Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. January 13, 2011 By Dan Savage relationship questions, I always ask my inner Dan Savage, and he never leads me astray! My boyfriend and I have had a wonderful relationship for six years. We have had "girlfriends" in the past who were involved with both of us simultaneously. 1. 2. 3.
Curious And Respectful Your outer Dan Savage won't lead you astray either, CAR, but he will smack you around: 1. 2. 3. So your outer Dan Savage is ordering you to refrain from inviting anyone else into your "wonderful" relationship until you get a handle on what's so un-fucking-wonderful about it for your thirds. Finally, CAR, if this woman is reeling from a rough few years and she can't handle more heartache right now and everyone you've ever messed around with has gotten hurt and you elect to "bring her into your relationship" despite my advice, then at least have the decency to stop pretending that you give a shit about the people you mess around with. Is gay. His Straight Big Brother in my late 20s. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. January 6, 2011 By Dan Savage woman.
I married the first man I ever had sex with, and we had a very vanilla sex life. He refused to try any play with dominant/submissive roles. My fantasies have always involved my submission. My current boyfriend is very open and experienced. With him, I've tried being held down during sex, light bondage, dirty talk, gentle choking, etc. I said that I'd like to explore it more if he's open to it (he is). Seeing as this is my second relationship and the first time I've been able to indulge my submissive desires, I might be worrying over nothing. Scared Of Submission Keep talking to your boyfriend, leotard, and you'll be just fine.
At first it struck me as odd that you would be troubled by a thoroughly sweet moment of soft-focus, fuzzy-bunnies dom/sub intimacy and not by the other, arguably more intense, SM games you've been playing with your boyfriend. In my mouth. GGG Sex Partner Give the man a blowjob, GSP, and let him come in your mouth. Ex-Pet Lesbian. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage.
December 16, 2010 By Dan Savage I am a 33-year-old married male who has a WAM—wet and messy—fetish. I'm into mud and clay. I have played with various substances in the bathroom by myself over the years. It always ends with me masturbating myself into oblivion, wishing there were someone with me so we could sensuously rub against each other, etc., until we both climax. I was always too shy to share this fetish with anyone until three years ago, when I told the woman I've now been married to for two years.
Needless to say, I was mortified and disappointed, and there was $50 worth of clay in the tub that I didn't want to go to waste. I still have my fantasies, but now I feel I have to hide them. 1. 2. 3. 4. Mis-Understood Dude I'm not endorsing the way you sprang a tub full of clay on your future wife—maybe she reacted badly because the bathroom was an unholy mess? Sounds to me like you really spooked the wife-to-be, MUD, both with that "Hey, here's a tub full of clay! " 1. 2. 3. 4. Share via. Geeks Versus Hipsters. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. December 2, 2010 By Dan Savage I'm a 21-year-old woman with bi-curious tendencies who's been in a committed relationship for four years.
He's sweet and kind. We share a lot of interests and get along very well. I'm open to the possibility of a threesome, but my boyfriend isn't. I've slowly come to the realization that I'm no longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend. Have My Cake You can have your current boyfriend, HMC, at the price of a lousy and uninspired sex life with a guy who doesn't give a shit about your pleasure—excuse me, a partner who hasn't created a lot of "macho drama" about the fact that you've never had an orgasm and isn't interested in helping you realize your fantasies—or you can find a new boyfriend and/or girlfriend and perhaps discover that orgasms are easier to come by when you're with someone who (1) turns you on, and (2) gives a shit about your pleasure, and (3) hasn't come to symbolize the death of sexual possibility.
This Question Again Breasts On Other Babes. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. November 25, 2010 By Dan Savage I'm a 23-year-old female college student whose life consists of going to class and going to the gym. I got hurt in my last relationship, so I've been staying away from dating for a while.
I'm attractive and I notice guys checking me out—making the gym a second home does have benefits! I've noticed this fine guy at the gym. Pathetic Shy Girl With A Crush We'll get to your issues in a moment, PSGWAC, but first... Don't you hate it when you're working on a column that's way overdue and you have a horrible headache and you grab the bottle of pills from your suitcase—a travel selection of Excedrins, Advils, and 222s—and you pour the pills into your hand and pick out a couple of 222s (they're the ones that don't have an "E" on them and aren't green) and you toss the 222s in your mouth while you click through a few e-mails and then nearly choke to death?
Don't you hate that? Okay, I had better get to it, huh? I'm gay but I'm just a normal guy. Straight Actor Share via. Sunday Sweets: Cartoon Cakes. Time for some heroes in a half shell! By Lena's Designer Cakes Cowabunga, dudes! Ok, raise your hand if you saw the movie in the theater. As a teenager. With your mother. What? Ok, then, how about a Scooby Snack? By crazebake cakes and cupcakes That is fondant-free, my friends! This next cake is to make up for our Gummi Bears earworm post the other week: Actually, that's a lie; I'm about to stick the song in your head again. Guuuummi Beeears! Here's a sweet detail shot, before all the figures were added: Sub'd by Emily, and made by Liz of Artisan Cake Company (who gets special props for having an amazing airship/steampunk themed website.
I know we weren't all raised on the great cartoons of the 80's and 90's, though, so here's one of them new-fangled shows, the Backyardigans: (Baker unknown. And from Invader Zim, here's an adorable GIR cake: Submitted by Sonya P., made by Paula French (with help from Liz of Artisan Cake Company) He loves tacos, methinks. By Alessia of Free Spirit Cake Co. Awesome! Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage.
November 18, 2010 By Dan Savage for 16 years and have three children. My marriage isn't the best, nor is the sex. I have strayed many times, and it's always been with women—I love women and I love having sex with women. However, for years I have had a fantasy about being with a transsexual. I recently paid to be with a T-girl escort. Walked On The Wild Side You're not gay, WOTWS, but you're not exactly straight either. There are other points along the gay/straight continuum, WOTWS, and anyone resourceful enough to track down a flipping gorgeous T-girl should be smart enough to figure out where he falls along the gay/straight continuum. I'm going to catch hell for this, but hey, I don't have three "Catcher" T-shirts for nothing: While you've got a touch of the bi—just a bit, mostly around your tonsils—you're not obligated to identify as bi.
An awful lot of "rounding up" and "rounding down" goes on when it comes to sexual identities. It all seems so black and white, doesn't it? Share via. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. November 11, 2010 By Dan Savage I spoke at Pacific University in Forest Grove, Oregon, last Thursday night. PU students submitted a lot more questions than I could possibly answer in the 90 minutes we had together, so I'm going to use this week's column to answer some of the ones I didn't get to. Here we go: What is the biggest barrier to the acceptance of gay marriage in the U.S.? There are two big barriers. First: all those loud, aggressive, and hypocritical right-wing "Christian" shitsticks who oppose marriage equality because of some supposedly anti-gay bullshit they read in the Bible while ignoring everything in the very same Bible that limits their own sexual freedoms—you know, all those motherfuckers who masturbate, fornicate, divorce, and remarry, and then turn around and oppose same-sex marriage because it "goes against their religion.
" Do you have advice about a breakup? Thinking about breaking up with someone? Just been broken up with? Yup. "You think being gay is a choice? Ottawa School Board Wants To Know If You’re Gay. November 5th, 2010 The Ottawa-Carleton District School Board is handing out surveys to each of its students in grades 7 to 12, asking—among other things—whether or not they’re gay.
The survey, which is not anonymous, specifically asks “How do you identify your sexual orientation?” The offered choices include: “Bisexual, Gay (male), Heterosexual (straight), Lesbian (female), Queer, Questioning, Transsexual, Two-spirited,” and “Prefer not to disclose.” The school board says that knowing the diversity of students will help them correlate it with other data and decide which support avenues and other programs are required.
Well, their heart’s in the right place, even if their brain is locked in a committee meeting room, sipping coffee below buzzing fluorescent lights, contemplating even more excruciatingly dull forms for other people to suffer through. Here’s my beef with the survey question. Sunday TREATS: Happy Halloween! No tricks today; just the sweetest treats to get you ready for all that Halloween candy later tonight. :) First, a tribute to a classic: Submitted by Gabrielle K. & made by Erin S It's the Great Pumpkin (Cake), Charlie Brown! A bewitching black cat: I love the spooky effect dry ice brings to this witch's cauldron: Check out these fun colors: Now for a slightly more Grim design... Look at that piping detail!
Frank here looks more like a spooky art bust than a cake: Amazing. And who knew a giant spider cake could be elegant? I like this fun modern design: It's so bright and cheerful! Speaking of bright, here's Jack Skellington's glowing little pooch, Zero: If you're wondering why I don't have more Tim Burton cakes featured today, it's only because I have enough to do a whole separate post. One more spooky sweet graveyard: And finally, I don't usually mention flavors here on Sunday Sweets, but Darla's Orange and Chocolate layer cake has me seriously tempted to break out the baking pans: Ooooh. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. October 28, 2010 By Dan Savage I love reading your column and never thought that I would have a reason to write to you, but to my pleasure and chagrin, I realized today that I could use your help. I am a 23-year-old woman. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and we have lived together for two.
We have a very healthy sex life, and the longer we are together, the better it gets! There is just one problem: He wants me to get really raunchy with his come when I am blowing him. Honestly, I think the thought of come bothers me. Frozen Creampie According to Urban Dictionary—the final authority on all sex definitions these days—an "oral creampie" isn't anywhere near as involved a process as your boyfriend makes it out to be.
You gotta love how the alpha male—no blowjobs for you beta males—"peaks to orgasm" all by himself. Anyway, FC, it looks like you're doing the oral creampie already: You're blowing him; you're swallowing. A couple of thoughts... And he does enjoy yours, right? Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. October 21, 2010 By Dan Savage have had an open marriage for the last two years. Up until five months ago, it was working beautifully. At that point, however, I was sexually assaulted by a former partner. I don't think this is completely unheard of for someone who was relatively recently assaulted, and I am considering therapy to help me work through it. This is breaking my husband's heart.
I feel like I've already lost my former partner (fucked-up though that may seem) and my husband. Potentially Traumatized Sexual Deviant I'm sorry that you were sexually assaulted—that's awful, PTSD, and I hope you went to the police and I hope you're pressing charges. Just because you've been victimized doesn't mean you operate in an alternate moral universe where you're not obligated to take other people's feelings into consideration—particularly the feelings of people you profess to love and happen to be married to.
To sum up, PTSD: . How common is this? Two Much Fun Worthless Piece Of Shit Share via. Sunday Sweets: Farmed Out. [singing] Old McDonald had a farm... Submitted by Alison L., made by Blue Cupcake E-i-e-i-o! And on this farm he had some animals: Submitted Stacey L., made by her friend Beth This shows that your cake doesn't have to be big, sculpted, or multi-tiered to be awesome. With a "baa baa" here: By the always-amazing Bakerella They're cake balls. And a "cluck cluck" there: Sub'd by Nancy D., made by Carolyn MustopaIt's a wedding cake! Here a "neigh:" Made by Wrecks reader Joanne P. There an "apple:" Made by Heidi MillerIt was inspired by the song "Big Yellow Taxi. " Everywhere a "barrel of ducks wearing cowboy hats with a bar of soap:" Sub'd by Brenda, made by Cakes UnleashedBefore you ask, the "water" is pulled sugar covered with piping gel.
Old McDonald... Made by Chocolate Pi Oops... sorry. Well, finally, here's a bonus Sweet for all you Farmville addicts enthusiasts: By Flores & Aromas I'm digging those carrots. Get it? Get it? Have a Sweet to nominate? Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. October 14, 2010 By Dan Savage with you about your It Gets Better campaign. I was saddened and frustrated with your comments regarding people of faith and their perpetuation of bullying. As someone who loves the Lord and does not support gay marriage, I can honestly say I was heartbroken to hear about the young man who took his own life. If your message is that we should not judge people based on their sexual preference, how do you justify judging entire groups of people for any other reason (including their faith)?
There is no part of me that took any pleasure in what happened to that young man. To that end, to imply that I would somehow encourage my children to mock, hurt, or intimidate another person for any reason is completely unfounded and offensive. Please consider your viewpoint, and please be more careful with your words in the future. I'm sorry your feelings were hurt by my comments. No, wait. A question: Do you "support" atheist marriage? Real gay and lesbian . Bitchy Girlfriend. Making Phoney Claims. Savage Love by Dan Savage - Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage. September 9, 2010 By Dan Savage A few nights ago , I got drunk and knocked on my roommate's door and confessed my attraction to him while he was lying in bed in nothing more than his skivvies. And then I asked him if I could sleep in his room because our other roommate—whose bedroom is directly above mine—was having sex so loudly that I couldn't sleep.
Which was true, but it clearly didn't make the bed of the roommate I was drunkenly confessing to the appropriate alternative. I feel pathetic and embarrassed for having thrown myself at my roommate and completely freaked out that I got wasted enough to do something I have daydreamed about but wouldn't do sober. I am biologically female, and if the situation were reversed, I would commit a huge double standard because I would back any woman who did not feel safe continuing to live with a dude who did what I did. Help. Am I A Sexual Predator? Calm the fuck down—and no more women's studies classes for you, okay?
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