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How to Totally Relax in Meditation - The Way of Meditation. A lot of people start meditation because they are under the impression that it helps to relax and reduce stress, but meditation can be incredibly frustrating and becomes stressful and anything but relaxing. People can very easily quit meditation and say it doesn’t work; but the problem is taking our normal attitude of using willpower and aggression into the meditation instead of an attitude of surrender and neutrality. As Meditation Master Chogyam Trungpa says: “Most mental suffering and tension is caused by the subtle aggression of wanting the present moment to be different than it is.” Here in lies the secret to total relaxation in meditation; is to allow things to be exactly as they are and just leave them how you find them. This is where the most simple relaxation meditation also becomes the most profound. Trying to relax by changing our present condition has a subtle fear to it, a sense that things are not ok the way they are and we need to change or avoid them to be happy.

Comments. 6 Universal Principles That Will Set You Free. 1 – Action You, in the sense of being everything, have constructed the human experience. You experience yourself through an individualized experience of taking directed action. Humans are built to move forwards. We’re put together in such a way that we are pushed forwards. Taking action can lead you into a flow state. Conscious thinking starts shutting down and you feel one with the task – You’re in flow. You’ve experienced this state many times in your life. Flow creates passions, because it feels so incredibly good. You might think, “Why do we meditate?” Take action towards those things that fill you with excitement and enjoy.

Action opens up new doors and possibilities. Taking action means taking directed action. These are goals of mastery and service to others. Something these types of goals have in common is that they are at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of need. Spiritual pursuits are a part of the highest need – Self-actualization. Take the twofold path. 3 – Taking responsibility. The Writer's Challenge: Using Author Pen Names on Facebook - and Getting Locked Out! Boy do I have a story to tell - and fortunately, the solution that finally worked to get my Facebook access back after they locked my access to both my profile and Page due to my not using my "real name. " (Shoshanna Evers has been my pen name since 2009, which makes it legally my real name in 46 states just by the fact that I use it everywhere - and I have an Idaho-state DBA (doing business as) Shoshanna Evers).

Backstory: I had a Shoshanna Evers profile from 2010 that was converted into a "Like Page" when I couldn't add more friends. For a couple years I just had that Page, and no profile attached. Then, FB made me create a profile to attach to the Page. Separately, I have a private FB profile under my married name where I post pics of my kid, etc, for the relatives. Here's what happened: On May 21st 2015 (as I write this is the 28th, and the problem just got resolved a few hours ago), I participated in a FB party using my Shoshanna Evers profile. Silly me, at first I was happy. 8 Things I Say Most Often To My Therapy Clients -

I've been working with clients for 46 years, so of course, there are things I say over and over — even to the same person and even in the same session! That's because there are certain things we each need to pay attention to, over and over. The process that I use is called Inner Bonding, which teaches people how to love themselves. As loving themselves becomes a way of life, their anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, fear, addictions and relationships gradually heal. Here's what I say most often to my clients: 1.

I encourage my clients to breathe into their body, following their breath, using breath to help get present in their body, with their feelings. 2. When we haven't learned how to take responsibility for our feelings, then we avoid them in four major ways — all which are self-rejecting: We judge ourselves harshly, causing shame. And if we haven't taken responsibility for our feelings, then we can't start to manage them. 3. 4. If the client is open to exploring this, then I say: 15 Questions To Ask Your Kids To Help Them Have Good Mindsets. As a loving parent, it is important to instill in your kids the right mindset and attitude. Both determine how your child interprets the world. And asking the right questions encourage behavior that brings positive change and also allows for the best use of available resources.

As the saying goes, where your mind goes, energy flows. One of the ways to encourage children to develop a positive mindset and practice it is to talk to them honestly and ask them leading questions. It’s not about telling them what to do; it’s about explaining to them the value of living positively and making the best of what they already have. Ask your kids these thoughtful questions to encourage conversation and help them develop a healthy mindset. 1.

This question points children in the direction where they know themselves and have an idea of what other people think of them. 2. Some children will say playing video games makes them feel happiest, which is actually fine. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. Online Mindfulness Courses | British Mindfulness Institute. I heart intelligence 10 Powerful Insights from Eckhart Tolle. 3 Buddhist Beliefs That Will Rock Your World (And Make You Much Happier!) You don't have to practice yoga or follow an Ayurvedic diet to benefit from Buddhist ideas (but if you do, more power to you). So whether or not you think about balancing your dosha, here are three powerful elements of Buddhist philosophy, "The Noble Truths," and how you can incorporate them into every day. They might just change your life... 1. Dukkha: Life is painful and causes suffering. Many people might say that Buddhism is pessimistic or negative.

We actually can create more suffering in our lives by trying to avoid or suppress difficult emotions. But attaching or clinging to particular expectations, material items, and states of being is often a cause for acute frustration, disappointment, and other forms of pain. How we can use this belief every day: Try not to buy into the idea that you're broken. Illness, heartbreak, loss, disappointment, and frustration are parts of life that can be mitigated by practicing "non-attachment. " 2. 3. Photo Credit: Getty Images Explore More. Meditation » Blog Archive » Rising Above Thought. Your mind is an instrument, a tool.

It is there to be used for a specific task, and when the task is completed, you lay it down. As it is, I would say about 80 to 90 percent of most people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless, but because of its dysfunctional and often negative nature, much of it is also harmful. Observe your mind and you will find this to be true. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy. This kind of compulsive thinking is actually an addiction. Why are we addicted to thinking? Because you are identified with it, which means that you derive your sense of self from the content and activity of your mind. Because you believe that you would cease to be if you stopped thinking. To the ego, the present moment hardly exists. The present moment holds the key to liberation. I don’t want to lose my ability to analyze and discriminate. Enlightenment means rising above thought, not falling back to a level below thought, the level of an animal or a plant.