty sure we wanted to keep her at home, so we did. While we supported Mom, we were, in turn, supported by a gifted palliative care nurse, Ann, who came every few days to care for Mom and to talk to us about what we could expect in the coming days. She taught us how to inject Mom with morphine when she became restless, she offered to do the difficult tasks (like giving Mom a bath), and she gave us only as much information as we needed about what to do with Mom’s body after her spirit had passed.

The author with her mother. Six Habits of Highly Empathic People. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com/Andy Dean Photography This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center.

Six Habits of Highly Empathic People

November 2012, Issue No. 40. By Jay W.

November 2012, Issue No. 40

Vogt Learning how to say "no" is a critical skill in work life, so let's briefly explore why it feels so hard for some of us to do and then learn a couple of techniques that will make saying "no" much easier. Why It Is Hard to Say "No" Many of us feel that if we say "no" to requests, we'll be disappointing others.

In fact, that will sometimes be the case—but take a step back from the exchange and reflect for a moment on the bigger picture. Honoring Your Needs. Six Steps To Gracefully Say No And Not Feel Guilty. Take one look at my calendar and you can tell it’s been a busy year.

Six Steps To Gracefully Say No And Not Feel Guilty

I’ve had more blind reach-outs come my way than ever before. Some write because there are job openings on my team and they want to know more before applying. Others write after reading a piece of mine online that resonated. Still others are from folks who have seen me speak at conferences and want my feedback on something they’re building. At first, I said yes to everything. But after a while I realized that saying yes to everything wasn’t scalable (or, I had to admit, even very fun). Worse still, when I took a hard look at the aftermath of those meetings, nine times out of 10 I never saw the person again. When my calendar got so crammed I started to schedule breakfast dates, I decided enough was enough: it was time to scale back. 10 Toxic People You Shouldn't Bring With You Into The New Year. Can you believe that it’s already December?

10 Toxic People You Shouldn't Bring With You Into The New Year

This year has flown by in the blink of an eye and we’re on the verge of yet another year — a year full of possibility. What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with. When bringing in the new year, be sure not to bring all your garbage with you. Leave these toxic individuals in 2014; you’ll feel much lighter, allowing you to get a great running start on the year to come. 1.

Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing — in fact, it’s what you make it out to be. How To Spot A Liar In 5 Seconds. Will a bad marriage ruin my health? Married people are usually healthier than the unmarried – the research on relationships is pretty clear on that.

Will a bad marriage ruin my health?

But those in miserable relationships may be the sickest of all. A US study published last week in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that marriages full of rows and criticism increased the risk of heart disease, and the effect was greater than the protective effect from “good” marriages. The researchers used data from 1,198 married people, who were part of the National Social Life, Health and Aging Project in America. They compared known risk factors for heart attacks and stroke and a history of heart disease with the quality of people’s relationships. 3 Non-Negotiable Reasons To Leave Your Partner. Have you ever struggled with the question of when it's time to leave a relationship?

3 Non-Negotiable Reasons To Leave Your Partner

How to Deal With People Who Drain You. They're all around us: People who suck all the positive energy out of us to fuel their relentless hunger for negativity, leaving us drained, exhausted, and unhappy. Whatever you call them—energy vampires, energy suckers, or just unhappy, negative people—they can wreak havoc on your life if you don't have effective strategies to deal with them. Energy vampires are often personality-disordered people who tend to be: There is no reason to allow their problems to become yours. Here are three steps to help you deal with people who drain you: Know one when you see one. In the times we live in, energy, especially the positive kind, is a precious commodity. . © 2012 Sherrie Bourg Carter, All Rights Reserved. The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People. Signs a Relationship is Toxic: Red Flags. Energy Vampires: Who They Are & How To Ditch Them. I don’t know about you, but 2012 was a year of many changes for me – home, career, relationships, personal goals, diet, and even ideals.

And the success of overcoming these barriers would not have been possible without others. The TEA model: analysing thoughts, emotions and actions. Integral Leadership, Executive Development Programmes. 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal. There’s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe we read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be. But when it comes down to actually handling the nitty-gritty of relationships, we’re given no pointers… or worse, we’re given advice columns in women’s magazines.

Yes, it’s trial-and-error from the get-go.