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How to Respond to Negative People Without Being Negative. “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” ~Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama A woman with whom I once worked seemed to talk non-stop and loudly, interrupt incessantly, gossip about whomever wasn’t in the room, constantly complain, and live quite happily in martyrdom. It seemed nothing and no one escaped her negative spin. She was good at it. She could twist the happiest moment of someone’s life into a horrendous mistake. She seemed to enjoy it too. At first, my judgmental mind thought her behavior to be quite inappropriate. Her negativity was infectious. For a while, though, I listened to her whenever she followed me into the lunchroom or the ladies’ room. I’d excuse myself from the one-sided chit-chat as soon as possible, wanting to someday be honest enough to kindly tell her that I choose not to listen to gossip.

I interacted with her only a handful of times a month, but her negative presence lingered on in my life. She and I shared in this negativity together. 7 Things You Haven't Tried To Spark Your Personal Growth. Being comfortable with who you are and satisfied with what you have are noble traits that will ensure that you stay fairly happy in life. However, wanting more out of life – a better job, a fit body, more confidence, and a more active social life – is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact being ambitious is a great thing, as it focuses you on goals that become a major source of motivation to improve and grow. Becoming a better person allows you to improve your quality of life and forge strong relationships with those around you, while giving you the strength to deal with difficult or toxic people and persevere through hard times. So, how do you grow as a person? 1. An essential part of personal development is intellectual growth. 2.

When it’s time to relax and just chat with some friends, the last thing on most people’s minds is the fact that this can be an opportunity to learn something new, become more creative or get a different perspective on certain things. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. How To Go From Dreaming To Doing: 4 Steps To Motivation. You have stuff you know you should be doing. But it doesn’t get done. You need to go from dreaming to doing — but it’s hard. You want to accomplish more at work, hit the gym, get a new job or study harder at school… but it’s not happening. I’ve talked about strategies to make challenges easier like the 20 second rule. But what if you’re just not starting in the first place?

What gets you going when you’re not motivated to reach those longer term goals? There’s a solution that can help you not only make change easier, but boost motivation. Yes, WOOP. WishOutcomeObstaclePlan Can a method with the silliest name in social science really work? People who say they want to exercise more and use the WOOP method do dramatically better: How does it work? The first step is wishing. Here’s how to do it right. 1) Wish (But Don’t Stop There) Everything starts with a wish. But when that positive outlook become fantasizing, things go south really fast. Why? Want to lose weight? Trying to get a new job? Sum Up. 20 Things That Mentally Strong People Don't Do.

I often write about the things I believe we all should be doing, trying or experimenting with in order to maximize our success and happiness. However, it’s not always the things we do that make the biggest difference in our lives; it’s often the things we avoid doing that have the biggest effect. As human beings, we have a strong aversion to not doing; we feel that in order to produce results, there must be an initial action.

However, because we are almost always doing something, piling on more and more often has a negative effect, rather than a positive one. Among the mentally strong, there are several actions that are avoided in order to produce the greatest benefit in the shortest period of time. These actions are those that the mentally strong avoid, and that we should consider adapting as our own: 1. Mentally strong individuals focus on the present moment and on the near future. 2. 3. Only the foolish believe themselves to be sufficient in all regards. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. Is there a shortcut to bonding with a romantic partner on a deeper level?

From Sam Gosling’s book, Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You: Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he’s come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another. Given that he has just an hour or so to create the intimacy levels that typically take week, months, or years to form, he accelerated the getting-to-know-you process through a set of thirty-six questions crafted to take the participants rapidly from level one in McAdams’s system to level two.

The questions are part of an hour-long “sharing game” in which each member of a pair reads a question out loud and then they both answer it before moving on to the next question. What are some of the questions? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. Aron’s book is Handbook of Closeness and Intimacy. Related posts: Timeline Photos - Knowledge of Today | Facebook. 72 Facts That Will Actually Teach You Something. 1. Chocolate milk was invented in Ireland. 2. You can’t breathe and swallow at the same time. 3. The girlfriend of the guy who founded Match.com left him for a man she met on Match.com. 4.

This is what it looks like when a star meets a black hole: 5. 11. 13. 17. 22. 111,111,111 × 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321. 23. 26. 29. 33. 36. 38. 42. 45. 50. 55. 62. 67. 70. What is your vision? Get clarity through these 7 big questions. That was the first question I was being asked when I started my coaching training with the Coaches Training Institute in early 2009. A big question. A scary question. A powerful question! So just give yourself some time now, to stand still and ask yourself this first question: 1. What is your dream? And to dig a little deeper: What is important to you about this? Do you dream of more money, better relationships, a cottage on the seaside, or ways to change the world?

The second part of the questions allows you to dig deeper at what your values are, what is really important to you. 2. When I was asked this question, I had already done quite a bit of work around mission statements, visioning and modelling. Had helped me. Covey focuses on the big picture and suggests that instead of living your life by default at the mercy of others you need to become more pro-active and look at your life and goals with ‘the end in mind’ and start planning from there. Who is this person? 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Drinking Water On Empty Stomach. It is popular in Japan today to drink water immediately after waking up every morning. Furthermore, scientific tests have proven its value. Image Credit: Wikimedia We publish below a description of use of water for our readers. For old and serious diseases as well as modern illnesses the water treatment had been found successful by a Japanese medical society as a 100% cure for the following diseases: Headache, body ache, heart system, arthritis, fast heart beat, epilepsy, excess fatness, bronchitis asthma, TB ***(verify from a consultant)***, meningitis, kidney and urine diseases, vomiting, gastritis, diarrhea, piles, diabetes, constipation, all eye diseases, womb, cancer and menstrual disorders, ear nose and throat diseases.

The following list gives the number of days of treatment required to cure/control/reduce main diseases: This treatment method has no side effects, however at the commencement of treatment you may have to urinate a few times. This makes sense .. Credits: Ten Money Lessons from the Great Depression. For most economists it is no longer whether there is going to be a recession, but what type of recession it is going to be—short recessions like the one from 1990 to 1991 and the one from March to November 2001, or something like the Great Depression.

No matter which it ends up being, one of the best places to look for sound advice is from those people who have survived the worst of economic times—namely your grandparents. Here are ten ideas you may want to take from them: 1. Frugality Is Not a Bad Word There was a time when a person who was frugal was looked upon with esteem rather than someone without the means to buy more. Many people seem to equate frugality with “cheapness,” but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Being frugal is simply getting the most out of what you have and purchase, and not purchasing things that you really don’t need. 2. If it couldn’t be fixed, before it ended up in the trash can, they would consider whether it could still be useful for something else. 3.

How to Respond to Negative People Without Being Negative. Ten Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years | “If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language. Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them: 1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are.

So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Source: Marc and Angel via Why Don’t You Try This Image: Public Domain Comments: Psychology. 10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life - Step.

Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order.

Read full content. 50 Ways To Be AWESOME. By Meg RulliFebruary 18, 2013 Sharebar Tony and I just completed our trip around the world and as we are reconnecting with friends and family from home, I keep getting asked the same question: “Did travel change you?” In short: Nope! I am still the whacky girl that left on a jet plane last January to explore the world with my equally whacky husband.

But one thing did change… Traveling made me a happier person and made me appreciate life and love so much more. And it’s never too late to put yourself first and live life on your terms. Make yourself a priority in life Set both big and small goals for yourselfActually stick to your goals! Your turn: What awesome tips would you add to this list? The World's Happiest Countries: What They Have That We Don't. To say Denmark’s not nearly as sunny and temperate as Rwanda, or even Italy, is an understatement. Yet in the Northern European country with shorter-than-average winter days and plenty of rain, policy makers and private citizens must be doing something right. The Scandinavian nation was recently crowned the “happiest” country in the world, according to the World Happiness Report, a nearly 200-page document put together by globally renowned economists and sociologists.

And while this designation definitely raises the question of what Denmark’s got that the United States doesn’t (we only ranked 17th), it also offers us a unique opportunity to look at our own lives—what we can and can’t control, financial factors and our perceptions. And by doing this, psychologists who study happiness promise we’ll likely experience a higher level of bliss, without having to pack our bags for Copenhagen. Here’s some insight on the rankings and the report, and some takeaways for our own lives in the States. Forget the Resolutions, Create a Vision Board that Works | glad.is. With the holiday buzz quietly behind us, are you still forging ahead with the new goals you wanted to implement into 2013, or, like most people, are you already noticing a backslide?

It’s the middle of January, and studies show that 80% of our resolutions are now as out of our thoughts as the boxed up Christmas decorations. One of the reasons that resolutions are often sidetracked is that they cause us to focus on what we need to give up, instead of asking for more of what we want. We say toss out those resolutions, and join us in creating a Vision Board for 2013. You have no doubt heard of Vision Boards by now – many celebrities and self-growth experts from Oprah to Maria Shriver advocate their use, and there are numerous books and websites on the subject. What is a Vision Board exactly? A vision board is a tool used to help set intentions.

And the importance of a visual, when creating goals, is undeniable. See our guide with step-by-step instruction on creating a Vision Board. Comments. 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind. 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself - StumbleUpon. When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you. As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. Here are some ideas to get you started: Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.

You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Update: Read our follow-up to this post: 30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself Photo by: Rob Brucker. Psychological manipulation. Calm.com. 9 Qualities Of Truly Confident People.

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