101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women. I’ve considered myself a feminist and male ally to women for quite some time.
When I took my first Women’s Studies class two years ago with Professor Denise Witzig, little did I know that it would take me down an unsuspecting, beautiful, and transformative path towards feminism. Below, I’ve complied a list of 101 everyday ways for men to be allies to women. I must acknowledge that this post was written with cisgender, heterosexual men as a possible, target audience due to the lack of support from this group.
On being a male feminist ally. [trigger warning: street harassment, sexual assault, domestic violence, misogynoir] Yes guys.
I know a part of trying to be an ally sometimes means you have to “prove” your awareness on issues. The problem is, um, no you don’t. Study. Listen. I promise that a part of this foundation is not sending me triggering articles/tweets of misogynistic and especially misogynoiristic words and actions. What Men Can Do To Be Better Allies. Je veux comprendre... le mansplaining. Retour sur le mansplaining, un concept très ancien (et très relou) pour un terme relativement récent. Le mansplaining n’a absolument rien de nouveau. C’est un concept tout bête dont nous sommes probablement nombreuses à être témoins au quotidien. Le mansplaining, c’est quand un homme explique à une femme d’un ton condescendant, sur un sujet qui la concerne elle, qu’elle a tort de penser ce qu’elle pense, de dire ce qu’elle dit. Le mansplaining : une illustration du patriarcat Cette idée est très ancienne et elle n’a rien de nouveau.
Le mansplaining se fait surtout beaucoup remarquer sur Internet quand il s’attaque au féminisme, quand une féministe relève quelque chose de sexiste et qu’un homme lui explique qu’elle a tort de voir les choses ainsi, parfois en expliquant à la principale concernée ce qu’est réellement le sexisme — qu’il ne connaît que peu en comparaison. Ton idée sonne tellement mieux quand je la reformule. Le mansplaining : les origines Les femmes sont opprimées ? Tired of Talking To Men. I am tired of talking about feminism to men.
Genderbitch: Musings of a Trans Chick. Crossposted to Questioning Transphobia Warning: This post is sarcastic to such a point as you may actually slip in the pools of sarcasm that are dripping off of it.
Please walk carefully. The caution cones are there for your protection. Also, we totally didn’t intend for you to slip so we’re not responsible if you do. Today, someone said a slur. The Terrible Bargain We Have Regretfully Struck. [Trigger warning.]
Despite feminists' reputation, and contra my own individual reputation cultivated over five years of public opinion-making, I am not a man-hater. If I played by misogynists' rules, specifically the one that dictates it only takes one woman doing one Mean or Duplicitous or Disrespectful or Unlawful or otherwise Bad Thing to justify hatred of all women, I would have plenty of justification for hating men, if I were inclined to do that sort of thing. Feminism shouldn’t make men comfortable. Emma Watson’s speech on gender equality at the UN got a lot of attention, and that’s great.
The more that hop the feminism train and use their platforms to spread the message, the merrier. But there’s a tiny little thing I’d like to disagree with her about. The thrust of the speech is about getting men on board with the mission of gender equality. Hommes et féminisme. Le nombrilisme des hommes face au féminisme. #YesAllWomen in the wake of Elliot Rodger: Why it’s so hard for men to recognize misogyny. Photo by LDprod/Shutterstock When Santa Barbara police arrived at Elliot Rodger’s apartment last month—after Rodger’s mother alerted authorities to her son’s YouTube videos, where he expressed his resentment of women who don’t have sex with him, aired his jealousy of the men they do choose, and stated his intentions to remedy this “injustice” through a display of his own “magnificence and power”—they left with the impression that he was a “perfectly polite, kind and wonderful human.”
Then Rodger killed six people and himself on Friday night, leaving a manifesto that spelled out his virulent hatred for women in more explicit terms, and Santa Barbara County Sheriff Bill Brown deemed him a “madman.” More on Slate Plus. The Problem With “Not All Men” — Culture Club. A Gentlemen’s Guide To Rape Culture — Human Parts. If you are a man, you are part of rape culture.
I know … that sounds rough. You’re not a rapist, necessarily. But you do perpetuate the attitudes and behaviors commonly referred to as rape culture. You may be thinking, “Now, hold up, Zaron! You don’t know me, homey! Mais je suis féministe, moi ! Cela fait un moment que ça me travaille, mais je n’avais jamais vraiment réussi à poser des mots dessus.
I Am Not a Political Football. [Content Note: Privilege; misogyny; hostility to agency.]
A hashtag activism guide for men. I hope you had a nice relaxing Memorial Day weekend away from the Internet! Welcome back, and I regret to inform you that it seriously sucks right now. To recap: A young man allegedly shot six people and himself in Santa Barbara, Calif., leaving behind a trail of text and videos documenting his fury toward women, whom he blamed and hated for rejecting him even though he felt entitled to their affections. Women on Twitter were appalled and frightened by this virulent misogynist rhetoric, but we were not especially surprised, and then we were kind of appalled and frightened that we weren’t especially surprised.
So we came together to share stories of the harassment, aggression, dismissal, and dehumanization that women—#YesAllWomen—face every day. (The hashtag was started by a young woman of color who says she would rather avoid personal attention and focus on the stories being shared.) "Not all men"