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Sleep Improvement. Self Improvement. 6 Best Tips to Turn off Negative Thoughts. How to Avoid Negative Thoughts How to stop negative thoughts How to Turn off Negative Thoughts Here are the best ways to avoid negative thoughts which looks like Negative Thoughts quotes. A1. Notice when you are slipping into negative, absolutist ways of thinking where you think the worst of yourself, your life and your future.

A2. A3. A4. A5. A6. 10 Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life & 4 Step Gratitude Plan. Gratitude can motivate others, increase self-control, build social ties and more…plus 4-step gratitude plan. Gratitude is the new miracle emotion. Although gratitude has been around for as long as human beings, it’s only recently started to get the big thumbs-up from science. So here are 10 ways gratitude can change your life, followed by a quick 4-step plan to help maximise your own gratitude, whatever level you start from.

There’s even a trick for those suffering from ‘gratitude burnout’. 1. Gratitude is different things to different people: amongst them could be counting your blessings, savouring what life has given you, thanking someone or wondering at the natural world. Whatever form it takes, one of the best known and most researched effects of practicing gratitude is it makes you happier. Participants in one study were 25% happier, on average, after practicing a little gratitude over a 10-week period. 2. Gratitude isn’t just about feeling better, it’s also about thinking better. 3. 4. 10 Things to Do Before You Go to Bed.

Everyone is obsessed with how successful people start their day. And if you’ve decided to do something about the quality of your life, you’ll start working on developing a morning routine and trying different versions of it. But we seem to forget that what productive people – those who work each day to achieve what they want and have hacked so many areas of their life – do before they go to bed is as important. The evening routine is one of the most underestimated habits, and yet an absolute must when it comes down to changing how your day goes and whether you want to get stuff done.

A nighttime ritual affects your sleep and the mood you’ll be in when you get up, and thus becomes the foundation of your whole day. It’s a wind down period and there are many things you can do at that time. Here’s what you can include in it: A walk. Go for a short walk in the evening. Asses your day. Every single night Benjamin Franklin took the time to make an examination of the day. Read. Meditate. Unplug. Journal. 7 Things Happy, Healthy People Do Every Morning. When you get up in the morning, think of what a priceless privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to learn, to love – and then make the day count!

The morning is extremely important. It is the foundation from which the day is built. How you choose to spend your morning can be used to predict what kind of day you are going to have, and thus, what kind of life you are going to live. Each morning truly is a brand new opportunity. Each day is another chance to get it right. The happiest, healthiest people I know embrace this truth and use it to their advantage. 1. In other words, they start the day with love in their hearts and minds, and are truly appreciative of their life and all of its priceless idiosyncrasies. From the research and coaching Angel and I have done over the years, we’ve found that the more a person is inclined to gratitude, the less likely he or she is to be depressed, anxious, lonely, envious, or neurotic. 2. Inhabit your morning completely. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

Creating a Lovely Morning. ‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.’ ~Marcus Aurelius By Leo Babauta When I wake in the morning, my mind slowly gathers, and I begin to move, the early morning light just starting to seep in. I have a glass of water, start the coffee, then meditate. This is my Lovely Morning, and I get an inordinate amount of pleasure from it. It wasn’t always this way: I used to wake later, rush through a grumpy routine before diving into email and work and errands and meetings.

I was wrong. I’ll share them with you here, and if you begin to enjoy the peace of your mornings more, send a smile in my general direction. Wake a little earlier. A Lovely Morning isn’t something that just falls into your lap — it’s created consciously. ‘Waking up this morning, I smile. Creating the Wake Early Habit It’s a slow, gradual habit change, which is what works best. Magical Mornings: How to start your day with more creativity, serenity, and insight — Better Humans. Each morning our return to waking life is marked by a unique mental state.

In those first minutes of our day, our minds are in an estuary between the dream world and 3rd dimensional consciousness. Like an aquatic estuary, it’s ripe with nutrients and lifeforms that you can’t find anywhere else. This in-between state of the mind can be used for greater creativity, serenity, and flow. For many years I squandered these golden minutes. Being overly concerned with productivity had me immediately sprint to my daily to do list. In my sports and military-focused past, the first task of the day was literally running. Like an engine, or a muscle group, your mind runs a lot smoother if it’s allowed to gradually warm up. Inversely, going from sleep to mental sprinting can send the nervous system into Fight or Flight mode. Meditation has become quite popular in the business world for it’s ability to train the mind towards clarity of thought. Meditation and hypnosis also bring us into an Alpha State. The 10 Most Important Questions You Can Ask Yourself Today.

Email At the end of the day, the questions we ask ourselves determine the type of people we become. When you’ve been running a successful personal development blog and life coaching business for the better part of a decade, one thing becomes crystal clear: Everyone has the same basic wants and needs. No kidding, over the years Angel and I have gotten to know thousands of people of different ethnic backgrounds, from different cities and countries, who live at various socioeconomic levels, and trust me, every one of us basically wants the same things. We want validation, love, happiness, fulfillment, money, and hopes for a better future. The way we pursue these needs is where things branch off, but the fundamentals are the same. Think about it. So what kind of questions might you ask instead? What is worth suffering for? Your turn… At any given moment, life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to seek these answers that continues to give our lives meaning.

5 Questions to Simplify Your Life During the Holidays. By Leo Babauta For many people, the holiday season is the busiest, most complicated, most stressful time of year. Holiday parties, gift shopping and wrapping, decorating, travel plans, end-of-the-year projects, planning for the new year … these are all added on top of your regular business. And life before the holidays was already pretty busy. So what can we do to simplify? Is it even possible to simplify when things are getting crazy? Yes, it’s possible — with some willingness to change. One method to go about this is to ask yourself a series of questions. Here are the ones I’ve found useful: What are you striving for? Letting go isn’t easy, because if it’s in our lives, that means we’ve already said yes, have already decided its important enough to be in our lives. Simplicity requires asking these tough questions, and then learning to let go. 12 Little Habits that Stole Your Happiness Last Year. This is a new year.

A new beginning. And things will change. Are you tired of dealing with the same type of headaches and heartaches over and over and over again? Seriously, it’s time to purge some bad habits as we begin a New Year. It’s time to learn from your mistakes rather than be conquered by them, and let your errors be of commission rather than omission. Remember, you ultimately become what you repeatedly do. Sticking exclusively with what you already know. – When you stop learning you stop living a meaningful life. Afterthoughts As I’ve mentioned before, if you’re struggling with any of these points, know that you are not alone. The bottom line is that it’s never too late to take a step in the right direction. The floor is yours… What stole a little too much of your happiness last year? Photo by: Marcus Related. Here’s Why Believing People Can Change Is So Important in Life. How a growth mindset affects stress levels and health. Adolescents who believe people can change cope better with the challenges of attending high school, a new study finds.

In contrast, those who believed that people’s personalities are fixed and unchangeable fared worse, suffering higher levels of stress and poorer physical health. The study’s authors were inspired by the idea that the high school years are a defining period in life: “Iconic films such as The Breakfast Club or Back to the Future depict teens as indelibly marked as “losers,” “jocks,” or “bullies”—labels that are thought to haunt them or buoy them throughout high school and into adulthood.” (Yeager et al., 2014) To see if high schoolers believe this, they recruited 158 ninth-grade students at a California high school. At the start of the academic year they measured the extent to which they thought people can change.

What they found was that those who more strongly endorsed the idea that people can change also reported: Why Do We Fail to Break Bad Habits? (Backed by Science) We all want to improve our health, our wellness and our happiness. But in order to achieve our goals, we need to break bad habits and form good ones that actually stick. Yet despite our good intensions, we often fail to act on them and even if we do, it’s ephemeral. There’s no doubt about it: change is hard. And no matter how hard we try to change, the comforts of eating sugary snacks, shopping and online surfing are difficult to resist. We try everything, but despite our unremitting effort to change, we return to our vices and with greater voracity. Why do we fail to break bad habits? To answer thais question, we need to look at our ability to judge our impulsive behaviours, or rather, our perceived ability. How The Illusion of Self-Control Promotes Bad Behaviour In 2003, researchers at Northwestern University asked a group of smokers to take a self-control test. [1] Unknown to the participants, it was simply a word association test.

Here’s where it gets interesting. How to Break Bad Habits. 5 Common Mistakes That Cause New Habits to Fail (and What to Do About Them) Welcome to 2015. It’s New Year’s Resolution time. Depending on where you get your numbers, somewhere between 81 percent and 92 percent of New Years Resolutions fail. [1] Translation: At least 8 times out of 10, you are more likely to fall back into your old habits and patterns than you are to stick with a new behavior.

Behavior change is hard. Why is that? I don’t claim to have all the answers, but after two years of researching and writing about the science of behavior change, let me share the most practical insights I’ve learned so far. PROBLEM 1: Trying to Change Everything at Once SOLUTION: Pick one thing and do it well. The general consensus among behavior change researchers is that you should focus on changing a very small number of habits at the same time. The highest number you’ll find is changing three habits at once and that suggestion comes from BJ Fogg at Stanford University. How tiny? Personally, I prefer to focus on building one new behavior into my life at a time. How to Build a New Habit: This is Your Strategy Guide. According to researchers at Duke University, habits account for about 40 percent of our behaviors on any given day.

Understanding how to build new habits (and how your current ones work) is essential for making progress in your health, your happiness, and your life in general. But there can be a lot of information out there and most of it isn't very simple to digest. To solve this problem and break things down in a very simple manner, I have created this strategy guide for building new habits that actually stick. Even more detailed information is available in my free guide, Transform Your Habits, but the basic principles mentioned in this article will be more than enough to get you going. 1.

Start with an incredibly small habit. Make it so easy you can't say no. When most people struggle to stick with a new habit, they say something like, “I just need more motivation.” This is the wrong approach. Further reading: Identity-Based Habits: How to Actually Stick to Your Goals 2. 3. 4. 5. How to Believe in Yourself. By Leo Babauta There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life. I didn’t pursue an ideal career, or start my own business, because I didn’t think I could.

I didn’t stick to habits because I didn’t really believe I had the discipline. I was shy with girls, I had a hard time making new friends, I didn’t assert myself in the workplace. I didn’t push past my comfort zone. All because I didn’t really believe I could. While I’m not free of self-doubt these days, I can honestly say I believe in myself like never before. And that’s OK. The trick is that I learned it’s completely fine to try and fail, to put yourself out there and not be perfect, to say hello to someone and have them not instantly love you, to create something and have people judge you. Failure, not being perfect, mistakes, not having people agree with me, not being completely accepted: these are not negative things.

How is failure positive? How are mistakes positive? So practice: The Miracle of the Self-Compassion Habit. By Leo Babauta Let’s hypothesize that there’s a substance that’s been irritating you and causing problems in all areas of your life: it causes you to be unhappy, to be stressed, to procrastinate, to be distracted, to be angry with people, to be dissatisfied with your life, to be overweight and unhealthy, to not exercise or eat healthy, and much more.

Horrible substance, right? Now imagine there were a salve that could ease the bad effects of this substance, and make all those other areas better. The substance is real: it’s your suffering. We all suffer, in small and large ways, every day. And it causes all the other problems I mentioned. The salve is also real: it’s self-compassion. Let’s take a minute to explore suffering, and what would happen if you applied the salve of self-compassion. The All-Pervasive Effects of Suffering We don’t always think of ourselves as suffering, if we’re leading normal lives. Some examples: I could go on forever, because suffering takes many forms. What I Do When I Fail. Coming Back From a Setback. Plan For Failure: How to be Consistent. The Best 3 Ways to Deal With Failure (Plus 5 Painful Ones To Avoid)