Non-Borderline Daughter. Among the estimated ten million sufferers of Borderline Personality Disorder—whether diagnosed as such or not—ninety percent also suffer another or even more psychological conditions.
This constellation presents an added level of difficulty. But when the sufferer is aging and beset with declining health, the challenges grow exponentially. Previously it was believed that symptoms mellow with age, but now with a rapidly aging population, BPD is increasingly recognized within this group, as it is in the general population. Their offspring outnumber BPD sufferers by fertile leaps of multiples; I am just one of those larger numbers. My experience is not an isolated example; there are uncounted numbers of people like my mother, with uncounted numbers of adult children like me who suffer and endure the perplexing fallout of their parents’ disorders.
My story and my experience, unfortunately, are not unusual. Thank you for reading, so far, and welcome. Children of Mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder - Jane Middelton-Moz. Attachment Status and Early Experiences of Mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder Mothers with BPD are characterized by a history of broken relationships and marked instability in multiple domains of their lives.
It is anticipated that the characteristic behaviors of BPD will infiltrate the mother-child relationship as much as it interferes with other relationships. Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms in Context of Parenting Characteristic symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder are likely to hinder the ability of a mother with BPD to parent effectively, thereby negatively affecting the social and emotional development of the child. For instance, adults with BPD typically display a pattern of unstable relationships and a host of interpersonal problems (APA, 2000). Likewise, people with BPD often cross interpersonal boundaries and role expectations. Moreover, effective parenting by the mother with BPD is compromised by instability in her sense of her own self. The World of the Borderline Mother. The children of borderline and narcissistic parents spend a lifetime gaining their freedom after living such a warped childhood .
No one explains better how to do this than Christine Lawson, author of the classic book Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship (2002) (no books on borderline fathers yet). An editorial reviewer writes: In my book The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living with Someone With BPD , I summarized the principles of the 350-page books into the: 1. Warped thoughts, feelings, actions, and central dilemma of the borderline mother (person, actually, because the type can be extended to other types of relatives) 2. 3. The following is an excerpt from the Workbook.
Clinician Christine Ann Lawson, Ph.D. developed four distinct types of people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) in her book (2000). Dr. The Witch "I will comply with what she wants. Fear in victims. Understanding My Borderline Mother. As the grown child of a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I am forever grateful to Christine Ann Lawson who authored Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship for shining a spotlight on this mystifying, tragic, devastating disorder.
Was your mother an unexplainable enigma of hatred, abuse, wild mood swings, illogical behaviors and obsessions? Is the first feeling that you can ever remember experiencing as a small child anxiety or fear? Could you describe your mother as a controlling, manipulative, lying witch that left you wondering what the truth was? Does this sound familiar? If so, you need to read this book. The truth is, children of borderlines do not hate their mothers, but in time, I think that they learn to fear them, and ultimately, hate can grow from deep-rooted fear. My mother's irrationality and rages were the worst when it came to anything about my Dad.
Why?