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Self-Regulation: Calm, Alert, and Learning* Two recent Government of Ontario publications, With our Best Future in Mind[1] and Every Child Every Opportunity,[2] have brought self-regulation to the fore of that province’s early learning initiative. This thematic core reflects a growing awareness among developmental scientists that the better a child can self-regulate, the better she can rise to the challenge of mastering ever more complex skills and concepts.[3] But what exactly is self-regulation, and why is it so important for learning? In the simplest terms, self-regulation can be defined as the ability to stay calmly focused and alert, which often involves – but cannot be reduced to – self-control. The idea that self-regulation and self-control are one and the same is surprisingly ancient, dating back to Plato. Five-domain Model Now, to be sure, what developmental scientists refer to today as effortful control (e.g., being able to inhibit one’s impulses or ignore distractions) is a critical element of self-regulation.

. [1] C. Internet Safe-Smarts Tip Sheet for Kids… How To Handle Your Anger At Your Child. All parents get angry at their children. It doesn’t help that there are always the endless pressures of life: appointments we’re late to, things we’ve forgotten until the last moment, health and financial worries -- the list is endless. In the middle of that hectic momentum, enter our child, who has lost her sneaker, suddenly remembered she needs a new notebook for school today, is teasing her little brother, or is downright belligerent.

And we snap. In our calm moments, if we’re honest, we know that we could handle any parenting moment much better from a state of calm. But in the storm of our anger, we feel righteously entitled to our fury. How can this kid be so irresponsible, inconsiderate, ungrateful? But no matter how aggravating we find our child's behavior, that behavior doesn't cause our angry response. Your child may be pushing your buttons, but he isn't causing your response. WHY We Get So Angry At Our Kids It helps to know all this, if we are struggling to cope with anger. 1. How to get your toddler to listen to you | BabyButton. If only there was a button you could press that automatically, and quickly, connected to your toddler’s brain, forcing them to listen to you.

It would be part of a simple remote control that had the power to connect with your toddler when your words couldn’t. Because, let’s face it – in the fast-paced world of toddlerhood, listening skills are a much desired, but rarely accessible, skill set. The secret of educating your toddler’s listening skills There’s nothing worse than trying to communicate with a child that isn’t, and has no intentions of, listening to you. Add in a high-pressure situation like being in a public place or urgently needing your toddler to do something and it can be a recipe for disaster. The good news is that you don’t have to be a toddler whisperer to get your little one to listen to you.

Now while this might not seem like a big deal, it is actually the secret ingredient of getting your toddler to actively listen to you. Five ways to get your toddler to listen to you. The discipline tool kit: Successful strategies for every age. By Melanie Haiken En español We've all seen them: the out-of-control toddler hurling handfuls of sand at the park; the whiny-voiced 3-year-old begging for candy in the grocery line; the sassy 7-year-old yelling "you can't make me! " at the restaurant. My top parenting challenge And we've privately dissed their parents, reassuring ourselves that we'd never be such a wimp if our child was terrorizing the playground or disrupting everyone's dinner.

But then it happens: the massive meltdown that takes you completely by surprise. Why is discipline such a big dilemma? What we need is a comfortable middle ground to ensure that our little ones grow up to be respectful, caring, and well behaved. First, the ground rules To set the stage for discipline success, here are the bottom-line rules many experts agree on: 1. 2. 3. 4. The tools: Babies, toddlers, and up A disclaimer: These tools aren't guaranteed to work every time, and none of them will be right for every parent and child. Parenting - What Shapes a Child. Parenting: the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. More definitions just for fun: Listen to some common questions parents have answered by the experts: Three Universal Goals for all Parents: 1. 2. 3.

Socio Economic Status effects Parenting Parents of different Socio Economic Status put emphasis on different things. Parents from Higher SES emphasize: - Happiness - Creativity - Self Control - Ambition - Independence - Curiosity Parents from Low SES emphasize: - Obedience - Respect - Neatness - Cleanliness - Staying out of trouble Parents from Higher SES tend to be more democratic when raising their children. “Goodness of Fit” Every Child has a different personality that parents must adapt to. Example: A child with n outgoing personality is born into a withdrawn personality family; there may not be “Goodness of Fit.” Parenting Styles 1. 2. 3. Family rules and ground rules for children. Family rules: the basics Rules can help your family members get along better, and make family life more peaceful.

Effective rules are positive statements about how your family wants to look after and treat its members. When rules are stated clearly and unambiguously, they help: children and young people learn where the limits are, and what’s expected of them adults be consistent in the way they treat younger family members. Who to involve in making rules It’s important to involve all members of the family as much as possible when developing family rules. Children as young as three can have meaningful discussions with parents about what rules are and why they’re needed. As children get older, they can contribute even more when deciding what the rules should be, as well as the consequences for breaking them. Involving your child in creating both the family rules and the consequences for breaking them helps her understand and accept them. What to make rules about Kinds of rules Sit down to eat.

Parenting - What Shapes a Child.