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6 Things People Who Are Crushing it DO Really Well. “I crushed it all day today, and then I crushed it some more, and then it asked me what I was doing and I told it that I was crushing it. That’s what I do on a daily basis, Jess.” – Schmidt, New Girl When someone tells you they’re “crushing it”, have you ever NOT wanted to reply with a slap in the face? Or at least some sort of jugular chop, while taking their cup of coffee. Not to drink it. You haven’t envisioned such things? Let’s just say I spent one too many afternoons with a Crushing It Crusader, where every time we met it was like he was giving a motivational speech to an assembly full of high school kids. So when I’m talking about those who are crushing it and what they are doing well, I’m not talking about those who love talking about crushing it. No, I’m talking about those people who inspire you.

What are those people who are quietly and consistently crushing it every day doing differently than the rest? 1. Examples like: Getting up early. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 10 Scientific Keys to Changing Anything In Your Life. Changing your behavior is hard. Luckily, there is a scientifically proven way to do it that gives you the best chance of success. Anyone who is trying to change their behavior without understanding this science needs to stop, now. Read up on the science. Learn to do it the more effective way. Then, start again, with better strategies, and create the life you’ve always wanted. Here’s the other thing you should know: behavior change is hard. But that’s okay. It just so happens that here at Fierce Gentleman we believe that every man is destined for greatness.

So, below we give you the keys to greatness: 10 scientific keys you need to change anything in your life. Of course, information alone does not lead to life change. But never before has so much high-quality, scientifically-validated information been available for free, to anyone, to get their path started: 10 Scientific Keys to Change Any Behavior Willpower is weak. Ready for more? Click here to get the full ebook with 23 principles. 37 Secrets Only Successful People Know. The business of business isn't really all that complicated. While there is, of course, specific knowledge required for specific industries, this post encapsulates everything that you'll need to know to survive and thrive in the business world.

The lists below are adapted and condensed from my recently published book, Business Without the Bullsh*t: 49 Secrets and Shortcuts You Need to Know. 1. How to Become More Optimistic EXPECT something wonderful to happen every day.TREAT people as you'd want to be treated.DON'T waste breath fighting about things you can't change.CONCENTRATE on the job at hand, not the results you seek.ASSUME other people mean well.AVOID depressing people and conversations.EAT something delicious every day.TURN OFF the background television.ADOPT an attitude of gratitude.REMEMBER that the best is yet to come. 2. How to Eliminate Stress 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 9 Things Highly Successful People Say Every Day | Jeff Haden. Millennials Want to Be Coached at Work. Imagine showing up to play an important college basketball game on a fabled rival’s home court, only to find you’ve forgotten your shoes.

Now consider what to expect from your coach, after losing the game. A royal chewing out for not having your head in the game? The cold shoulder? Worse? Neither, according to NBA hall-of-famer Grant Hill, as he recalls the incident. The young people in your office aren’t so very different from the young Grant Hill at Duke. Our subsequent conversations with hundreds of Millennials made it clear that what they want most from their managers isn’t more managerial direction, per se, but more help with their own personal development. Inspire me. Hill reminisced that, “One of the things that really impressed me [about Coach K] … was his ability to motivate and inspire … before games, in the locker room, having that right message to get you fired up, ready to run out there, and run through a wall.

Surround me with great people. Be authentic. 35 Quotes For the Twentysomething Soul. Twentysomething life is not as easy as it looks on the front of the brochure. Here are 35 quotes to inspire, challenge, and encourage every twentysomething to live like we actually mean it! 1. “Twentysomethings who don’t feel anxious and incompetent at work are usually overconfident or underemployed.” – Meg Jay, The Defining Decade 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. Photo by Paul Angone 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. But don’t worry. You need to find the right questions before you get to the answer. Because life. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. Most people won’t understand you.

You’ll never know if you can do it if you keep trying to think it perfectly through. Sometimes you have to put your thinker to rest, pack your bags, and just do.” - Twentysomething Nursery Rhyme Part Two 33. 34. 35. . ― Dr. The above links are affiliate links, so if you buy one of the amazing books linked above you’ll also be supporting the work here at All Groan Up. Hard Lessons For Your 20s. 20 Tips to Make the Most of Your 20s | Ashley Crouch. We've been called pre-adults, emerging adults, millennials, the defining decade and the lost decade. We graduated during the worst economy in recent memory and pulled ourselves up by our bootstraps to recover what was lost. We've been told 80% of life's most significant events take place by age 35, but listened to other 20-somethings daydream about "taking some time off," presumably to spend more time gaming. We have an intuitive sense that the foundation we lay now will continue to carry us throughout life.

We've seen lists on "20 Mistakes You Don't Want to Make" go viral and helped make it happen. A few months ago, I spent an embarrassing number of days subsisting on ramen and canned beans. The truth is, my 20-something experience isn't so unusual. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Remember, YOLO! Close. 21 Secrets for your 20s | Welcome to by Paul Angone — a place for twentysomethings asking “what now?” If you like 21 Secrets For Your 20s, which has been read by over a million people in 180 countries, find out at the bottom of the article how you can snag FREE chapters my debut book “101 Secrets For Your Twenties” (Moody Publishers). 1. Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing. 2. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you’re not willing to be embarrassed, you’re probably not willing to be great. 3. 4. 5.

A. B. C. D. E. F. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. Bonus 22: Snag 80 more secrets for your twenties in my debut book 101 Secrets for your Twenties (Moody Publishers). Or if you want more of a taste test, snag FREE chapters from 101 Secrets For Your Twenties and weekly All Groan Up inspiration and advice by clicking here. Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20. Perfectionist paralysis. Perfectionism is usually thought of as a desirable quality to have. You can’t get better than “the best”, right? Well, in my opinion perfectionism is among the worst possible attributes a person can have if they really want to achieve anything in life. Yes, high standards are important, and yes, if what you do is riddled with too many mistakes, it becomes worthless. But one thing I see perfectionists consistently end up having with their goals that leads them to achieving nothing is… Paralysis by analysis In their quest to achieve perfection, they actually achieve nothing.

Want to write a book? Right – it will never happen. While in the states I am seeing a very large number of people who are planning to write a book (way more than in other countries, I’m not sure why). I decided slightly over a year ago that I would write a guide to learning languages (before then I had no intention to ever write a book) and less than two months later it was out there. It’s the same with languages. Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect. Are you a perfectionist? Do you spend a lot of time “perfecting” your work,so everything comes out the way you want it to? I believe all of us are perfectionists in our own right. I’m a perfectionist, too. We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward to achieve them. And a dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us to achieve great results.

How so? We become less efficient. However, the problem isn’t perfectionism. The problem is when the quest for perfectionism turns into an obsession – so much so that the perfectionist becomes neurotic over gaining “perfection” and refuses to accept anything less than perfect. The answer isn’t to stop being a perfectionist. Here are my 8 personal tips on how we can be healthy perfectionists. Draw a line. Are you a perfectionist?

Image: doublej11 Read full content. Perfectionism | Overcoming perfectionism. Perfectionism is When no effort is ever good enough.When you become fearful of making mistakes or of being humiliated.Everything must be perfect.When you never seem to have enough time to do your best.When you demand perfection and intolerant of others’s mistakes. Four reasons for being perfectionist In our society, perfectionism is often seen as desirable. Even essential for success. Perfectionism is one of the most common symptoms of low self esteem. Fear of failure is among of the reasons for perfectionism. Being a perfectionist, you probably learned early in your life that: Others only value you because of the things you can do and have accomplished.Your self esteem might have been based primarily from external standards.

Overcoming perfectionism – learn from my own experience I came from perfectionists parents. He constantly sent the message that I should be more successful than him. When I showed her the flaws with my actions, she came to the rescue by telling me how to fix them. Handling Fear of rejection. What is fear of rejection | Some symptoms of fear of rejection | Overcome fear of rejection | Fear of rejection downloads What is fear of rejection – definition and causes Fear of rejection is an irrational fear of not being accepted for who you are. Fear of rejection is cause by lack of confidence and self-esteem. You may have developed this fears during your childhood if your parents constantly compared you with others. Some symptoms of fear of rejection You are never good enough. By taking care of yourself you increase your confidence. When I was a child I felt always judged and compared all the time. I remember when I was 11; I was at my cousin’s house trying to have a good time in the swimming pool sitting on a round life belt enjoying the sun.

The causes of fear of rejection are multiple. Overcome fear of rejection Don’t take things personally. “Rejection is a word, fear of a rejection is a feeling, overcoming fear of rejection is an action, and actions speak louder then words”. The Happiest People Pursue the Most Difficult Problems - Rosabeth Moss Kanter. By Rosabeth Moss Kanter | 9:00 AM April 10, 2013 Lurking behind the question of jobs — whether there are enough of them, how hard we should work at them, and what kind the future will bring — is a major problem of job engagement. Too many people are tuned out, turned off, or ready to leave. But there’s one striking exception. The happiest people I know are dedicated to dealing with the most difficult problems.

Turning around inner city schools. Finding solutions to homelessness or unsafe drinking water. Ellen Goodman, a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist (and long-time friend), has turned grief to social purpose. Gilberto Dimenstein, another writer-turned-activist in Brazil, spreads happiness through social entrepreneurship. For many social entrepreneurs, happiness comes from the feeling they are making a difference.

I see that same spirit in business teams creating new initiatives that they believe in. In research for my book Evolve! Trying to Please Everyone « A Good Life. “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”Bill Cosby This is a tricky quote. If you read it word for word it’s not telling the whole truth, is it? I think we all agree that there can be more causes to failure. In and of itself, trying to please everyone is not a bad thing. But the point I think Bill Cosby is trying to make is that trying to please everyone is a road that will sooner or later make you feel 1) really bad, and/or 2) really stressed.

Why? A serious problem with trying to please everyone is that you might be forced to abandon you ideals. What then, should we stop trying to please each other? Before God and man you can only do your best. I know what I’m talking about. Now the thing with gifts, once you give them away you never know if the receiver will be pleased. Be happy also for this great truth: Although you can’t please everyone, you can always please SOMEONE. That’s reality. Brother Louis Like this: Like Loading... The Secret to Communicating More Effectively: Metaprogram #1. Want to Influence Someone? Find Out If They Have an Internal or External Frame of Reference. Nine Ways Successful People Defeat Stress - Heidi Grant Halvorson. Feeling stressed? Of course you are. You have too much on your plate, deadlines are looming, people are counting on you, and to top it all off, you still have holiday shopping to do. You are under a lot of pressure — so much that at times, you suspect the quality of your work suffers for it.

This is life in the modern workplace. It is more or less impossible to be any kind of professional these days and not experience frequent bouts of intense stress. In the spirit of Nine Things Successful People Do Differently, here are nine scientifically-proven strategies for defeating stress whenever it strikes. 1. Self-compassion is, in essence, cutting yourself some slack. 2. Anything you need or want to do can be thought of in more than one way. 3.

If I ask you to name the major causes of stress in your work life, you would probably say things like deadlines, a heavy workload, bureaucracy, or your terrible boss. 4. Second, interesting does not have to mean effortless. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. If you don't know where you're going, you'll never get there.