Learning Theorists. How to be a friend of yourself. Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.Eleanor Roosevelt We often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. That is the crucial first step if we are to have good relationships with others.
How can we have good relationships with others if we don’t even have good relationship with ourselves? The problem might be worse than we expect. Your pastMaybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. Is there anything that resonate with you? Fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situation. 1.
You may have made those mistakes in the past, but is there anything you can do about them? 2. There are some things you cannot change, such as your background and your past. 3. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. 4. 5. You are unique. 6. You don’t like other people lying to you, right? 10 reasons you will never be successful. 7 stupid thinking errors you probably make. The brain isn’t a flawless piece of machinery. Although it is powerful and comes in an easy to carry container, it has it’s weaknesses. A field in psychology which studies these errors, known as biases. Although you can’t upgrade your mental hardware, noticing these biases can clue you into possible mistakes.How Bias Hurts You If you were in a canoe, you’d probably want to know about any holes in the boat before you start paddling.
Simply noticing these holes isn’t enough; a canoe will fill with water whether you are aware of a hole or not. Biases hurt you in a number of areas: Decision making. Here are some common thinking errors:1) Confirmation Bias The confirmation bias is a tendency to seek information to prove, rather than disprove our theories. Consider a study conducted by Peter Cathcart Wason.
From this starting point, most participants picked specific rules such as “goes up by 2“ or “1x, 2x, 3x.” This is the tendency to see patterns where none actually exist. Motivation. If you want to make things happen the ability to motivate yourself and others is a crucial skill. At work, home, and everywhere in between, people use motivation to get results. Motivation requires a delicate balance of communication, structure, and incentives. These 21 tactics will help you maximize motivation in yourself and others. 1. Consequences – Never use threats. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. Master these key points and you’ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work. Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are? Related Articles: How To Be Happy At Work:Employee Motivation How To Increase Your Will Power. How to understand people. My headline might sound overreaching. Clearly a rule can’t define something as complex as human behavior.
But despite this, I’ve found most people tend to make the same mistakes. These mistakes are frequent enough that they create conflicts later. Remembering these seven rules will help you avoid these mistakes. People Skills is About Being Nice, Friendly and Interesting, Duh! Most the books I’ve read on dealing with people either make two claims: Incredibly obvious stuff that most sensible people understand; even if they haven’t always mastered it.
Between these two I’ve found there seems to be a gap of information that is can be applied generally, but isn’t always obvious. The Seven Here are the seven rules I’m talking about: Rule One: Never blame malice for what can easily be explained by conceit. People don’t care about you. In this example, 60% of thoughts are self-directed. Only 10% in this model is time spent in empathy. What does this mean? Embarrassment doesn’t make a lot of sense. How to keep your life organized. By Leo Babauta It’s a rare person among us who doesn’t feel the need to get more organized. I consider myself fairly organized, for example, but there are times when I get a little lax about my organizational rules, and there’s always room for improvement. And if you’re already organized (read: you’re an organizational freak), chances are, you like to read about others’ organizational systems.
As such, there should be something for everyone on this list. A couple of weeks ago, I asked all of you for your best organizational tips and tools. I must emphasize: these are not my tips, but yours, and when you see the word “I” it refers to the reader writing the tip, not me. 3 Most Important Tasks. How to be more focused. 50 Things You Need to Know by 50. List of personal productivity books. For Giveaway #4, I elected to give away five books. Here are the winners of these books. Ted L. won The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom by Suze Orman Seth from Houston, TX won Yes, You Can Get A Financial Life by Ben Stein and Phil DeMuthPT won Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert KiyosakiISPF won A Random Walk Down Wall Street by Burton Malkiel J.H. Wilkerson won America’s Cheapest Family by Steve and Annette Economides Because some people asked, there were 148 entries in the drawing, and America’s Cheapest Family was the most requested book with exactly 60 requests.
The next most popular was A Random Walk Down Wall Street and the least popular was Rich Dad, Poor Dad. In addition, I also gave away a copy of The 4-Hour Workweek which was won by Blaine Moore. Congratulations to all the winners. What Personal Productivity Books Were Submitted? In the giveaway for The 4-Hour Workweek, I asked people to email me a personal productivity or personal development book that they wanted to have me review. How to instantly improve your life. The 8 principles of having fun. SlowLeadership.com came across an interesting site defining the 8 principles of fun, at eightprinciples.com.
It’s a site that is so in love with a few simple rules to enjoy life more, that they’re selling screensavers and things promoting them. However, SL did something nice and gave a little run down of the 8 rules, while adding an important one of their own. 1. Stop hiding who you really are.2. When do people perform best at any task, from sport to nuclear physics? The Eight Principles Movie – [8Principles] Are you having fun yet?