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The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality - I hate Strong Female Characters. I hate Strong Female Characters.

I hate Strong Female Characters

As someone spends a fair amount of time complaining on the internet that there aren’t enough female heroes out there, this may seem a strange and out of character thing to say. And of course, I love all sorts of female characters who exhibit great resilience and courage. I love it when Angel asks Buffy what’s left when he takes away her weapons and her friends and she grabs his sword between her palms and says “Me”. 10 Struggles Of Being Not Fat, But Not Skinny Either. Okay, so I want to start this post off by clarifying that I don’t think I’m fat.

10 Struggles Of Being Not Fat, But Not Skinny Either

However, I know I’m not stick thin. And that’s fine. No I’m not looking for comments from people being like, “OMG Sam you look GREAT” or “Girlll you have been looking so thin lately, stop it!” Because in all seriousness, I am not Beyonce. I Didn’t Want To Lean Out, by Frances Hocutt. My name is Frances Hocutt, and last year I leaned out.

I Didn’t Want To Lean Out, by Frances Hocutt

I didn't make that decision lightly. I've loved chemistry since middle school. I saw the way it made the world fit together and it was beautiful. I earned a bronze medal in the International Chemistry Olympiad, continued my studies at a prestigious and challenging undergraduate-only college, and was quickly promoted for my work as a medicinal chemist at a well-known pharmaceutical company. Frances Hocutt (left) and the rest of the USA team pose with their medals at the International Chemical Olympiad (IChO). People I chatted with would shudder when I said "synthetic organic chemist;" I would smile and say, "well, someone has to like the stuff. " And I do. I Still Left. Textbooks don't tell you everything. They don't tell you about the grind of the tenure track or the two-body problem. You may notice that you've never heard about the contributions of female organic chemists.

23-Year-Old Woman Grows Beard to Get More in Touch With Femininity. Made To Penetrate: Female-on-Male Rape. Charlie woke up to a blank-faced girl straddling him.

Made To Penetrate: Female-on-Male Rape

He had been disrobed, was erect, and as her hips began to shift in short, quick movements, he realized he was inside of her. Frozen with disbelief, Charlie laid still. He faked climaxing, hoping it would prompt her to dismount and leave the room. Eventually she did, but only after he rolled to his side and pretended to sleep. The next morning Charlie wasn’t sure what to think. “The most traumatic part was the complete assumption of consent,” he tells me nearly two decades later. In a recent study, 1 in 6 male college students reported having been raped.

The concept of a woman forcing a man into a sex act can seem paradoxical, if not physiologically impossible. According to the Center for Disease Control’s national survey on sexual violence, more than 5 million men in the United States have been “made to penetrate” someone else in their lifetime, whether by coercion, intimidation, or because they were incapacitated. In 1927 the U.S. Here's What Happened When One Queer Woman Dressed More Feminine For Her Job. All it took was one versatile haircut, and voila.

Here's What Happened When One Queer Woman Dressed More Feminine For Her Job

The seeds for "Warpaint," a nuanced art project addressing the subtleties of gender expression, were planted. The photography series is the brainchild of artist Coco Layne, who, after buzzing the sides of her head, realized that simple changes in the way she styled her hair could impact her own gender representation. She thought particularly about her experiences applying for jobs last year, and how presenting herself as a "more conservative, feminine candidate" helped her land a position at a women's retailer. "I'm a relatively feminine person most days, but I had both sides of my head shaved at the time," Layne recounted in an email interview with The Huffington Post. To The Women Who Choose Not To Have Kids. To the women who choose not to have kids, I have one thing to say: thank you.

To The Women Who Choose Not To Have Kids

You probably don’t hear it enough. In fact, you probably don’t hear it at all. What you do hear is an array of pro-childbearing responses, such as, “You’ll change your mind someday,” or, “Doesn’t your mother want grandkids?” Or, “You’ll never find a husband if you never want to have kids.” All things considered, “thank you” is probably on the opposite end of what you hear. 13 Myths and Misconceptions About Trans Women: Part One. Debunking myths is one of those things that us skeptics are supposed to do, right?

13 Myths and Misconceptions About Trans Women: Part One

Okay then… (my triskaidekaphilia isn’t showing, is it?) 1. Meet the Woman Who Waged an Artistic War Against Her Street Harassers. Brooklyn oil painter Tatyana Fazlalizadeh got fed up with dudes invading her space.

Meet the Woman Who Waged an Artistic War Against Her Street Harassers

So she started telling them so—very publicly. —Nina Liss-Schultz on Wed. November 27, 2013 4:00 AM PDT Tatyana Fazlalizadeh's self-portrait.All photos courtesy of the artist. Update (2/18/2014): Fazllizadeh is taking her project to the Bay Area this week—its first West Coast stop. On Labeling Women 'Crazy' I've had to quit telling stories about crazy exes or women I've dated.

On Labeling Women 'Crazy'

The problem was that I started realizing that when my friends and I would talk about our crazy exes or what-have-you, more often than not, we weren't talking about ex-girlfriends or random dates who exhibited signs of genuine mental health issues. Now I did have a few where I would qualify my story with, "No, I don't mean 'we broke up and I can't be bothered to figure out where things went wrong, I mean that she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and was starting to show signs of genuine paranoia," but for the most part, crazy meant "acting in a way I didn't like. " And I didn't realize just how damaging this attitude was in the way I related to women.

Little surprise here: women expected to do more at home – and at work. No matter what profession a woman works in, she's actually in the service profession.

Little surprise here: women expected to do more at home – and at work

That's the upshot of an illuminating (and to many, enraging) new Columbia Business School study highlighted this week, showing that co-workers and bosses feel entitled to favors from women – or, in fact, that almost everything a woman does at work is considered "a favor" that is off the clock. To put it another way, when a woman takes on a project no one else will, or does something helpful or thoughtful, it's seen as something she does for fun.

When a man does it, it seen as real work. The revelation of this structural ingratitude explains a lot. It's a pivotal point in understanding a key issue in workplaces: why can't women form lasting alliances, even though they spend more time contributing to their organizations by mentoring? Watch A Student Totally Nail Something About Women That I've Been Trying To Articulate For 37 Years. Lily Myers: Across from me at the kitchen table, my mother smiles over red wine that she drinks out of a measuring glass. Extraordinary Photos Of Drag Queens In Half Drag. Don’t be that dude: Handy tips for the male academic. There is a plethora of research on the causes of hostile environments for women in academia, and on why we have an underrepresentation of women in many fields. There are support groups for women, societies entirely devoted to women academics (broadly and field-specific), workshops for women in academia, and countless articles and blogs devoted to the topic.

These initiatives are important, but here’s the thing: gender equality has to be a collaborative venture. If men make up the majority of many departments, editorial boards, search committees, labs and conferences, then men have to be allies in the broader cause of equality, simply because they have more boots on the ground. And, as much as I wish it weren’t so, guys often tend to listen more readily to their fellow guys when it comes to issues like sexism. I’ve also found that there are a lot of guys out there that are supportive, but don’t realize that many of their everyday actions (big and small) perpetuate inequality. 1. 2. 3.

Male Affection: A Photographic History Tour. Gender contamination: when women buy a product, men flee. Courtesy of Dr Pepper Snapple Group Libby Copeland is a writer in New York and a regular Slate contributor. She was previously a Washington Post reporter and editor for 11 years. She can be reached at Follow. Men Must Be Needed Because We Can’t Be Wanted.